Devastated - Need advice

[Sim11UK]

The whole situation is crazy? There dosen't seem to be any logic? I'm completely stunned.

[joebloggs]

The whole situation is crazy? There dosen't seem to be any logic? I'm completely stunned.

i've been in a much crazier situation

but from what you've said, i'll take a guess she has a b/f who lives near here, and her parents don't know about him, that why they never said anything.

i hope you prove me wrong thou, really hope you do ...

advice from me, keep asking her for the whole truth, saying that if this is end end of your relationship, at least she owes you the truth. keep asking her til she breaks and tell you everything

[Sim11UK]

i've been in a much crazier situation

but from what you've said, i'll take a guess she has a b/f who lives near here, and her parents don't know about him, that why they never said anything.

i hope you prove me wrong thou, really hope you do ...

advice from me, keep asking her for the whole truth, saying that if this is end end of your relationship, at least she owes you the truth. keep asking her til she breaks and tell you everything

Will follow your advice here Joe, it may well turn out she has a b/f?

[Piamed]

33yrs old and being told what to do :and this guy has attacked her NoNo:

i'm wondering if there is more to it than what your being told, first instincts if i was her would be to tell the guy to and tell you to come and get me asap, not even think about marrying someone else, never mind a guy who attacked her.

Hi! it seems shes hiding some truth in here. The real story. Its a big question mark to me,when you said u meet her parents ,bro,and sis..So seems no problem to them.Why all of a sudden she made this a reason? Did she not creating story, afraid that something u will find out when you get back in march? Is she not married before to that man before you came?Try to find out the truth if i were you...

I have to agree with you as i really believe there is more to this story than what this girl is saying..

Why would she put him through this?

i've been in a much crazier situation

but from what you've said, i'll take a guess she has a b/f who lives near here, and her parents don't know about him, that why they never said anything.

i hope you prove me wrong thou, really hope you do ...

advice from me, keep asking her for the whole truth, saying that if this is end end of your relationship, at least she owes you the truth. keep asking her til she breaks and tell you everything

why would you put yourself thru this? 33 and marrying someone who abused you, and you're already engaged to someone else

it doesn't add up at all

I agree with these sentiments. I'm so sorry about what you are going through mate. I could understand her saying she does not want to let her parents down etc. if she had not already commited to you but at this stage and marrying someone she claims has attacked her and yet her parents believe this guy over their daughter? Hmmn! Does not sit well.

I would encourage her to open up and honour you both by telling the truth. Perhaps she is trying to pressurise you to some action or perhaps she has another and its getting harder for her to continue with her ruse.

I think a trip out there at this stage could be unrewarding and upsetting, best to find out what's what first.

I'm sorry again! All the best.

[nigel]

I'm saddened by your story, I feel sad for both of you, I've got no advice as such but what I will say is it would be a mistake to become angry and start shouting at her family! (I'm not implying that you would but..) I think Filipino's don't like shouting at all, while it might be acceptable to let of steam like that for us, I think Filipino's feel it's arrogant to do that!