i seek a relationship maybe a wife (Merged)

[cool999]

my friend been dating a girl in manchester for a few months she is from vietnham but i need advise is it normal for asian girls not to want sex with her boy friend... i have dated phil thai chinese women before but when i go to bed with this girl when i go to bed we would make love and it was normal thing to me.. but this vietnam women i have been dating always says she is too tired at night to make love . i dont know if im talking to much off this but she seems tired all the time. i need some help here beacause i dont know if we as a couple is compatable. when it comes to sex. to exsplain when i visited her she not see me for 2 weeks but only make love once and for her not seeing me long time is difficult for her. but it is me who travel to see her i live an hour by train away from her but every time she seems too tired for sex on a night i know she works hard but she sleeps alot she goes to bed between 10 and 11 oclock. but is it me or is it her? when it comes to sex it seems she becomes very selfish and i dont know what to do i cant talk to her about it because she wont lisen she just will get upset. and she seems to have periods for long time. like a long week and she wont have sex,, although that depends on her some times, we not been dating long but we dont have sex much normally when i start a relationship you have alot of sex am i exspecting too much? she keep saying i use her for sex when i got upset when she say have period and cant make love... is it me or what she dont seem to like make love with me.

[Florge]

sorry... got lost here... is it your friend or you who's having this problem?

[cool999]

ok its me but i need advise i need to think is it me or her....

in responce to what i asked her and she said the following to me in a text message,,...u talk to me u argue not sweet like lover that make me want sex.and im working full time need sleep well if not im tierd so dont want sex.ask ur advice what i said......

this what she says in text on my phone....

what you guys think?

[cool999]

one thing i better tell you the situation i am unemployed at the moment trying to get a job my gf has been very good about it and suportive i think i needed some glasses as my eyesight got worse she paid £225 for them and she insisted paying £200 for driving lessions and also lent me another £200 for more drivng lessions and she pays for most things when we are out and about am i too hard on her about the sex thing do you still think she not really love me she runs 3 bussinesses in arndale market manchester and is very busy running the stores what do you think still be glad of your advise.... not many girl want unemployed man these days.....

[Tawi2]

"My friend" Ok,its you right?I thought you were looking for a relationship with a pinay in another post?Can I ask your age cool?

[Sophie]

one thing i better tell you the situation i am unemployed at the moment trying to get a job my gf has been very good about it and suportive i think i needed some glasses as my eyesight got worse she paid £225 for them and she insisted paying £200 for driving lessions and also lent me another £200 for more drivng lessions and she pays for most things when we are out and about am i too hard on her about the sex thing do you still think she not really love me she runs 3 bussinesses in arndale market manchester and is very busy running the stores what do you think still be glad of your advise.... not many girl want unemployed man these days.....

Looks to me she is just really tired most of the time, given how hard she works and having to run 3 businesses as you mentioned above. So i suggest you cut her some slack. She deserves some rest, she works hard everyday and she is generous and kind enough to help you out financially now that you are unemployed. Obviously she cares about you by being there for you and trying to support you in the best way she can, so i guess that should count for something.

[joebloggs]

relationships are about giving and taking, but you seem to be just doing the taking get a job and start treating her like a lady and not a object of sex

[Ladybug_sim]

relationships are about giving and taking, but you seem to be just doing the taking get a job and start treating her like a lady and not a object of sex

[Florge]

yeah... you were looking for a wife... from your other post...

[Eljohno]

So if i have got this right from reading what others have wrote you are looking for a wife but also having sex and sponging of this woman who is working very hard

What a catch you will be for someone:bluegrab:

[keithAngel]

So if i have got this right from reading what others have wrote you are looking for a wife but also having sex and sponging of this woman who is working very hard

What a catch you will be for someone:bluegrab:

Bit harsh Eljohno on that basis a lot of Pinoys could be so caracterised too

English doesnt seem to be the OPs first language either

[Eljohno]

Bit harsh Eljohno on that basis a lot of Pinoys could be so caracterised too

English doesnt seem to be the OPs first language either

Usually i am not too harsh but this guy is taking money from a hard working lady and is complaining about sex while looking for a wife from somewhere else so really i am surprised people on here are being so gentle with him

[bornatbirth]

so as you was looking for another relationship yesterday i take it you are thinking of dumping this hard working girl ????

lets hope she dumps him first!

