splitting up

[cheesewiz]

Hi Andy and Grasya

The last time I checked my resources, please correct me if I'm wrong, my child has the right to be in Britain because her father is British and her parents are legally married. And all I'm saying is i know she is going to have a better life in England than here that's why I want her to be in England. But she cant be on her own. Her dad cant go back cuz of his huge debt he had for years(very first reason why he left the country).

Her father married me but a few months after cheated on me for someone he met on the ship. In fairness to him, he admitted his mistake and apologised..promised not to do it again so we tried the relationship to work but a year after he cheated again. So now we decided to split up. I said $300 is not fair for my child cuz I know for a fact that she deserves better than that. Also, I had a career abroad when I met him but he decided to settle down here and told me I didnt have to work. I think that's being supportive and submissive but the cheating bit is not.

I'm here cuz I need some info and advice what to do ..not judgement.

Thank you for your help.

you might be right that your child has the right to be here in UK as a child of a British citizen and I don't see any problem with that. The main problem I see is YOU not your child, I mean how can you get here without your husband's help and support. For sure you know that you need loads of supporting docs to get a spouse visa. Another thing is just incase you are here how can you support your child or how can you work? Child benifit alone is not enough (£90/month?) then you are not entitled to any public fund till you have an ILR.

Of course my sympathy is with you I know its hard to be on your shoes right now:( I hope you can find a way to ease your burden right now. All the best

[jocelyn77]

you might be right that your child has the right to be here in UK as a child of a British citizen and I don't see any problem with that. The main problem I see is YOU not your child, I mean how can you get here without your husband's help and support. For sure you know that you need loads of supporting docs to get a spouse visa. Another thing is just incase you are here how can you support your child or how can you work? Child benifit alone is not enough (£90/month?) then you are not entitled to any public fund till you have an ILR.

Of course my sympathy is with you I know its hard to be on your shoes right now:( I hope you can find a way to ease your burden right now. All the best

Thanks cheesewiz. I know that my child have no problem and its me who have the big problem. I intend to work so I can support my child (actually started looking for a job now here but surely not gonna be paid that much). I am considering david house's advice and swallow my pride hoping he would consider as well as its for our child's life anyway.

Also, my mother-in-law is ever so nice to me and once mentioned we can stay at hers if we decide to go back to england, I wonder if she can help me and become a sponsor/support my application..