Advice please!

[Jay&Zobel]

I'm not sure I would go out there, on the strength of a few letters.
However, some have said on here before, just meet someone when you go out there.

I think it is better, to establish a relationship to start with, by using cams.

Of course these are only my opinions & everyone is different, so good luck! to you.

with me & jay... we were penpals for 6 years and got married on the 7th year...

with in those 6 yrs of correspondence:
we have exchange long hand written letters (the way i see it, it is more romantic to receiving handwritten ones than emails/chatting - becuase you get excited when you see Mr Post Man delivering a letter - the agony of waiting/ the thrills etc... lol)
cards made by us
exchange pictures (real ones- not online etc...)

but yeah, still depends with other people whichever you are comfortable doing...

[the_ONE]

It seems to me that people hoping to meet a long term partner from overseas have different strategies about how to do this succesfully. Some prefer to develop online 'relationships' on an exclusive basis before meeting for real as it were, others it seems prefer to meet potential partners at a much earlier stage after only a small amount of correspondence while still keeping some options open since they are not totally confident in their long-term compatibility with one individual after knowing a person for only a short-time. Whilst instinctivlely, most go for the former approach, I believe there are pros and cons to each of these. I agree, that telling a lady you are keeping your options open as it were is a bit foolish, but I think some of the responses here are ridiculous. Telling this guy to get a life is a bit rich when you obviously spent half an hour typing out some sarcastic diatribe nonsense against one particular post which didn't even mention half the things you were making assumptions about anyway. And I though sarcasm was the lowest form of wit. Well not on this forum, if you're the moderator anyway. Seriously, give out reasonable advise where it's due, or question the poster to elaborate on any details of their situation which you are unsure about, but please cut out the holier than thou attitudes and contemptuous sarcasm as it's really not called for.

[Sim11UK]

with me & jay... we were penpals for 6 years and got married on the 7th year...

with in those 6 yrs of correspondence:
we have exchange long hand written letters (the way i see it, it is more romantic to receiving handwritten ones than emails/chatting - becuase you get excited when you see Mr Post Man delivering a letter - the agony of waiting/ the thrills etc... lol)
cards made by us
exchange pictures (real ones- not online etc...)

but yeah, still depends with other people whichever you are comfortable doing...

Absolutely I agree with you, but he's writing to several people & only for a short time.
Somebody else could be writing the letters, how do you know? I hope I'm proved wrong.
In all honesty, the only way you can find out if you are a good match, is by meeting in person.

[joebloggs]

we have exchange long hand written letters (the way i see it, it is more romantic to receiving handwritten ones than emails/chatting - becuase you get excited when you see Mr Post Man delivering a letter - the agony of waiting/ the thrills etc... lol)

i'll say, i waited near 6 months for a letter from the misses, only for it to be returned back to her, nice of the PO to put on it, address unknown, as my misses missed one digit off the house number, but the rest of the address and post code was correct and it had my surname on it, and only 2 people in the uk have the same surname as me, me and my brother

to PO, but yes letters are good evidence , we had letters dating back years

[Jay&Zobel]

to PO, but yes letters are good evidence , we had letters dating back years

yeah, and kids will be able to see how parents love grew... lol (just remembered reading my parents' love letters to each other when they were young lovers hehe) mushy but hey!