So you are unemployed and depending on her and still your moaning of not having enough sex. If you're a sensible man you should help her instead of thinking sex.

Sex is not the basis of the long lasting relationship man.For me you are ungrateful ,selfish and inconsiderate.

quite right

Usually i am not too harsh but this guy is taking money from a hard working lady and is complaining about sex while looking for a wife from somewhere else so really i am surprised people on here are being so gentle with him

your being easy on him Eljohno

why are you wasting our time telling us your looking for a ldr with someone in the uk then you start this thread saying you already have a gf?

she working 3 jobs and helping you with cash and all you can do is complain about the lack of sex.....get off your backside you inconsiderate moron,the very least you can do is go and help her..why are you not already doing this?

its amazing what goes on inside the mind of some men

do you want my advice?

become a monk and leave women alone

[aromulus]

For the sake of not having to follow this moron all over the forum, I took the liberty of merging both his threads into one.
The tone is exactly the same, he's annoyed coz his girlfriend is too tired to have sex, after working three jobs, and he has to travel one hour long on a train to get his leg over....

Shocking....
Such a harsh treatment he is getting...

If you have come onboard to insult our intelligence, you might as well off.

[somebody]

Firstly no one is the same so just because you dated women from the same corner of the World. Does it mean you can expect them to be all the same.

If she has three jobs in a market (So likely to labour intensive and customer care) both likely to make someone very very tired. When does she wake up and start work. Blimey im suprised she was still awake at 10 or 11pm.

Sex is not in this relationship but the fact she sticks with you and supports you means it looks like you have a decent and caring Lady.

Must be hard to be out of work at the moment with the situation going on. But it should give you some time to have a long hard think.

Do you want to be with this Lady for the forseeable future?

If the answer is yes. Why instead always of trying to get a jiggy on, not offering to give her a nice massage so she rests better.She on occasions may relax and who knows. Don't going with the intention you must score to night everytime. Chill relax its not a race is it?

Lets face it whats tougher in physically, an hours train ride or working all week?

Stand back and take a good look.

[pennybarry]

my friend been dating a girl in manchester for a few months she is from vietnham but i need advise is it normal for asian girls not to want sex with her boy friend... i have dated phil thai chinese women before but when i go to bed with this girl when i go to bed we would make love and it was normal thing to me.. but this vietnam women i have been dating always says she is too tired at night to make love . i dont know if im talking to much off this but she seems tired all the time. i need some help here beacause i dont know if we as a couple is compatable. when it comes to sex. to exsplain when i visited her she not see me for 2 weeks but only make love once and for her not seeing me long time is difficult for her. but it is me who travel to see her i live an hour by train away from her but every time she seems too tired for sex on a night i know she works hard but she sleeps alot she goes to bed between 10 and 11 oclock. but is it me or is it her? when it comes to sex it seems she becomes very selfish and i dont know what to do i cant talk to her about it because she wont lisen she just will get upset. and she seems to have periods for long time. like a long week and she wont have sex,, although that depends on her some times, we not been dating long but we dont have sex much normally when i start a relationship you have alot of sex am i exspecting too much? she keep saying i use her for sex when i got upset when she say have period and cant make love... is it me or what she dont seem to like make love with me.

Why not help your partner in her 3 business? That will make her happy and lessen her tiredness. You will be together and will know each other more. Who knows if you help her in any way you can, she will be the one to bring you in bed

[trader dave]

so as you was looking for another relationship yesterday i take it you are thinking of dumping this hard working girl ????

