Devastated - Need advice

[Mrs.JMajor]

may be she is pregnant

thread running page 4 so far ,ahhh members sympathy ,you can count on,

[PeterB]

if i was him, i would go and see her asap, face to face and find out the truth, and then he can move on..

Me too!

if the only problem is her family then to them..

... and if the family are still the winners, you're in the right place to look for another one!

But I still suspect that the family are not convinced about your true intentions.

[aromulus]

Me too!
But I still suspect that the family are not convinced about your true intentions.

Yep, this maybe the case.....

The best way to prove them that you mean business is to turn up un-announced at the door....

[joebloggs]

wohhhhhahhhhhh.....

A Jeremy Clarkson in the making...........

i'm gonna complain about that to the beeb, bit of luck he'll get the boot

[Sim11UK]

Hi everyone

Thanks again, just mulling a few things over at the moment.

Have a great day

[LEAHnew]

Hi everyone

Thanks again, just mulling a few things over at the moment.

Have a great day

Nice to hear from you Sim..To you as well Have a great day coz I had already
Goodnight here from Phil

[Frances]

hi Sim11uk!

All the best for the future.

Phillip and Frances

[Sim11UK]

hi Sim11uk!

All the best for the future.

Phillip and Frances

Thank you.

[aposhark]

Hi everyone

Thanks again, just mulling a few things over at the moment.

Have a great day

So Sim11UK,

What decision have you come to after mulling things over?

I am with Joe on this one.

Are you going to visit her and win her love or call it a day?

[Sim11UK]

So Sim11UK,

What decision have you come to after mulling things over?

I am with Joe on this one.

Are you going to visit her and win her love or call it a day?

Bear with me, it's not as straight forward as it seems?

[acs]

oh im sad on the turn of events for you Simuk11. Im from Cagayan de oro also and im here in the uk now to be with my husband. Pressures must have been in her shoulders to pleased her family if what she told you is the truth. Sometimes pressure from the people surrounding her can crumble her confidence and love for you especially being bombarded in every way they can. It takes really a strong determination for a woman not to be swayed by pressures surrounding her. They must have been thinking your not going to honor your promise to marry her thats why they let this other guy enter the picture ( Just a thought) . Or, else, he is her bf or worst husband in the side, and that she doesnt want to go further with you so that you wont spend much more than what you have done already..just an opinion
I hope and pray things will work out for the best.

[Sim11UK]

Thanks acs for your kind words.

[Pepe n Pilar]

HI Sim11UK, i've been reading your post and it started 3 wks ago so sad to know the turn up of the events from then on. So many views from some members here and same with the rest i am hoping you could find the right girl for you.

I was surprised to know she at aged 33, still was pressured by her family. If she is deeply in love with you she can make her own decisions as she is of the right age already. I just suspect she has a bf or pregnant? (just my views).
Best of luck and God Bless. Happy searching ..

[pinky]

hi sim, im a newbie here...and ur story is like a novel...i do understand how u feel until this time...iv been reading the threads and waiting for ur next move...my situation was a bit similar to what is happening between u and ur ex(?) gf...but the difference is I waited for 5 years for him to marry me and then one day..he told me..he lost that loving feeling for me. I got engaged there in UK...Thai Square Restaurant...almost a year ago..then few months after that he dropped me...i was asking him the real reason/s but he always told me that one day he woke up and realized that he lost that feeling for me...quite strange huh? And what I did, I packed all my stuffs and went back to the Phils. as I was so devastated by what happened....Until now, I can't figure out what went wrong along the way but I do believe whatever is happening is all God'swill for me and for u. They say, there is always light after the tunnel...

Goodluck to u and enjoy life to the fullest!!!!!

[pacificelectric]

Long distance relations can be very difficult sometimes. Yesterday my GF sent me a message telling me "if you find someone else just tell me".... I was stunned and asked what happened. She then explained that once before she had been in a LDR and the man with whom she had fallen in love in fact had a girl with him and of course she was hurt. The balance between hurrying too much and being too slow is not always easy to find, but what matters is that both partners find the adequate pace..

[Sim11UK]

Thanks again everyone.

Well, I've just booked my flight for this coming sunday 8th march.
She has come back to the City & is not talking to her family at the moment?

I don't want to go into details, but persistance on my part & her own common sense, seems to have paid off.

Anyway, it's time to sort things out...I have to say, I feel a little numb about it at the moment?

