At first its really strange to go out on your own.... my hubby only have 3days to show us around and he needs to go back to work.... no choice but to take my daugther to school by myself as she got a place reserved in school even before we got our visa. At first i dunno what to say to Mr. Bus Driver and its annoying that he's having a hard time understanding my accent....Originally Posted by thejarvs
... surprise cuz he thought we came from America he said i got American accent...
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ahahahahah.... don't worry Zobel... if and when things go well with me and bf (and I know it will because God will make it happen).. we can go around town with your baby... woooohoooooo....Errrmm... I know!I noticed too... lol I am bored hahahaa
... The doctors said I need to rest and stop working hehe, so my only resort is replying to different THREADS hahaha... huhuhuhu not fun for me though, i still want real physical friends hahaha... But having this online community makes me at home... lol cheers
also, i have noticed, it was couple of days ago when I reached my 1000 posts hehehe...
I used to be very independentand free. Can go out with friends, family and alone. When I arrived here, it's different
Unlike in the Philippines, there's jeepney, bus, tricycle
You'll be alright then as british wants their wife to be an independent
Driving directions to Bicester, Oxfordshire, UKSwindon? Not so far from me in Bicester, Oxfordshire. Good to know it...
40.5 mi – about 1 hour 2 mins
Salamat po!Absolutely! You are very welcome.
That's what we call positive mental attitudeahahahahah.... don't worry Zobel... if and when things go well with me and bf (and I know it will because God will make it happen).. we can go around town with your baby... woooohoooooo....
I used to be very independent
Unlike in the Philippines, there's jeepney, bus, tricycle
You'll be alright then as british wants their wife to be an independent
I can relate the feelings too, it's only at 1st but once u started going out that fears will all gone... What i did was, i study the route or road maps then start to walk just within near the house, increase the distance evrytime i go out, then i went to bus station just to sitdown there read information and observe. Few days i started to take a bus to nearby town, it's funny coz driver ask me what street and have no idea, i just said the town name and i keep busy looking for signage hehehe. And whenever i feel this is the place, i just follow other passenger then i will cross the road and ride back to the bus station. And now I am more knowledgeable about the place than my husband
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I can relate the feelings too, it's only at 1st but once u started going out that fears will all gone... What i did was, i study the route or road maps then start to walk just within near the house, increase the distance evrytime i go out, then i went to bus station just to sitdown there read information and observe. Few days i started to take a bus to nearby town, it's funny coz driver ask me what street and have no idea, i just said the town name and i keep busy looking for signage hehehe. And whenever i feel this is the place, i just follow other passenger then i will cross the road and ride back to the bus station. And now I am more knowledgeable about the place than my husband
so brave!!!
oh Thank you so much all. those are not my thing lady jay. Actually when i was in phil i used to look at the news about uk in the internet and that was horrifying all the time. do you know about those teenager that has been stub to death?
Anyway. yesterday i went out on my own with my son. Finally. my hubby says he is proud of me lol.
Piamed.....
Thank you for inviting. i would want to join you and your firends.maybe we could met sometime first in town
Jay&zobel....
You got it. Filipino are snobish and got a so high ego. when they look at you its just intolerable.
Wala problema amiga. Anytime at all. Glad you managed to go out.Piamed.....
Thank you for inviting. i would want to join you and your firends.maybe we could met sometime first in town
Be responsible with little so that you can be trusted with much!!
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it's kinda funny..... in the philippines my wife always told me not to go out by myself.
Of course, I did anyway and luckily my wife's a filipina, so she don't like to walk too much
I did as some in here suggested; go a little further each day - then after a while I dared to take a jeepney alone. I had no idea where it went, but I knew that somehow there'd be jeepney going back again.
I should perhabs mentioning, that my wife was very worried but with no reason because I only met nice, helpful people there (yeah I got lost a few times, but being a man I would never admit that
When Jet first arrived in the UK, she was also very wary of going out on her own.
Everything seemed so strange to her.
But slowly, due to necessity she learnt her way around and now she so very confident that she gets the bus into town, does her shopping and comes back the same way.
