Devastated - Need advice

[Sim11UK]

Wishing you all the best mate. Hopefully things will be a lot clearer when you're there.

Thanks Piamed, I just need to get there ASAP. You wouldn't believe me, if I told you.

[QUOTE=Florge;119212]

Thanks Aposhark, the trouble was I had no contact from her, except for a couple of text messages & I would never have been able to find the family home, as it's quite remote.

So you mean, you're going there on your own.. and find their house on your own? Isn't she going to pick you up at the airport when you arrive?

Hi Florge, she lives in the city & that's where she is now...Her parents live in the province, that's where she was called back to.
& yes, she will meet me at the airport, all being well.

This whole experience, has been an eyeopener....believe me.

[PeterB]

Well done Sim, I'm convinced that this is the right thing to do. I wish you both all the best.

She's in CDO? If you happen to travel down Davao direction, it would be good to meet you both.

[Ann07]

Goodluck to you Sim Keep us posted

[Sim11UK]

Well done Sim, I'm convinced that this is the right thing to do. I wish you both all the best.

She's in CDO? If you happen to travel down Davao direction, it would be good to meet you both.

Thanks PeterB. Yes she's in CDO...You were right about the family agreements.
Congratulations to you both...It would be great to see you & the new arrival.

Goodluck to you Sim Keep us posted

Hi Ann thank you, I will keep you posted...How are you?

[Ann07]

Im good now thank you

[nids123]

hin sim its nice to hear that something willhappen soon for ur love story wish u goodluck and happyness.

[aricon]

hi ive just come back from cagayan deoro and i met my fiaces family and family is so inportant to them i realy dont think if the family new he had attacked her they would except him into there family i think there is more to it but thats only my opinion but i no my fiance would put me before her family if she truly wants to be with you she will be. think you need to talk to her face to face .good luck.

[Sim11UK]

hin sim its nice to hear that something willhappen soon for ur love story wish u goodluck and happyness.

Thank you...I hope it's all good.

but i no my fiance would put me before her family

That's what I thought too. My advice...don't take anything for granted.
Well it seems in the end, she has done just that, but not without a lot of heartache in between.

There maybe a lot more to come, particularly for her as she has gone against her family. It could build up as resentment to me?

[joebloggs]

You wouldn't believe me, if I told you.

This whole experience, has been an eyeopener....believe me.

yes i would believe you

best of luck and don't quit, your chances b4 seemed a million to 1, and now you have a chance to of being a 1 in a million couple

[Sim11UK]

yes i would believe you

best of luck and don't quit, your chances b4 seemed a million to 1, and now you have a chance to of being a 1 in a million couple

How right you are! It's gone from being totally hopeless to seeing that light at the end of the tunnel.

[cheesewiz]

Pag-ibig nga naman good luck SIM

can't wait to see Phils again this Dec 2009 hopefully with my dear one

[Sim11UK]

Pag-ibig nga naman good luck SIM

can't wait to see Phils again this Dec 2009 hopefully with my dear one

Thanks cheesewiz...Have you booked your flight yet?

[kimmi]

Goodluck Sim, wishing u all the best..hope this time everything will be sorted out, u desrved to be happy..

[aromulus]

All I can say is that I hope all goes well in your favour, and get the result you wish for.

Family pressure can break relationships, but if she agreed to see you despite it, might mean that she is willing to be indipendent.

So don't despair, think positive, act positive and all will be ok.

[Mrs Daddy]

I am so sorry to hear your sad story sim.it was unexpected never thought you in this situation.I just hope you will get through all this.God Bless

[somebody]

Thanks again everyone.

Well, I've just booked my flight for this coming sunday 8th march.
She has come back to the City & is not talking to her family at the moment?

I don't want to go into details, but persistance on my part & her own common sense, seems to have paid off.

Anyway, it's time to sort things out...I have to say, I feel a little numb about it at the moment?

Reads as if there maybe some good news. But like you say a lot for you to take in. The Wife and I had problems which if we lived round from the corner of one another would most likely been over in the blink of a eye or never happened.

I hope things work out for the best for both of you.

[Strangemikan]

I am a newbie and this thread caught my eye. I wish you all the best Sim! I hope it would turn out as a good news! Keep us posted, will you? Take care!

