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Hi everyone, i just want to ask if its not normal that i am afriad to go out if my hubby is not with me?any advice of how can i overcome my fear:(, i want to be able to leave the house with my son even if my hubby is not with me.coz thats what he wanted me to do. thanks everyone..
mrsjarv
Did you get here with your baby in the UK?
Its normal at first to feel that way coz its totally different the environment plus the weatherBut once you get used to it everything will be ok. Takes an effort and confidence to do it but eventually you will be alright
I have a 1 year old baby plus 28 weeks pregnant. Everytime im off from work i always go out for a walk with my wee boy or attend playgroup in our local area or visit my british friends who has a baby too. In that way i can be more of myself and never rely on my husband
You will be alright trust me.
LIFE IS BEAUTIFUL
yes i agree with what ann said.i was like that before but i manage to overcome my fear.you will be alright.its much more safer here than in PI.
to loved and beloved is the greatest joy on earth...
When Jet first arrived in the UK, she was also very wary of going out on her own.Originally Posted by thejarvs
Everything seemed so strange to her.
But slowly, due to necessity she learnt her way around and now she so very confident that she gets the bus into town, does her shopping and comes back the same way.
Sometime she meets up with her Friend Ann from CDO and they spend time together window shopping and chatting in Klingon over a cappuccino....
It take a while, but if you don't take that first step out of the door you will be confining yourself within the walls of the house, and end up missing your relatives too much.
Take the plunge and go out, plan ahead, bus routes and bus numbers. Decide where you want to go and how long you will stay there, etc.
Take yourself to Church and meet some other Pinays there, try to make friends, although I must warn you that some of them can be quite stuck up and ignorant.
Good luck
When Jet first arrived in the UK, she was also very wary of going out on her own.
Everything seemed so strange to her.
But slowly, due to necessity she learnt her way around and now she so very confident that she gets the bus into town, does her shopping and comes back the same way.
Sometime she meets up with her Friend Ann from CDO and they spend time together window shopping and chatting in Klingon over a cappuccino....
It take a while, but if you don't take that first step out of the door you will be confining yourself within the walls of the house, and end up missing your relatives too much.
Take the plunge and go out, plan ahead, bus routes and bus numbers. Decide where you want to go and how long you will stay there, etc.
Take yourself to Church and meet some other Pinays there, try to make friends, although I must warn you that some of them can be quite stuck up and ignorant.
Good luck
I agree with that...
Great advice!When Jet first arrived in the UK, she was also very wary of going out on her own.
Everything seemed so strange to her.
But slowly, due to necessity she learnt her way around and now she so very confident that she gets the bus into town, does her shopping and comes back the same way.
Sometime she meets up with her Friend Ann from CDO and they spend time together window shopping and chatting in Klingon over a cappuccino....
It take a while, but if you don't take that first step out of the door you will be confining yourself within the walls of the house, and end up missing your relatives too much.
Take the plunge and go out, plan ahead, bus routes and bus numbers. Decide where you want to go and how long you will stay there, etc.
Take yourself to Church and meet some other Pinays there, try to make friends, although I must warn you that some of them can be quite stuck up and ignorant.
Good luck
you made me smile on your thread,yeah today will be my first time Im going out too w/o my hubby,going Morrison looking for rice
and hubby said 15 minutes walk
he just told me "dont get lost princess"
Have fun yuhoooo
I would suggest you attend the playgroup in your local area for your baby to have fun with other babies plus you will get to know many mums as well.
In my place I am the only Pinay
You can ask your gp or health visitor for info.
LIFE IS BEAUTIFUL
When my wife Louella first arrived in the UK, I took a week off work to help her settle in. Besides showing around the shops in our local area and where the nearest catholic church was, I took her 3 times on the bus into the city centre and showed her around, pointing out various shops and landmarks that she could use to find her way around and also, help her to find her way back to the correct bus stop so she could get home.
When I returned to work the following week, I was half expecting a phone call saying "I'm lost", but she got on great all on her own and has done ever since.
Iain.
i was like that too at first... but staying at home makes me bored. today me and my son are going out to find him a costume for his school. it will be our second time to go out without hubby and will just use a bus.
my hubby printed me the bus timetable...
i suggest before going out by yourselves (you and your baby). go around in the town with your hubby so you'll be familiar with it, and make sure where the bus station is. always bring ur mobile phone too so in case you'll get lost but i'm sure you won't. you can call your husband anytime.
goodluck!
To tell you honestly, I so want to go out alone too! lol
I've been here for years already but still doenst have the courage to go out without my loving husband (maybe we enjoy doing things together..lol
But really we should be independent. It builds confidence (but just be very cautious & careful)
It takes time amiga due to so many things different and unfamiliar. Pia has been out about 3 times on her own - twice when I was out. I am amazed and a little worried about some of the places where she ended up going. I have been here in Leeds for almost 5 years and never knew there was a fishmarket in the city centre.
I suggest going for regular walks with hubby and baby. Then when you are ready you will venture out without him to the places you are familiar with and then, eventulally further afield.
Good luck!
Be responsible with little so that you can be trusted with much!!
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It's not unusual to feel this way, my wife has been here for 4 weeks and has only been out once alone to the local corner shop.
She says its cold outside and worried she will get lost.
At the moment I am at home as im out of work so I am walking around our town so she can get familiar with it.