Sometime she meets up with her Friend Ann from CDO and they spend time together window shopping and chatting in Klingon over a cappuccino....
It take a while, but if you don't take that first step out of the door you will be confining yourself within the walls of the house, and end up missing your relatives too much.
Take the plunge and go out, plan ahead, bus routes and bus numbers. Decide where you want to go and how long you will stay there, etc.
Take yourself to Church and meet some other Pinays there, try to make friends, although I must warn you that some of them can be quite stuck up and ignorant.
Good luck
I agree with that...
you can't blame us for wrrying about you guys. my hubby once go out by him self to. i don't want him to go out by himself because its quite dangerous.it's kinda funny..... in the philippines my wife always told me not to go out by myself.
Of course, I did anyway and luckily my wife's a filipina, so she don't like to walk too much
I did as some in here suggested; go a little further each day - then after a while I dared to take a jeepney alone. I had no idea where it went, but I knew that somehow there'd be jeepney going back again.
I should perhabs mentioning, that my wife was very worried but with no reason because I only met nice, helpful people there (yeah I got lost a few times, but being a man I would never admit that
one time we ride on a jeepney to a resort and therewas this very odd man who wants to sit beside him. I felt sure he is planning something bad coz my brother was sitting beside my hubby and this man where trying to force himself to sit beside my hubby. i am on the other side of the jeepney so when i saw what this man is doing. i move and sit between my hubby and this man....
Wala problema amiga. Anytime at all. Glad you managed to go out.
How about this sat? are you free? maybe you can go with your hubby. Lets meet in huddersfield town or if you want to meet somewhere else you decide.
hehe yeah he did sound a little weird. However, there are weird people everywhere - even here in Denmark where I live, we have a few. Here we just give them a large amount of money and call them goverment officials.
I will bet that your husband are worried too when you go out on your own, because perhabs you'll meet weird people out there too.
But it's just taking it in small steps at a time and very soon it will be your husband who ask you for directions
On another note; Philippines are just as dangerous as UK - it has to do mostly on where you are, what time a day and who you spent the time with. With the wrong persons at the wrong place you are almost asking for trouble.
As I have been out of work this week, I have been able to go out more with my wife to get her more confident of her surroundings.
Yesterday I was enjoying the lovely sunny weather on the golf course, when I returned home; my wife told me she had been out into town for a walk and to the supermarket, I was very proud of her.
Next week we plan to explore more of the local area. If the weather is good maybe a trip to the beach, Lowestoft or Yarmouth.
its normal to worry just be cautious and always alert everything around you.
I do disagree with some people here saying UK street is more safer than Phils. Have you been out at night on your own here in UK or even in daylight in a crowded place and in Phils? The biggest problem here in UK is the teenager they don't know what's the meaning of respect at all even Brits are worried when group of young people gathered in one place.
For my 5 years here I never experienced any trouble bec I am trying to be alert and cautious and I know how to take care of myself (I mean I don't go home very late walking on my own even with my friends I'd rather get a taxi even its only 10 mins walk specially on a weekend here) same thing in the Phils.
With my bf now I am trying to brief him what he will expect in the Phils things that will amuse him like filipinos like staring at white people or colored people or foreigners in generals. What kind of public trasport we have etc although I can drive in the Phils so its not a prob but I want him to experience the tradition in the Phils like tricycle, jeepeney and bus. Hold up is a big possibility specially with foreigners bec most filipinos think that foreigners have plenty of money but he said he got a villa in Spain and its the same case there that many Brits being mugged and police are not bothered to do something. I think we shouldn't worry too much with our loveones if they are in the Phils they are not young anymore to tell them what to do and what they can't do. As long as we tell them to be cautious and giving them the freedom to exploit themselves a bit and they will learn the system, imho.
