How could I have been so stupid

[Ayjay]

Hello everyone,

Since mid June of last year I was in a relationship with a young lady from the phils, we had never met except online and I had also gotten to know her family as well.

Everything seemed fine at first. I was planning on going over in october last year, then that didn't pan out I was going over this June, then I had to move home so I was planning on going over to see her in October of this year.

She already had a son but I was happy to accept him as he did not have a father (long story) and I was happy to ensure he had a good birthday late last year. I also got into the habit of providing for her and her family since last July. Buying her a mobile phone and a PC so we could stay connected and I even had broadband installed for her (well, internet).

One of her siblings died last year and I provided the funds to bury him and after that we seemed distant. I thought it was how she coped with this tragedy and so carried on.

But cracks were appearing as I had befriended people she knows and stories came my way as to how she would use the money I sent her and go out ll night. This was denied, but I just thought she was being young.

Anyway, I stopped the money a few months ago as I was getting suspicious and there was an emergency every two weeks that needed money. Plus, due to this demand I needed to move somewhere cheaper.

I never did get to the phils as my spare cash was sent via western union every month.

And then this week, I discover she had given birth to a baby girl last month!

And so... Lesson number one. Never send any money!

The shame of it is this. Her family are very poor, and the babies father was a one night stand, never to be seen agan. And no more money from me means this family will strougle more now than ever.

Sorry to hear about this Northerner... Train wrecks line this happen all to frequently... The trick is getting to know an honest Filipina without too much baggage.... Internet romances are difficult to gauge and evaluate.

Anyway guy... chin up..
AJ

[Northerner]

Sorry to hear about this Northerner... Train wrecks line this happen all to frequently... The trick is getting to know an honest Filipina without too much baggage.... Internet romances are difficult to gauge and evaluate.

Anyway guy... chin up..
AJ

Thanks for the kind words AJ. However, this was a post I made in May, and even back then I was pretty much over her. Just venting my frustration out on this forum!

But I have long moved on and the lady in my avatar is Rizza, who I know to be honest and sincere. And the reason I will land in the Philippines come October 28

[aposhark]

Thanks for the kind words AJ. However, this was a post I made in May, and even back then I was pretty much over her. Just venting my frustration out on this forum!

But I have long moved on and the lady in my avatar is Rizza, who I know to be honest and sincere. And the reason I will land in the Philippines come October 28

Pity you can't get this thread locked so you can concentrate on Rizza

[Northerner]

Pity you can't get this thread locked so you can concentrate on Rizza

Yeah, I thought that the other day after it popped up and Rizza read it, thinking it was a new post (whilst we met to talk on yahoo).. Had a little tampo for a second or two before I explained the date of the post

[aposhark]

Yeah, I thought that the other day after it popped up and Rizza read it, thinking it was a new post (whilst we met to talk on yahoo).. Had a little tampo for a second or two before I explained the date of the post

Hi Northerner, IMO, you won't see Tampo until you are married and living together. Then the "fun" begins. It is not measured in seconds but in hours that feel like days, or days that feel like weeks.....
Being ignored is something I am trying to come to terms with, and not doing a very good job of it :HeadButter:

The making up is blissful after the silence......

[aromulus]

you won't see Tampo until . It is not measured in seconds but in hours that feel like days, or days that feel like weeks.....
Being ignored is something I am trying to come to terms with, and not doing a very good job of it

That was the easy version....

You just wait till the full blown, all singing all dancing with bells on one, hits you like a sledgehammer.....

And you sitting there for days, thinking " what the hell is that all about"??? (not in so many words.....)

[somebody]

That was the easy version....

You just wait till the full blown, all singing all dancing with bells on one, hits you like a sledgehammer.....

And you sitting there for days, thinking " what the hell is that all about"??? (not in so many words.....)

Great stuff I get so much work done at home when Tampo occurs

As I have said any self respecting Brit bloke can go for Days without talking i thought that was why the Great Britsh Shed was invented, walking the dog and the sport of fishing

Dont look at tampo as a bad thing but a chance for reflection and chores crossed off the List