So I caught her online last night. I waited for her to put the cam on, but it froze just as I told her I knew what had been going on :( I kind of wish I'd just sent an email. Here's her story: after I visited her there she really hoped we could marry and we would do whatever I decided, whether it be her move to the uk or me there. And I gave the impression I wasnt interested (really I just wanted to wait till we were together again if I was going to propose). So the other guy had been online chat mates with her for awhile and he said he wanted to visit her, and as I seemed disinterested in marrying her she met him there, because she didnt want to feel like she was waiting forever for me and wanted to keep her options open. She says that after meeting him she realised that she felt a lot more for me and now viewed him more as a brother. Also her mother thought I was the better guy suited for her having met us both.
I wish she said she'd loved the other guy more, would have made things easier. She looked ashamed and guilty and I didn't have it in me to get angry with her. I just felt pity for her that she'd put herself in this situation. She says its up to me what will happen to us now, whether I forgive her, we remain friends or go our seperate ways. It was 2 in the morning at that point and I was exhausted so I just disconnected.
Sad state of affairs really :(