[QUOTE=womaninlove;140150]Just some of 'my food' for thought.
Some people think love should be unconditional, in an ideal world..... maybe so
but we don't live in an ideal world. Personally, I don't think love should be 'Unconditional'

In my opinion, there is no such thing as "CONDITIONAL LOVE".
Affection with terms and conditions applied, is not necessarily considered "Love" in its truest sense.
Love is not meant to be like a business deal where you invest under preset terms and conditions
and you expect a higher return on your investment.
It's not a business venture where you can just withdraw and pull out
once the return on your investment did not meet your set target and your expectations
and you can just quit when you don't gain from it
A successful and long lasting relationship requires a lot of work and a lot of love unconditional, no matter how impossible it sounds

In my opinion. it isn't noble, to NOT expect ANYTHING, from a relationship.
Doesn't each part of a couple, have the right to have their needs met? I don't think that means EVERY need has to be met EVERY time, there should be flexibility. But, shouldn't there also be, deal breakers.
If you do not expect anything from your partner, then you are disrespecting yourself and don't acknowledge that you have a right to have needs met.
I think healthy relationships, need boundaries, they need to have responsibilities and expectations.

I always believe that YOU ONLY GET OUT OF A RELATIONSHIP WHAT YOU PUT INTO IT.
Treat each other the way you want to be treated
Remember, the GOLDEN RULE ALSO APPLIES TO YOUR SPOUSE/PARTNER, it works both ways
And a good relationship/marriage is GIVE and TAKE - BUT MOSTLY GIVE


I myself, have never believed that love is the key, main foundation for marriage or a substantial relationship. You have to figure out how, to "stay in love'.

Love is the very essence and foundation of every relationship,
without love, a relationship will never work and is bound to crumble and collapse even at the lightest and weakest blow
While a relationship established in love, will not struggle staying in love, as only love sustains a relationship