Devastated - Need advice

[KeithD]

Call her bluff.

Tell her you are arranging for her to move to Davao, and you'll take care of her there until the wedding/visa are sorted.

If she has excuses not to go, then something her end is more important than you.

[tiN]

Call her bluff.

Tell her you are arranging for her to move to Davao, and you'll take care of her there until the wedding/visa are sorted.

If she has excuses not to go, then something her end is more important than you.

good point for boss here,

[ginapeterb]

Mahal Kita Mahal Kita, I love you I love you too, you very good man for me, you have big heart, nice skin, good for baby white......oh Baby oh baby....so sorry. no load, can't get to internet cafe, walang akong Qwuarta....



It's a Filipino Boyfriend in the Closet. open up the closet and look what falls out - something that is of far more importance to her than you are ! its not the end of the world - ITS AN ADVENTURE

These stories are as common as pebbles on a beach, Sim me old mate, you have come up against the Filipina factors.

I might sound draconian here, sometimes my Girl says I am direct, but forgive me for being direct, cos I think if you are on this forum long enough, and have enough contact with that sprawling third world metropolis of some 7000 plus island called

DA PHILIPPINES !

You get to see everything and I mean everything, often the things you never think of, don't ever try to out smart a Filipino, your not that good, many guys have lost their hearts to the beautiful bright smiling creature from the Philippine Islands, and many have become a victim of their own desire for personal happiness.

Its simply my dear friend a matter of priorities, for her that is not you, priorities to a Filipina are so different to the priorities that you and I consider important.

Keith our dear Forum Administrator and builder of this web site of course has heard it all before, he is like the Army Doctor we used to have when we arrived in foreign countries, we used to call him Doc the Pox, I have to say, we are not calling our beloved Keith Doc the Pox, only that he has seen it all and cured it all.

His comments, that you are not a priority pretty much sums up my advices, and generally whilst not being always right, we are pretty much 80 per cent right most of the time, your young wife to be, or maybe not to be, has simply found a new set of pressing and urgent priorities of which at the moment, you do not figure in.

Stories of families pressing them to marry a man on the farm is a good one, I will store that in my list of excuses, entitled "Ways to avoid contact with your Western Boyfriend"

The fact of the mater is, its more than likely, she is in a relationship with another Juan, Alfonso, or Rommel, or some guy in CGO, but should you keep sending her money a little here or there, she will be quite happy to receive your remittance's until of course the penny drops and you quit sending.

My advice to you is as follows:

If you ask a girl in the Philippines to marry you, and then she comes back with a story such as this, in any event, she is not the woman for you.


She will never be committed, not now not ever, and any relationship you enter into will fail in due course, don't do it ! don't play her fool ! find another one, there are hundreds of thousands of single Filipino women who are just waiting for a great guy like you to come along, personally, I wouldn't give her the time of day, if she told me a story like that, I have asked only 2 women in my life to marry me, and neither of my women have had to think twice about it.


Best of Luck, but then again, will you take my advice, few do you know, sometimes it just doesn't hold with them.

[Eljohno]

Please listen to Pete before your heart & wallet are ripped to pieces

[Sim11UK]

Hi! everyone

Real good advice here
I have to thank everyone, who took the time to reply, it's very heart warming.

Mr. Aposhark I actually was pressing to get married on the next trip, obviously she was stalling...Should of seen it coming.

Ginapeterb thank you...it's over as far as I'm concerned. Like you say, there are certain decisions in life, where you don't have to think, you just know. I made that commitment to her, but she couldn't do the same to me.

I have to say, it was a huge relief, making this thread. It took a huge weight off my shoulders.

Tried to phone her earlier, twice in quick succession to get some answers,...No reply.

Sent her a text, that's it, enough is enough.

[Eljohno]

You will meet someone else who will make you very happy as there are plenty of filipino girls out there that will treat you with respect.

[ginapeterb]

Simuk


Good for you mate, you've made the right decision, you have dropped the monkey from your shoulder, bring on the next one, thats far better for you to say that, than her to say, "Bring on the latest sucker"

I am happy for you.

Best wishes and good hunting

[flomike]

...it's over as far as I'm concerned. Like you say, there are certain decisions in life, where you don't have to think, you just know. I made that commitment to her, but she couldn't do the same to me.

sorry to hear your heart ache a very nice love story that ends no where. I feel for you but sometimes you loose some you win some. For sure its her lost not yours. I know you are one of the members here who always give good advice specially when it comes to love. Good luck to you and for sure you will find a fine woman that you deserve. All the best

[joebloggs]

..it's over as far as I'm concerned. Like you say, there are certain decisions in life, where you don't have to think, you just know. I made that commitment to her, but she couldn't do the same to me.

i don't know whether to be sad or happy for you

can you wake away just like that from someone you was prepared to marry ?

without knowing the real reason why she is acting like this ??

easier said than done...

but most are probably right, if she will not talk to you, nothing you can do but move on and forward

[Ady]

Good luck Sim.

It is good you made some decision, maybe the toughest decision of all. Stick to it, that is my advice. And I wish you good luck in the future. You deserve it!

[aposhark]

Mr. Aposhark I actually was pressing to get married on the next trip, obviously she was stalling...Should of seen it coming.

Hi Sim11UK, ah ok, that says a lot.
If only we could understand wimmin

It will take time, but you are strong and as Keith says, there are so many singles on his site, and also so many lovely alluring smiles that we all get when we travel in the Phils.
If it is the end as it looks like, don't be put off by the Phils, it really is the land of absolutely beautiful ladies.
Of course being married to one, I don't really see them, people tell me so
(I have to look the other way, before I get the silent treatment - the Filipina jealousy is mind-boggling at times )

Best of luck and always remember the kisses in the night

[Sim11UK]

Thanks everybody

Can anyone tell me what AJRAAMANT means?...It's quite important.

[Happy_Now]

Call her bluff.

Tell her you are arranging for her to move to Davao, and you'll take care of her there until the wedding/visa are sorted.

If she has excuses not to go, then something her end is more important than you.

I second the motion

Sim,
Sounds not good to me. 33 yrs old? force marriage?
Sim, she is old enough to decide of her own.
If she really love you, why she need to avoid you on the first place.
If she loves you, She will make a way to tell you the truth (if her story is true). If she loves you she will fight for your love.
good luck for your future