Devastated - Need advice

[LEAHnew]

so there is some hope then sim, looks like it wasn't the obvious reason of a b/f but family pressure, when my mother in law found out her daughter was getting serious with a whitey a got a letter from her mom politely warning me to leave her alone....

it's easy for others to say walk away, unless you've been in that situation yourself, then it's not so easy, and if you can walk away, then she probably didn't mean as much to you as you thought.

that's why i always say keep asking until she breaks if you have to, find the real reason, might not be the reason what you and others think it was or the reason she originally told you..

good luck, and if she does mean so much to you, don't give up, no matter what problems get in your way, I didn't , and after been married more than 5yrs, or 6yrs , we've got little joe, a grand daughter and married life is better than ever

sounds familiar

I agree to Joe goodluck Sim I hope it will sorted out soon

[joebloggs]

sounds familiar

I agree to Joe goodluck Sim I hope it will sorted out soon

i still have the letter somewhere , basically it said that she didn't want her daughter to get hurt in anyway. i wrote her a letter back saying i wasn't a scouser

[LEAHnew]

i still have the letter somewhere , basically it said that she didn't want her daughter to get hurt in anyway. i wrote her a letter back saying i wasn't a scouser

He's a brummie yummy

cheers Joe

[KeithD]

Why not go out there now and marry her? That'll bugger up the family plans.....you can then have a churh blessing when you're here.

[joebloggs]

Why not go out there now and marry her? That'll bugger up the family plans.....you can then have a churh blessing when you're here.

a shotgun wedding , just get a shotgun in case her family turn up


that would mess their plans up

[Mrs.JMajor]

awww my sympathy for you Sim, promise you'll stick on the forum so what do you want a nurse or a teacher ? i have here ,move on meet nice people again

[Sim11UK]

awww my sympathy for you Sim, promise you'll stick on the forum so what do you want a nurse or a teacher ? i have here ,move on meet nice people again

Hi there friend

Yes I'll stay on the forum, it's addictive.
Just need to sort myself out a bit.

I have a love affair with the Philippines.

Thanks, you take care there.

[joebloggs]

when was you suppose to be going to the phils, next month ?

go and see her, and say good bye to her, face to face and not thru a call or text..

its not over til the fat lady sings

[Sim11UK]

when was you suppose to be going to the phils, next month ?

go and see her, and say good bye to her, face to face and not thru a call or text..

its not over til the fat lady sings

Sunday 8th of march was the plan. She leaves for the province tomorrow.

[KeithD]

Sunday 8th of march was the plan. She leaves for the province tomorrow.

You still going then?

You could visit a Phil internet cafe....pretend to be a woman.....and scam a white guy

[joebloggs]

Sunday 8th of march was the plan. She leaves for the province tomorrow.

and why is she going to the province ? is this a rush wedding b4 you can get there ?

you are/was engaged to her ?, you should tell her at least she should wait til you can see her next month, she owes you this at least...

i don't understand how she can go thru with an arranged marriage not when she loves someone else

[kimmi]

sorry to hear it ended like that Sim..but at least she's been honest to u and had a heart to heart talk.

Goodluck and hope u find the right girl for u..

[Sim11UK]

sorry to hear it ended like that Sim..but at least she's been honest to u and had a heart to heart talk.

Goodluck and hope u find the right girl for u..

Thanks Kimmi, that's very kind of you.

[gracia143]

It's sad, it's like watching 'Phantom of the Opera' again whilst reading your story Sim, I feel very sad.

Looking back when I first started chatting online with my husband my younger brother got very upset with me. When the day came to collect Trev at the airport he was very, very anxious and fidgety. Parents and other members of the family were full of questions and worries as well. Am I gonna be happy? Am I gonna be alright? To say I have been married once and already a grown woman. Typical Filipinos.

But reading your posts I gathered that you are a strong person and the response were all very heartwarming. Like the rest of the members here I wish you the very best and hoping that one day you will get over the pain and be able to move on. God bless!

[cheesewiz]

I feel sad now, first day in the forum reading this kind of story. Anyway, life is not fair all the time but I am sure you'll find the woman that you will spend the rest of your life and your offspring together. That's why I am still single now even though I have a few friends here in the UK and Phils trying to pair me with their friends, bros and cousins but I refused bec I am not in favour in LDR (I know it works for many but not for me). If I don't have a BF now I might introduce my self to you hahaha fortunately I have one already and seems were on the right track so far and getting to know each other everyday and he is so keen to see Phils and meet my family.

Again, sorry for your very sad love story but atleast there's some memories that both of you enjoyed together. Phils is compose of 7,100 islands it means the probalities of finding one is not a problem. All the best

[Jay&Zobel]

That's why I am still single now even though I have a few friends here in the UK and Phils trying to pair me with their friends, bros and cousins but I refused bec I am not in favour in LDR (I know it works for many but not for me). If I don't have a BF now I might introduce my self to you hahaha fortunately I have one already and seems were on the right track so far and getting to know each other everyday and he is so keen to see Phils and meet my family.

