All depends on where and with whom your talking to,I would say most members on this forum and give advice are married or planing on getting married and happy with who they have and at no time would think of shearing there loved ones with somebody else.As for a slap in the face your right it is,God knows how most will deal with it if it happens with the women they asked to marry them and was in love with.How do you deal with such a situation in a relationship,Every body different some it could work out,for how long don't now others if you really truly love the person wouldn't shear there loved ones and tell them,only you can decide.