The word "HUBBY"....

[Pepe n Pilar]

Based from the Oxford Illustrated Dictionary
Second Edition Revised By
Dorothy Eagle with the Assistance of
Joyce Hawkins

hu'bby n. (colloq.) Husband

Just don't know with other dictionaries if they have that word.

What dictionary are you using Mr Bluebirdjones?? Please share with us so we also have an idea why this word is somewhat irritating to the ears of some.

You're waiting for the processing of your fiancee visa and i understand at present you're nobody's hubby (yes that is clear)
and never intend to be? I'm confused... If you get married then you will be her husband which is hubby in the dictionary....

[Bluebirdjones]

Of course it’s in a dictionary ! …. That’s not in dispute.
And yes, it’s a colloquialism of husband.

But if you want to be pedantic … strangely it doesn’t appear in
Roget’s Thesaurus of Synonyms & Antonyms

OK, so why I hate it ?

… basically because it’s a word to use in company, and it sounds demeaning.
Eg
When you get home from work, or meet your wife at the station, she doesn’t say “Hello Hubby” (at least I’d like to think so). She’s more likely to say, on one-on-one contact, “Hello darling (babe) (sweetheart) (honey) (etc etc ) “

…. But in company, she might introduce you to friends, family, colleagues as “This is my hubby”.
To me that conjures up visions of some guy being totally subservient to his wife, trailing behind her, not daring to raise his voice, or voice his opinions, someone who is totally unsure of his role in the relationship, a “joke”.
… someone sitting in his chair in his slippers, in front of the TV, his only “contribution” is to say “Yes dear”, “Of course dear”, “You’re quite right dear”,

A successful relationship is based on mutual respect, loyalty, honesty, and a partnership where BOTH are equal…….. to me the word H*££Y does NOT rely this,
To me it’s demeaning, degrading…… reflecting someone who’s secondary in the relationship, the weaker partner, the “tolerated” party.

That’s it !
Agree or not …… at least I’m prepared to voice my opinion.