Hello Joy,
First, let me say how sorry I am to read that you've been a victim of domestic violence.
But, thankfully, you have emerged from this bitter experience ... ready to love again, and place sufficient trust in another guy. Honestly, for someone in your position - given that you're also the mother of four children - that is a really positive step. I truly "salute" you for your bravery, wish you all the very best in your new relationship and have much pleasure in extending a warm welcome to the forum. Here, you can be assured of being amongst friends, who will do their utmost to support and sustain your morale.
Secondly, your kind offer of advice and assistance to others in a similar situation, is to be greatly commended.
Originally Posted by aphrodite78
That's a lot of faults in one small guy. 
Hope you're having a happier time in the UK 
