Am I just being paranoid or is something wrong?

[jta]

There were no plans to marry. We had discussed it a couple of times, and she dropped pretty strong hints that was what she wanted. But I said I wouldn't propose when we're chatting online, but ask her in person.

ahhh, i know now the situation why that lady acts like that...she is in dilemma of choosing u and going to Japan..because u are not sure of marrying her and she is due to go this february so possibly she will choose to go there unless u will have a strong feeling to convince her that u have the intention to marry and u want to propose it personally. I experienced this situation, I have all the documents ready and job offer in Hongkong and i told my bf ( my husband now) about it, and he said that don't go wait for me, and don't worry about financial thing i will send u as to your maintenance monthly. so i turned down the job offer and wait for him but he didnt come but decide to let me apply for visitor's visa and I did visit him..

[Sim11UK]

I think if you want to carry on pursuing this, then you need to get out there pronto.