I'm proud of mrsjarv for venturing out alone (well with the Rafa hehe) I guess it took some sunshine to spur her on
I agree that both phil and uk can be dangerous or safe depending on time and location, I think it is the same everywhere. I certainly feel safer going to the ATM with a guard brandishing a pump-action shot-gun lol
mrjarv
[. I certainly feel safer going to the ATM with a guard brandishing a pump-action shot-gun lol
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Yeah it is a bit surreal when the hotel guard walks with me less than 100 yards to the ATM by the hotel we use where he then chats to the Bank guard. Like a lot of major cities the key to safety is awareness, common sense and not being too flash (nice watches, jewellry etc).... oh yeah an armed guard helps hehehehehe.
Well done Mrs Jarvs, where are going next on your own?
Live your life for a reason and don't worry be happy
if you don't know where you are going then any road will do!!
sure, until you remember the reasons why every bank and mall has to have guards with shot guns
and also how many police and security guards are in prison themselves, and visit the PNP website and see those who are wanted for murder, kidnapping, robbery.
yes the UK has problems, much of it down to kids causing trouble, but i've definitely felt safer in the uk than the phils.
but as you said, minimise the risks you take, and it doesn't matter what country you're in, there are always low life's about
Hello there thejarvsHow about this sat? are you free? maybe you can go with your hubby. Lets meet in huddersfield town or if you want to meet somewhere else you decide.
Piamed ( Kuya Toks ) is busy at this moment i thinkcoz today they will have a Baby Shower at home March 21. If u want i will ring him and let him know that u want to meet him and ate pia ... hey btw , load of visitors later
"You don't have to be a certain age to fall in love;
although you've maybe been told you're to young.
For those who tell you that,
that don't know what
Hello there thejarvs
Piamed ( Kuya Toks ) is busy at this moment i think
its alright misscarie,Thank you for the thought
scott&ligaya,
I don't know where to go next yet lol
Anyway, What am i doing on this thread (NEWS PHIL)? i am lost lols
mrsjarv
Some great advise on this thread.
The WIfe was like you back in Late 2005. Now she travels up to London on her own and alsorts. But it took time and she needed to get to know her local area around the home first.
I read on here how couples travel all over the UK and further abroad etc. But dont forget to really explore the local area together. The Wife and I used the local buses together Visit the various town centres so the Wife felt comfortable and familiar in them.
One thing she now uses (Well she has never used for real yet just in practise) is using her phone if a little lost to tell her where she is.
Two ways, first GPS (but this can take time and fiddly) and a not so accurate way is to use google maps which uses the postion of the transmitters around you to work out roughly where you are often much much quicker but uses data. Simply by selecting my postion.
My Wife found the best way of meeting people was via the bus she even knows a few local pinoy bus drivers now. She met filpinas of all ages. Found that either those recently over or those who had been here for many many years were the nicest to her. She also met all the local phills as many also used the bus. Even found many who were neighbours.
With A baby as others have said you have many chances to meet others for company (playroups, medical centre) also in many areas as rightly said older people or others with babies will stop and chat/help you talk about the weather
Oh lord why did you make so many clothes and shoe shops
Hi Amiga
I just heard you left a message for us. It was really nice to chat with you amiga.
Ingat!
Paalam
Be responsible with little so that you can be trusted with much!!
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Great advice!When Jet first arrived in the UK, she was also very wary of going out on her own.
Everything seemed so strange to her.
But slowly, due to necessity she learnt her way around and now she so very confident that she gets the bus into town, does her shopping and comes back the same way.
Sometime she meets up with her Friend Ann from CDO and they spend time together window shopping and chatting in Klingon over a cappuccino....
It take a while, but if you don't take that first step out of the door you will be confining yourself within the walls of the house, and end up missing your relatives too much.
Take the plunge and go out, plan ahead, bus routes and bus numbers. Decide where you want to go and how long you will stay there, etc.
Take yourself to Church and meet some other Pinays there, try to make friends, although I must warn you that some of them can be quite stuck up and ignorant.
Good luck
Exactly like me!I used to be very independent
Unlike in the Philippines, there's jeepney, bus, tricycle
You'll be alright then as british wants their wife to be an independent
I became dependent, clingy, scared and not confident enough and secure of myself, and that is so not me! And i don't like me that way. But good thing i came to my senses now, thanks to this forum. I will need to bring back the old independent me
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