[nids123]

hi sim i been reading ur post always and waiting for a good result of ur love story i hope that u will be happy soon and she can fight for ur love over her parents.goodluck

[DaveUK]

Thanks again everyone.

Well, I've just booked my flight for this coming sunday 8th march.
She has come back to the City & is not talking to her family at the moment?

I don't want to go into details, but persistance on my part & her own common sense, seems to have paid off.

Anyway, it's time to sort things out...I have to say, I feel a little numb about it at the moment?

Nice one fella. Hope things work out!

[tiN]

Goodluck to you sim, hope it goes well...

[Florge]

Hi Sim,

It is sad to know how all things turned out. My Simon (my bf) also went through the same pressure but maybe I am strong-willed and told my family to shush and let me be happy with my choice. And they did support me because they know that my Simon makes me happy. Everything happens for a reason and maybe it's because you're not meant to be together... and that you deserve a woman who'll stand by you no matter what.. who loves you so much that she's willing to take a bullet for you ... okay, that's morbid but you know what I mean... hehehe..

Anyway, if you're ready to love again, the girls here would be very willing to help. Good luck to you and I wish you all the best.

Florge

[Sim11UK]

hi sim i been reading ur post always and waiting for a good result of ur love story i hope that u will be happy soon and she can fight for ur love over her parents.goodluck

Thanks nids123...Time will tell.

Nice one fella. Hope things work out!

Thanks, I hope so too.

Goodluck to you sim, hope it goes well...

Thank you tiN

Hi Sim,

It is sad to know how all things turned out. My Simon (my bf) also went through the same pressure but maybe I am strong-willed and told my family to shush and let me be happy with my choice. And they did support me because they know that my Simon makes me happy. Everything happens for a reason and maybe it's because you're not meant to be together... and that you deserve a woman who'll stand by you no matter what.. who loves you so much that she's willing to take a bullet for you ... okay, that's morbid but you know what I mean... hehehe..

Anyway, if you're ready to love again, the girls here would be very willing to help. Good luck to you and I wish you all the best.

Florge

Well things maybe ok?...We'll just have to see.

[misscarie]

Goodluck on ur trip Sim , i will pray for the good outcomes.

Hope everything will be OK.

[Sim11UK]

Goodluck on ur trip Sim , i will pray for the good outcomes.

Hope everything will be OK.

Thanks misscarie

[aposhark]

Thanks again everyone.

Well, I've just booked my flight for this coming sunday 8th march.
She has come back to the City & is not talking to her family at the moment?

I don't want to go into details, but persistance on my part & her own common sense, seems to have paid off.

Anyway, it's time to sort things out...I have to say, I feel a little numb about it at the moment?

That's the way Sim
I was wondering when you would make a move.
Face to face is the only way, success in love or closure...
Best of luck and don't forget that she may want proper commitment from you.
That's what girls do you know

[paulgee]

Good luck Sim11UK. I have recently returned from Phil. after getting married there, and was saddened by the problems you are having. I wish you all the very best and think you are doing the right thing by flying out there to personally confront the situation.

Best wishes from Shirley and I (to you both), I hope you do find out there the happiness we both found and so many others in this Forum have. May love triumph for you both.

Paul

[Sim11UK]

I was wondering when you would make a move.

Thanks Aposhark, the trouble was I had no contact from her, except for a couple of text messages & I would never have been able to find the family home, as it's quite remote.

Good luck Sim11UK. I have recently returned from Phil. after getting married there, and was saddened by the problems you are having. I wish you all the very best and think you are doing the right thing by flying out there to personally confront the situation.

Best wishes from Shirley and I (to you both), I hope you do find out there the happiness we both found and so many others in this Forum have. May love triumph for you both.

Paul

Thanks Paul, congratulations to you both. I'm glad things have gone well for you. I wish you much happiness for the future.

Simon

[Mrs.JMajor]

Goodluck on ur trip Sim , i will pray for the good outcomes.

Hope everything will be OK.

hi freind,you mean your going to phil ?

[Sim11UK]

hi freind,you mean your going to phil ?

Hiya friend
Yep! You're over here, now I'm going over there.

[Piamed]

Wishing you all the best mate. Hopefully things will be a lot clearer when you're there.

[Florge]

[QUOTE=Sim11UK;119015]Thanks Aposhark, the trouble was I had no contact from her, except for a couple of text messages & I would never have been able to find the family home, as it's quite remote.

So you mean, you're going there on your own.. and find their house on your own? Isn't she going to pick you up at the airport when you arrive?