My friends problem....(wife who commits adultery)

[Arthur Little]

I firmly belive being faithfull is very important in a marriage, and do not agree it is more acceptable for men to cheat on their partners, and of course with everone who cheats there is also anouther poor half of a realationship being decived also.
Mick.

with you one hundred per cent, Mick! We MUST always be aware that other [innocent] parties, too - saddest of all, children (where there ARE any) - will be deeply affected by infidelity.

[Mrs Daddy]

Probably so.... forgive but not forget!

[Sophie]

i got 2 reps in this thread....... thank you whoever you are

[pennybarry]

I knew some here but it's none of my business.
Although they don't keep it in secret, I tried to ask two of them why???

[vbkelly]

I remember reading somewhere that scientists were investigating the existance of an "Infidelity-gene" to explain why some people male/female are more predisposed to straying off the track

some women and men they are not happy for what they have got

[Arthur Little]

i got 2 reps in this thread....... thank you whoever you are

Me too, Sophie ... and I see one of them was from YOU ... thank you very much!

[Arthur Little]

I received a good rep on this one.

So did I! Many thanks Pepe 'n' Pilar.

[Sophie]

Me too, Sophie ... and I see one of them was from YOU ... thank you very much!

You're welcome arthur little
I don't know who gave me those 2 reps, but thank you very much, whoever you are

[Arthur Little]

anonymous: "always well balanced"

And, to the [unknown] third person who nominated me for yet another point thankyou, as well ... whoever you are!

[womaninlove]

O.P is your mr. friend has "unconditional love" with his wife? if so, he should forget the wife wrong doing even how many times she cheated on him. lets see how long his "unconditonal love" going far.

[mickcant]

You're welcome arthur little
I don't know who gave me those 2 reps, but thank you very much, whoever you are

Hello Sophie
I gave you and Arthur one each because your answers in this thread were helpful not only to the op but to me and others as well.
What I do not understand is why some appear anonymously and some people know who gave them.
Anyhow you earnt them
Mick.

[Sophie]

Hello Sophie
I gave you and Arthur one each because your answers in this thread were helpful not only to the op but to me and others as well.
What I do not understand is why some appear anonymously and some people know who gave them.
Anyhow you earnt them
Mick.

Oh, hi mickant thank you very much for the good rep

[Arthur Little]

Hello Sophie
I gave you and Arthur one each because your answers in this thread were helpful not only to the op but to me and others as well.
Anyhow you earnt them
Mick.

Many thanks, Mick.

Cheers!
Arthur.

[Pepe n Pilar]

So did I! Many thanks Pepe 'n' Pilar.

You're welcome Arthur..

[beppe]

As what I have said on my first thread (introduce yourself) I would like to seek an advice on this matter....

First of all it's not my case nor experience coz I could have said so (as no one knows me anyway). So please refrain from replying about insisting or suggesting that it is my case were in fact it's not.

OK I had friend Mr. N from the Phil, his whole family is already here in the UK. His wife first came here in the UK and after a year he migrated together with their children and be with his wife here in UK. They were all happy but one day Mr. N found out that his wide is having an affair with someone back home (Phil), his wife's co-employee. Mr N couldn't believe it himself what his wife have done to him. Although he claims that sometimes he took his wife for granted which he believes cause his wife to look for a fling. His wife is full of regrets for what she have done to him and she's sorry about and trying now everything to make up for him and for the kids. She even claims that she hurry up to process their visas just to be with them and end up the affair she had which my friend didn't buy coz she is still in contact with the guy ti'll he found out the thing. But, the good news is they were happy now and trying to patch and fix the marriage. My friend had forgiven his wife but my friend had a hard time gettin over it that every time they had even the slightest misunderstanding it burst into a big one cause he always recall the incident.

What advice will I give him to forget it? He's my best frind since high school that's why he opens up this thing to me as we're like brothers,but I felt I am letting him down as I could get a decent advice to give him.

I know his wife really regrets and felt sorry for everything coz it show when I visit them to their house, she became more caring and sweeter to my friend than she use to backhome(Phil).Though she doesn't know that I know something about her love affair. But my friend can't get over it.

Thanks for any advice...

It is not an easy situation. Forgiveness is good choice, forgetting is harder because it takes time.
On the other hand, breaking up the marriage may be even worse.
It will take long time to heal and longer to forget if ever.