Hi Al,
I think that if you think you could get a firm offer of employment, from a local authority for instance and an a letter from your parents about your initial housing arrangements after arrival in the UK, then I think it might at least be worth sending an email to ManilaVisaEnquiries.Manila@fco.gov.uk asking what the likelihood of them issuing a visa for your wife would be if both of those things (job & accommodation) were already in place.
The only other option as others have already said, is to come back to UK alone and take it from there.
Iain.
