oh im sad on the turn of events for you Simuk11. Im from Cagayan de oro also and im here in the uk now to be with my husband. Pressures must have been in her shoulders to pleased her family if what she told you is the truth. Sometimes pressure from the people surrounding her can crumble her confidence and love for you especially being bombarded in every way they can. It takes really a strong determination for a woman not to be swayed by pressures surrounding her. They must have been thinking your not going to honor your promise to marry her thats why they let this other guy enter the picture ( Just a thought) . Or, else, he is her bf or worst husband in the side,and that she doesnt want to go further with you so that you wont spend much more than what you have done already..just an opinion
I hope and pray things will work out for the best.
