Advice please!

[joebloggs]

i don't see much wrong with chatting and writing to more than one woman as a friend, as long as your not leading them on, why not go and meet a few,, see who you do and dont get on with, thats what most people do in the real world, you dont goto a pub or club and marry the first gal you meet, maybe a few lucky ones do

[somebody]

i don't see much wrong with chatting and writing to more than one woman as a friend, as long as your not leading them on, why not go and meet a few,, see who you do and dont get on with, thats what most people do in the real world, you dont goto a pub or club and marry the first gal you meet, maybe a few lucky ones do

But do you chat up four or five women at a time? Some ladies and situations thats ok. But both need to understand the situation, if one of the party belive that its an exclusive relationship the other should respect that or pipe up and expect for the relationship to change.

My Wife is a modern young women but she would never dreamt of chating to more than one bloke at a time even if its fairly innocent. When we were chatting even after a short time she told me she hoped im not seeing ladies and that she was not. I guess it just depends on the people involved.

But you need to be upfront and treat all concerned with respect

[joebloggs]

But do you chat up four or five women at a time? Some ladies and situations thats ok. But both need to understand the situation, if one of the party belive that its an exclusive relationship the other should respect that or pipe up and expect for the relationship to change.

My Wife is a modern young women but she would never dreamt of chating to more than one bloke at a time even if its fairly innocent. When we were chatting even after a short time she told me she hoped im not seeing ladies and that she was not. I guess it just depends on the people involved.

But you need to be upfront and treat all concerned with respect

i use to chat to 100s of people thru icq over many years, only a few i considered friends, nothing more than friends, like the poster, i never actually meet any of them, so the only relationship was friendship, has the poster mentioned marriage or getting engaged to any of them??

over time, i made 2 really good friends my misses and a Chinese gal i had known b4 the misses, they both knew about each other, but that's because we were just friends.. even after me and the misses were married, i still chatted to her, as a good friend. i would be still now if i had not lost contact with her

but your right he needs to treat them with respect

[somebody]

i use to chat to 100s of people thru icq over many years, only a few i considered friends, nothing more than friends, like the poster, i never actually meet any of them, so the only relationship was friendship, has the poster mentioned marriage or getting engaged to any of them??

over time, i made 2 really good friends my misses and a Chinese gal i had known b4 the misses, they both knew about each other, but that's because we were just friends.. even after me and the misses were married, i still chatted to her, as a good friend. i would be still now if i had not lost contact with her

but your right he needs to treat them with respect

Of course we all chat to people either in passing or as friends but was just trying to get across how we have to always bear in mind we treat people in the e world or postal world as would those in the real world.

As it has shown some found peters words harsh just as some people you contact may find it harsh if suddenly they read or hear certain things from you. Which to you may not seem important.

Phill ladies do tend from those I have met and read about to be romantic, very loyal and what we might call old world. Even young girls in our family in phil will talk about the boys they go out as if they are eventual going to marry them not as a casual fling. This is not a ultra religous or prim and proper family by any means.

I know many of the Wifes friends would at least not publicly mention they were chating to multiple men and planing to meet them. Maybe women in other parts of phill are different?

[the_ONE]

Some more sensible responses here now.

Of course when looking for a partner in cyberspace I think everyone plays the field before focussing on one relationship which hopefully becomes a real realtionship. I think the longer you correspond with someone, the greater the assumption that it is an exclusive realtionship from both parties, even if neither of you explicitly mention it as such.

It is true, many ladies from overseas will have different perceptions of such a relationship than you may expect here, so you need to be careful that you are not unintentionally leading people on, but I don' think there are any 'rules' on how to create a successful relationship, I think you have to decide what will work best for you.

ps. Where's fatboy slim, has he gone into hiding?