[future=dreams]

We have known each other for 10 months not met her yet but know i will shes is always where she says she will be. I trust her she trusts me and will meet her this year spend an extended time meeting family and getting to know her. Now sure sex doesn't get in the way 8,000 miles sees to that but we talk for hours about many things without falling out. But every time i see her on cam I think my god shes beautiful my maganda pinay and shes a big part of the reason I stopped smoking.
We will never be rich but i can take my pension to the phils and sure if we make good use of it can build a future together we are open and honest she remembers things i tell her and my family are accepting i intend to spend my life with her.
trust me im happy

[cool999]

thanks for your comments guys im 31 my past relationships were very sexual but she is not but she has the most giving heart of all maybe i should be more understanding and not so selfish i just needed some advise and a new way of looking at things from another perspective any commets are welcome though weather their good not good please be honest i will take the advise in and thank you

[cool999]

well if honest i was considering it as we are very different people. but maybe i should like some have said give her some slack...her english is not good so talking on phone not easy.... hard to believe her here in uk but english still poor...

[Jay&Zobel]

.her english is not good so talking on phone not easy.... hard to believe her here in uk but english still poor...

atleast she is an asset to the country (IMO) paying taxes and all...

[thejarvs]

well if honest i was considering it as we are very different people. but maybe i should like some have said give her some slack...her english is not good so talking on phone not easy.... hard to believe her here in uk but english still poor...

Excuse me! It seems English is obviously not your first language either!

hmmmmmm me thinks I better leave this thread alone or risk flaming

[joebloggs]

Excuse me! It seems English is obviously not your first language either!

hmmmmmm me thinks I better leave this thread alone or risk flaming

[pennybarry]

Why not try to find a job so that you can divert your attention rather than thinking of s x all the time. Your GF is busy making money and you were busy thinking about s x, well, someone should wake up.

Potpot is right. Don't think too much SEX especially now you are jobless, how if she got preggy? She can't make money for you Hard life isn't it? Rich government of UK has more and more claimants this recession

[keithAngel]

Don't think too much SEX especially now you are jobless, how if she got preggy? She can't make money for you

That would make a GREAT poster in the Fils

Whilst you do have to have sex to get Preggy unless you have friends in high places You dont HAVE to get Preggy because you have sex

[pennybarry]

So you are unemployed and depending on her and still your moaning of not having enough sex. If you're a sensible man you should help her instead of thinking sex.

Sex is not the basis of the long lasting relationship man.For me you are ungrateful ,selfish and inconsiderate.

Ehehehe take it from Ate Ping

That would make a GREAT poster in the Fils

You dont HAVE to get Preggy because you have sex

How about poster in UK too??? There's baby capital in UK too
Hmmm that's contracepcion or abortion

[Ping]

So you are unemployed and depending on her and still your moaning of not having enough sex. If you're a sensible man you should help her instead of thinking sex.

Sex is not the basis of the long lasting relationship man.For me you are ungrateful ,selfish and inconsiderate.

[Sophie]

So you are unemployed and depending on her and still your moaning of not having enough sex. If you're a sensible man you should help her instead of thinking sex.

Sex is not the basis of the long lasting relationship man.For me you are ungrateful ,selfish and inconsiderate.

I COULDN'T AGREE MORE

[aromulus]

Sex is not the basis of the long lasting relationship man.For me you are ungrateful ,selfish and inconsiderate.

Korrek ka dyann...!!!!!

I did more or less say the same in his other thread....

ok some peoples ldr seem to work maybe i'll try again the thing is i got scammed by a women in germony who came from ghana and after that i became so distrustful as i got badly hurt after i had my heart ripped out after i sent her money for brain sugery thinking she had a brain tumer and that was kinda of long distance so i think you can understand my feelings... and what about sex???? if dont see her you dont have sex???? long time no sex right???

Small sacrifice indeed if you really love and respect the lady in question.

If you are just after one thing, ie sex, in the relationship, then am afraid LDR is not for you.

He is sending confusing messages, but one thing seems to be foremost in his mind and that is sex.....

The priorities seem to be a bit wrong, if I may say so.