[smilinggirlfife]

Hi there,

Wow!!! you sure have your problems and you don't need to go and look for them. Where do I start?, anyway, I have read your post and to be honest with you if your woman really loves you then she will fight for it and stick with you because no matter what type of hindrances may come you have only one principle on your mind that you have to be true and honest with your feelings and follow what your heart says, well, if you think and feel that she really loves you then no worry you can go on with your plan but if she's doubting where to go wether to follow her family or to be with you then if it's meant to be its meant to be but you're right don't mention about any redundancy money, to be honest if you are going to marry her I think it would be better if she applied for a Marriage settlement visa in Phils. and marry her in the U.K, the visa will take 3 months to process and if she is granted a visa then she can come here to the U.K for 6 months but you must marry her within the 6 months period or she needs to go home. A word of warning, if you are going to settle in the Phils. then you need to be careful if you are buying a lot or house and lot because you can't own the land in your name and you are a foreigner it has to be in your wife's name and thats when the problem can start after you've been together for a while.

Hope I can help you ......

[Florge]

yey yey yey... I might be wrong after all!!! yey yey yey!!! everything seems to be good!!! love prevails .. wooohooooo.... god bless you sim.. all's well that ends well!

[Sim11UK]

Goodluck Sim, wishing u all the best..hope this time everything will be sorted out, u desrved to be happy..

Thank you Kimmi, very kind words.

All I can say is that I hope all goes well in your favour, and get the result you wish for.

Family pressure can break relationships, but if she agreed to see you despite it, might mean that she is willing to be indipendent.

So don't despair, think positive, act positive and all will be ok.

Thanks aromulus, I hope we both get what we wish for...She is certainly very strong.

I am so sorry to hear your sad story sim.it was unexpected never thought you in this situation.I just hope you will get through all this.God Bless

Thanks Mrs Daddy, well hopefully we will get through it.

Reads as if there maybe some good news. But like you say a lot for you to take in. The Wife and I had problems which if we lived round from the corner of one another would most likely been over in the blink of a eye or never happened.

I hope things work out for the best for both of you.

Thanks somebody, I guess this long distance thing makes you fight harder. I know I wasn't really prepared to let it go.
I'm all fired up now...Let me on that plane NOWWWW!!!!!!

I am a newbie and this thread caught my eye. I wish you all the best Sim! I hope it would turn out as a good news! Keep us posted, will you? Take care!

Hi there, nice to meet you...Well, I'm off there tomorrow morning.

Hi there,

Wow!!! you sure have your problems and you don't need to go and look for them. Where do I start?, anyway, I have read your post and to be honest with you if your woman really loves you then she will fight for it and stick with you because no matter what type of hindrances may come you have only one principle on your mind that you have to be true and honest with your feelings and follow what your heart says, well, if you think and feel that she really loves you then no worry you can go on with your plan but if she's doubting where to go wether to follow her family or to be with you then if it's meant to be its meant to be but you're right don't mention about any redundancy money, to be honest if you are going to marry her I think it would be better if she applied for a Marriage settlement visa in Phils. and marry her in the U.K, the visa will take 3 months to process and if she is granted a visa then she can come here to the U.K for 6 months but you must marry her within the 6 months period or she needs to go home. A word of warning, if you are going to settle in the Phils. then you need to be careful if you are buying a lot or house and lot because you can't own the land in your name and you are a foreigner it has to be in your wife's name and thats when the problem can start after you've been together for a while.

Hope I can help you ......

Thank you, wise words indeed...I'll take on board what you are telling me.

yey yey yey... I might be wrong after all!!! yey yey yey!!! everything seems to be good!!! love prevails .. wooohooooo.... god bless you sim.. all's well that ends well!

Thanks Florge, we just have to be sure we want the same thing.

[bornatbirth]

try and have a good time at least you will know the truth and can decide whatever the problems are and how to deal with them?

so goodluck!

[Sim11UK]

try and have a good time at least you will know the truth and can decide whatever the problems are and how to deal with them?

so goodluck!

Thanks mate!

[Sim11UK]

Right I'm off...got 3 planes to catch.

Cheers! everyone Take care

[nids123]

hi sim goodluck to ur love hope to hear a good news.

[empott]

Ingat, Sim, have a safe trip. Hope everything will be all right.

[IainBusby]

Good Luck Simon,
Have a couple of san migs at the night cafe for me.
Cheers,
Iain.

[aromulus]

Right I'm off...got 3 planes to catch.

Cheers! everyone Take care

By the time you come back on the site, you will probably be taking advantage of the free internet in either Hong Kong or Singapore airports...

Boring long flight.... Innit....???

It will have been worth it, mate...

Godspeed....

[Sconnie]

Good luck and God speed.
Have a safe and enjoyable trip, I hope everything turns out the best for you.

[tiN]

Goodluck Sim

[scott&ligaya]

Go Simon, Go Simon, go Simon..... hmmmmmm we need Kimmi for cheerleading!

I hope it all works out for you guys