hello guys thanks so much for the advice
I decided that its better for both of us to continue living on our own for now and after a few months if things still the same or better we can live together.
I asked him to watch that BBC program about Phils since I am at work bec I want him to have an idea about Phils (good and bad) I am happy that documentary didn't turn him off the more he is excited to see the real Philsthe only request he has is pls don't bring me to that cemetery lol.