thanks guys
LOL that's so funny - I needed that laugh. What you are saying makes a lot of sense - it's him we deal with and not her. Thank you once again - you really are an insightful bunch.
thanks guys
LOL that's so funny - I needed that laugh. What you are saying makes a lot of sense - it's him we deal with and not her. Thank you once again - you really are an insightful bunch.
Originally Posted by Jay&Zobel
See WorreidDana! Told you so... hahahaThese 2 men here are the perfect examples!!!
Babay..............
Babay..............
I am blind... lol
before you gang up on him,try and just get him to see the truth for himself...like a book on filipino family culture,so that as hes already seeing her she would want him to meet the her family already!.
also say that he as a friend in the phils who will check on her family and try and help out?
and next time tell him to send the money direct from is credit card as hes got no cash?
just a few ideas to consider?
Yes, Ben wants some imperfect samples!
Keith - Administrator
Why not suggest to your friend that if he stops giving money to this lady this might be a good test to see if she changes when she knows that the money tree has no roots left...
thats what we plan to do first eljohn and see what happens. Although trying to see him is like pulling teeth. He used to be always around but little by little he has faded away and basically just organises his life around her now, when she says she he can see her. she tends to get a bit hyper if he meets his female friends - he commented once that a friend of mine looked pretty and he told us afterwards that she went crazy - (this was before our suspicions of her).
Hi dana,didnt manage to read all the replies ,I just read your first post (but at least i am on topic lol)...I know how worried you are.. but its your friend should be worry to his self,can u imagine he will put all his business on the name that he never even meet the family of the lady he is dying for...
thanks mrsjmajor
yes I know how worried he SHOULD be - unfortunately he is too "blind" at the moment to see anything - he has an excuse for everything that happens - very stupid excuses, but to him they sound reasonable. It is unbelievable - he is a very intelligent man usually.
by the way guys, this "relationship" is less than six months old
When she takes a day off work to be with him he pays her for her time?Theres a word for "Ladies" like that
and we call it stupid love and bulag na pag ibig (love is blind)
When she takes a day off work to be with him he pays her for her time?Theres a word for "Ladies" like that
Bar fines in the Uk....????
Theres a few Pinay GRO's right here in the UK who charge £1200 a NIGHTto keep some lonesome guy company
How'd you know ? lolTheres a few Pinay GRO's right here in the UK who charge £1200 a NIGHT
Because I always keep my ear to the ground and my finger on the pulse of whats happening around me
Have you meet them?Theres a few Pinay GRO's right here in the UK who charge £1200 a NIGHT
Oh yeah I remember, from your previous post that you mentioned that you are very keen observantBecause I always keep my ear to the ground and my finger on the pulse of whats happening around me
What sort of question is that for a lady to ask a gentleman
£1200 a night
your friend is in a very difficult situation and you arethere is not an easy way to approach it perhaps you could print off some interesting reading for him about the philippine culture relationships ect there used to be a very interesting site [now expired] and he could read --the single mans survival guide to the philippines and the GOOD THE BAD THE SCAMMERS everyman should read that before they even step foot in the philippines and as far as believing lines like I LOVE YOU after 2 minutes
So sorry I missed the start of this,
Rather foolish, but which one of us can say we have not been foolish before?
Another example of how this forum holds up filipinas as such wonderful, faithful, caring partners. Yet the same forum is so very swift to comdemn filipinas as scammers. Or do we just condemn the scammee as stupid?
Which is it, saints or sinners?
None of that, NotYou, just human as everybody in here - everyone got their own faults and problems...
Jiri & Maricel
do some investigative work...check her background...
A sound basis for a relationship? Get a PI to investigate her. I trust you, my love, where do you hide the knives?
its a very tough situation you are in with your friend. my suggestion is to talk to your friend, to start tell him a story that you got a friend you found on the internet which got a filipina girlfriend like him and that friend was asked by his gf to meet her family after a few dates they had and the family were very curious about him(friend) and had asks so many questions then throw questions to him(your friend) when are you going to meet your gf's family? isnt it a good idea that you meet and know them? i've read about filipino culture are very family oriented and love to know everyone in their family. Then from his answers you can inject your advice to him. Then you can make suggestions like what if you tell your gf you dont have money what do you think she'll do?(is it no money no honey?) or say tell your gf you got tickets to the philippines for 2 to visit her family to ask blessings for the relationship, will she be happy? (will she be full of reasons?)
These are only my opinion. i hope it helps you in getting more ideas so its not too harsh to him when you talk about him being scammed.
Are they not....???
No we don't.
And you should read the thread from the start,
All the reds flags are there.
Compared to the millions, only a few Pinays do scam as a way of getting out of poverty
To a certain extent, yes.
Although the right word would be "gullible".
she says her family in the uk has taken her passport from her and she cannot go anywhere.
okay guys
I will write the facts of what I know as neutrally as I can so that people can get an understanding
she has been here for two or three years before she met "Andrew" (my brothers friend)
they met during work - first talking, then he looked out for her and then fell in love
she said she had a sick mother - he offered money - she refused - she got more upset and he offered again -she took it
she said she must send the money via another relative as the parents would spend the money on other things
she said that andrew saved her mothers life
andrew wanted to meet her family in the uk
she refused saying that "all white man are after one thing" and they would punish her and send her back
she said she was brought here to take care of the children while her family went to work
she works two jobs and must go home straight after
if she takes a day off Andrew must reimburse her with her wages for that day so she can hand up the money when she gets home to her family
Andrew cannot look at anybody else female
Andrew wanted to bypass her family in the UK and meet her parents in the phillipines - she says if they find out she is with a white man they will punish her and send her home
Andrew is not allowed to call her
Andrew is not allowed to text her unless she texts him first and gives him a time to text
Andrew is not allowed near her house
Andrew wanted to prove himself and they got engaged - she accepted but is still not allowing him to meet her family
She can hold a perfectly adult conversation but reverts to a five year old with wide eyes when Andrew is around
When Andrew is with other people she steers him away so they they end up by themselves away from everyone else.
That is illegal and carries a jail sentence.
Call her bluff 2: Tell her to go to the police and put a complaint in and you'll go with her, if she won't tell her you'll help her out, being the kind person you are, and will do it yourself.
PS....She's married!
Keith - Administrator
I have had a few relationships with Pinays,all of them without exception want you to meet their family
At her age parents family cant control anymore as to what she wants to do. with regards to passport being held by her family i doubt its true and it doesnt matter they cant deport her unless she is here and working illegally. If she truly loves your friend she will introduce him to the whole clan no matter what. Tell your friend prove to her family he is genuine and give a surprise visit in her house at night and meet her family (if she is not hiding anything aside from the relationship it will be alright but if she is married thats a very big problem). or maybe you can do some investigation by knowing who are the people living in her house and that will give you a clue.
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