Am I the only one!

[Jem]

Aaah, lovely. The world is changing and there are a few of us on here, now. And I'm sure lots more out and about in the UK.

Hi Jem, Sassy & Sun Shine! Not sure if there's anything I can be of assistance with, but if you do have any questions I might be able to answer, feel free to do so. My husband and I lived out in the Phil's, got married and now live and work here.

Most people on this forum seem great, but there are a few opinions dotted around which appear to lack reasoning where Filipino (or Asian) men are concerned - ignore them! Such stereotyping about a whole nation or even a whole continent is, of course, ludicrous.

Anyway, got to go, I'm cooking rice and roast chicken for breakfast... Some things don't change!

Bye for now,

Lou

Hi Lou, i liked your words of wisdom!

I think its also true about stereotyping and im sure anyone could say all those things about British men or men of any nationality.

Did you enjoy living in the Phils?? Im hoping that when Arnie gets his visa we can start planning to have a family and cant imagine being away from my mum and friends when i have a baby.

Did you husband find it easy to find work?

Jem

[Sun Shine]

Hi LouLou,

Thanks for your post, it's great to know we can all help each other in some way or another.

I know I'll be searching through this site when it comes to going through the visa process with my boyf.

Sun.

[LouLou]

Hi ladies.

Jem, hmmm, hard one to answer... It is fantastic place for me for a holiday, but the most difficult thing for me was not working. There's only so much swimming, diving, reading & sitting in hammocks I can do! I got bored after a while, is the truth. Also, my husband is from a small but beautiful island where electricity is hit and (very) miss and there are few amenities. Which has its pros, too, of course. On the other hand, I think it would be a lovely place to raise kids (my husband is shocked by the behaviour of some teenagers here - most are respectful of their elders in the Philippines), but I think I would miss my family and generally the standard of education here is much higher. A vague long term plan for us is to have kids here and move out to the Philippines when they are ready for high school and get them into a decent private school. My husband still has a small business and we have a place to live out there. We certainly haven't cut ties and plan to invest over there, little by little.

My husband found it very easy to get work here. He walked into an agency just one week after arriving (shy and a little nervous, no doubt - culture shock and all that!) and started work the following day. He's now a permanent member of staff at his workplace, on a perfectly adequate wage. There are still quite a few jobs around. I think the trick is not to be too fussy, initially.

Sun Shine (lovely name and if I ever have a daughter.....!), Yes, this site is brilliant for visa advice, as is Pete's own website, which we also read inside out. The whole process was fairly easy, once I'd moved back here, got a place to live and secured a permanent job.

Matt7, I reckon British women and Filipino men do face as much prejudice (even on FilipinoUK, at times!) and that was an issue for me a few years back, but that's life. I'm prone to a little prejudice myself sometimes. Easy to judge when you don't know people, eh?!

Lou

[Sun Shine]

Hi Lou Lou,

You have an inspiring story. After reading your post, you fill me with so much confidence in going through the same processes in my life.
You come across as a very happy person and indeed family, and I wish you the very best for your future, wherever that may be.
Thank you for sharing,
Sun.