We filipinos live in guilt all the time, we can't just turn around and say sorry i can't send money or help at all bec i have my own family. Our parents been mold us on this kind of thinking that its our responsibility to look after them when their old and look after our siblings. Its a culture that we can't change im afraid.
I always make sure that my bf knows what I am into, he knows that my parents are my main priority at the moment and he knows that I will always there to help them. Once I have my own family, definitely it will be my main priority bec that's how it should be but my parents will always be my family so it is fair enough that their are my priority as well.
Its easy for some here to say that they don't send money regulary or they just send when it needed or emergency or special occassions etc, there's only small percentage of filipinos marrying foreigners who comes from well family. Some filipinos end up marrying foreigners bec they think that's the only way to escape poverty and to help the family, IMO
Or from the beginning of the relationship tell your woman that helping their family is not an option and let see how's the relationship goes..