. All the best

aha! potential candidate here hehehe...

[Sim11UK]

Hi everyone

Thanks again, just mulling a few things over at the moment.

Have a great day

[LEAHnew]

Hi everyone

Thanks again, just mulling a few things over at the moment.

Have a great day

Nice to hear from you Sim..To you as well Have a great day coz I had already
Goodnight here from Phil

[aposhark]

Hi everyone

Thanks again, just mulling a few things over at the moment.

Have a great day

So Sim11UK,

What decision have you come to after mulling things over?

I am with Joe on this one.

Are you going to visit her and win her love or call it a day?

[Sim11UK]

So Sim11UK,

What decision have you come to after mulling things over?

I am with Joe on this one.

Are you going to visit her and win her love or call it a day?

Bear with me, it's not as straight forward as it seems?

[pinky]

hi sim, im a newbie here...and ur story is like a novel...i do understand how u feel until this time...iv been reading the threads and waiting for ur next move...my situation was a bit similar to what is happening between u and ur ex(?) gf...but the difference is I waited for 5 years for him to marry me and then one day..he told me..he lost that loving feeling for me. I got engaged there in UK...Thai Square Restaurant...almost a year ago..then few months after that he dropped me...i was asking him the real reason/s but he always told me that one day he woke up and realized that he lost that feeling for me...quite strange huh? And what I did, I packed all my stuffs and went back to the Phils. as I was so devastated by what happened....Until now, I can't figure out what went wrong along the way but I do believe whatever is happening is all God'swill for me and for u. They say, there is always light after the tunnel...

Goodluck to u and enjoy life to the fullest!!!!!

[Frances]

hi Sim11uk!

All the best for the future.

Phillip and Frances

[Sim11UK]

hi Sim11uk!

All the best for the future.

Phillip and Frances

Thank you.

[Pepe n Pilar]

HI Sim11UK, i've been reading your post and it started 3 wks ago so sad to know the turn up of the events from then on. So many views from some members here and same with the rest i am hoping you could find the right girl for you.

I was surprised to know she at aged 33, still was pressured by her family. If she is deeply in love with you she can make her own decisions as she is of the right age already. I just suspect she has a bf or pregnant? (just my views).
Best of luck and God Bless. Happy searching ..

[pacificelectric]

Long distance relations can be very difficult sometimes. Yesterday my GF sent me a message telling me "if you find someone else just tell me".... I was stunned and asked what happened. She then explained that once before she had been in a LDR and the man with whom she had fallen in love in fact had a girl with him and of course she was hurt. The balance between hurrying too much and being too slow is not always easy to find, but what matters is that both partners find the adequate pace..

[Sim11UK]

Thanks again everyone.

Well, I've just booked my flight for this coming sunday 8th march.
She has come back to the City & is not talking to her family at the moment?

I don't want to go into details, but persistance on my part & her own common sense, seems to have paid off.

Anyway, it's time to sort things out...I have to say, I feel a little numb about it at the moment?

[DaveUK]

Thanks again everyone.

Well, I've just booked my flight for this coming sunday 8th march.
She has come back to the City & is not talking to her family at the moment?

I don't want to go into details, but persistance on my part & her own common sense, seems to have paid off.

Anyway, it's time to sort things out...I have to say, I feel a little numb about it at the moment?

Nice one fella. Hope things work out!

[aposhark]

Thanks again everyone.

Well, I've just booked my flight for this coming sunday 8th march.
She has come back to the City & is not talking to her family at the moment?

I don't want to go into details, but persistance on my part & her own common sense, seems to have paid off.

Anyway, it's time to sort things out...I have to say, I feel a little numb about it at the moment?

That's the way Sim
I was wondering when you would make a move.
Face to face is the only way, success in love or closure...
Best of luck and don't forget that she may want proper commitment from you.
That's what girls do you know

[paulgee]

Good luck Sim11UK. I have recently returned from Phil. after getting married there, and was saddened by the problems you are having. I wish you all the very best and think you are doing the right thing by flying out there to personally confront the situation.

Best wishes from Shirley and I (to you both), I hope you do find out there the happiness we both found and so many others in this Forum have. May love triumph for you both.

Paul

[Sim11UK]

I was wondering when you would make a move.

Thanks Aposhark, the trouble was I had no contact from her, except for a couple of text messages & I would never have been able to find the family home, as it's quite remote.

Good luck Sim11UK. I have recently returned from Phil. after getting married there, and was saddened by the problems you are having. I wish you all the very best and think you are doing the right thing by flying out there to personally confront the situation.

Best wishes from Shirley and I (to you both), I hope you do find out there the happiness we both found and so many others in this Forum have. May love triumph for you both.

Paul

Thanks Paul, congratulations to you both. I'm glad things have gone well for you. I wish you much happiness for the future.

Simon