My tip would be to start with small trips outside, then try to go for longer each time.
Don't worry,
like everyone has said just take your time. Where are you in West Yorks, there may be another member fairly close who could come over and you perhaps take you to the nearest shopping centre for coffee and chat.
In a few months time you will look back at this thread and laugh at yourself..
take care
Live your life for a reason and don't worry be happy
if you don't know where you are going then any road will do!!
i've been here 3 years now but until now i didnt try to go anywhere w/o my hubby.coz we always go together anywhere,after we finish to our pigeons we visit our greyhounds in the kennels of our trainer.and after that we visit some of our friends in thier houses.we go to ireland,phils,thailand,cambodia,manchester,oxford,etc,etc
i've been here 3 years now but until now i didnt try to go anywhere w/o my hubby.coz we always go together anywhere,after we finish to our pigeons we visit our greyhounds in the kennels of our trainer.and after that we visit some of our friends in thier houses.we go to ireland,phils,thailand,cambodia,manchester,oxford,etc,etc
parehas tayo hehe...
I enjoy doing things when i am with him aswel. everything is boring when i am just alone:(
parehas tayo hehe...
Yeah, I have the same feeling as well, I've been dying to see Pinays married to Brits, been here for almost 3 yrs now, havent met anyone yet. It is just different right? Being in the same boat?We go to town every weekend hoping we will meet some filipina that is married to a british coz its quite uneasy if just normal phil..
Anyway, Thank you again everyone
I've seen lots of Pinays here, they are either snobbish or just doesnt care... Just sad...
Aww bless you
i got here with my 17 months old son.Actually i am 5 months already.as others say here i go out with my hubby always and we use the car. we went for a walk few times. i am just worried that i will be lost.hit by a car or stub(lol). You know some racist:(
I'm happy that it wasnt only me experiencing this things. Thank you very much for all the eply guys.. it made me feel better. i am at Huddersfield btw. We go to town every weekend hoping we will meet some filipina that is married to a british coz its quite uneasy if just normal phil..
Anyway, Thank you again everyone
Hi amiga, I had no idea you werre so close to us. Pia and I were in Kirklees on a couple of days ago and most of our BritFil network live in areas such as Cleckheaton, Batley, Middleton, etc. so not far from you. If you would like to you can drop me a line and I will introduce you to Pia and maybe you could come to one of the many parties we attend near your area.i got here with my 17 months old son.Actually i am 5 months already.as others say here i go out with my hubby always and we use the car. we went for a walk few times. i am just worried that i will be lost.hit by a car or stub(lol). You know some racist:(
I'm happy that it wasnt only me experiencing this things. Thank you very much for all the eply guys.. it made me feel better. i am at Huddersfield btw. We go to town every weekend hoping we will meet some filipina that is married to a british coz its quite uneasy if just normal phil..
Anyway, Thank you again everyone
Our friends vary from Pinoy-Pinoy, Brit-Fil, Brit-Brit, Nigerian-Brit and Polish. They are all really nice, very welcoming and great fun.
Be responsible with little so that you can be trusted with much!!
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Can I join too...? lol
Anyone from Swindon or near Swindon? Oxford? Faringdon? Lechlade? Ashbury? huhuhu
you made me laughtoast zobel
cheers
you made me laugh
cheers
Errrmm... I know!I noticed too... lol I am bored hahahaa
... The doctors said I need to rest and stop working hehe, so my only resort is replying to different THREADS hahaha... huhuhuhu not fun for me though, i still want real physical friends hahaha... But having this online community makes me at home... lol cheers
also, i have noticed, it was couple of days ago when I reached my 1000 posts hehehe...
Absolutely! You are very welcome.
Be responsible with little so that you can be trusted with much!!
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i got here with my 17 months old son.Actually i am 5 months already.as others say here i go out with my hubby always and we use the car. we went for a walk few times. i am just worried that i will be lost.hit by a car or stub(lol). You know some racist:(
I'm happy that it wasnt only me experiencing this things. Thank you very much for all the eply guys.. it made me feel better. i am at Huddersfield btw. We go to town every weekend hoping we will meet some filipina that is married to a british coz its quite uneasy if just normal phil..
Anyway, Thank you again everyone
You are in UK now my dear, far away from Phils which is there you are more likely to get stub or hit by a car!
Dont be afraid of going out, there are plenty of nice people around here in UK, specially old people
It's very useful aswell to watch tv as you will learn a lot about UK.
Not an expert, I only try to help.
Any tv program really. what I was trying to point out is by watching tv might topped up your knowledge about Life in the UK
Haven't you learned a lot of things from Emmerdale or Coronation StreeT? have you?
Not an expert, I only try to help.
mrsjarv,
As long your hubby want you to go out alone, you are alright.
Nice to have some experience sometimes, if you get lost phone him
Im in England almost 2 yrs, but didnt try to go out nor ride a bus with my own.
Its not that im afraid, i really love to go out alone
but hubby is afraid and wont let me go
he is afraid, somebody will take me away from him
bcoz, when we are in the gym. Men eyes was at me
not my fault
"Praise be to the LORD, for he showed his wonderful love to me when I was in a besieged city"...
(Psalm 31:21)
been here for nearly 3 years now,i usually go on my own,especially when i go
shopping,coz its irritating me if my hubby always rushing me,takes me ages to find what i want..sometimes it takes me a week to decide.
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