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    well sad but true some foriegners do this thing really by making some excuses because they dont want to hurt their filipina gf by telling its over and I am not telling you jam that yours like this.Its just that some of my friend suffered this experience and its not fair for them really...
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    Exclamation Am I Being Played ... ?

    Quote Originally Posted by Win2Win View Post

    British guys can be stubborn, but we also have a habit of dumping folk by just moving on and never contacting again, saves giving an explanation.
    Quote Originally Posted by Mrs Daddy View Post
    well sad but true some foriegners do this thing really by making some excuses because they dont want to hurt their filipina gf by telling its over ... and its not fair for them really...
    I've taken the liberty of linking these two separate responses in my reply because, together, they seem to sum-up perfectly, an attitude that, sadly, all too often prevails with a certain TYPE of male OR female and can be found practically anywhere in the world. Such individuals invariably take "the coward's way out" of a difficult situation by choosing to ignore its existence - usually through lack of contact - on the pretext of "not wanting to hurt another's feelings ... etc., etc.". Piffle! Postponing the inevitable can only serve to prolong the agony [for the unfortunate person anxiously awaiting news] leading, in turn, to further unnecessary heartache.

    NO ... it ISN'T fair! And, in my estimation, THAT sort of behaviour amounts to nothing less than mental cruelty!


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    Quote Originally Posted by Mrs Daddy View Post
    well sad but true some foriegners do this thing really by making some excuses because they dont want to hurt their filipina gf by telling its over and I am not telling you jam that yours like this.Its just that some of my friend suffered this experience and its not fair for them really...
    Hi Mrs. Daddy but the funny thing is, we never had a fight before this happend and there are no signs that he will leave just like that... it is really not fair :(


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    Quote Originally Posted by jam07 View Post
    Hi Mrs. Daddy but the funny thing is, we never had a fight before this happend and there are no signs that he will leave just like that... it is really not fair :(
    Hi jam, sorry for what you're going through......
    Anyway, are you 100% sure there are no signs or anything different before he stopped communicating with you?
    Sometimes we only see what we want to see.....
    As you know, not all signs are bad like fights, tampo and all sorts....
    sometimes its the other way around...... when he is extra nice than usual,
    that can also be a sign....he is actually preparing for a good exit...
    then he will just vanished...but that's just my opinion
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    Its true,a dose of realism,we could sugar it up and say oh no,he must be very busy,he hasnt a mode or means of communication,he loves you,your the one etc,etc,etc or we can be realistic adults,and say from an outsiders perspective looks like he has jumped ship Missing in action



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    Can I just add if ever I get dumped please dont be so honest or brutal,say nice things just so I can cling to a vestige of hope



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    Quote Originally Posted by Sophie View Post
    Hi jam, sorry for what you're going through......
    Anyway, are you 100% sure there are no signs or anything different before he stopped communicating with you?
    Sometimes we only see what we want to see.....
    As you know, not all signs are bad like fights, tampo and all sorts....
    sometimes its the other way around...... when he is extra nice than usual,
    that can also be a sign....he is actually preparing a good exit...
    then he will just vanished...but that's just my opinion
    Hi Sophie. I dont know what to think anymore its just that this is hurting me too much :( ... i will give him a call tomorrow and will see if he will answer the call. If he drop the call on me, then its time to move on I guess...


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    Thats the problem with LDR's,easier to break off than up close and personals,just delete the number and never call again,theres a lot of sad stories on both sides,not just pinays but putis also



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    Quote Originally Posted by jam07 View Post
    Hi Sophie. I dont know what to think anymore its just that this is hurting me too much :( ... i will give him a call tomorrow and will see if he will answer the call. If he drop the call on me, then its time to move on I guess...
    Hi jam, if that will give you some peace of mind and maybe some answers, then go ahead and ring him tomorrow.....and see what will happen.....
    If it's bad, then move on with your life.....you deserve better...







    (by the way, when you were chatting before, how often do you chat or talk to each other?)
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sophie View Post
    (by the way, when you were chatting before, how often do you chat or talk to each other?)
    we talk everyday... around 4am (thats the time he gets up, sometimes 3am) and at night around 8,9 and 10... usually he talks to me till he needs to go to shower and then again when he's at the office already and then we say our goodbyes when he needs to go round the site already. Sometimes, he message me while he's still at work (as I am online almost 24 hours). At night, when he got home and say our goodbyes when he will eat his dinner and if he is tired and needing to go to bed already. Just not lately because he told me that his pc is f*cked up... thats it.


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    Quote Originally Posted by jam07 View Post
    we talk everyday... around 4am (thats the time he gets up, sometimes 3am) and at night around 8,9 and 10... usually he talks to me till he needs to go to shower and then again when he's at the office already and then we say our goodbyes when he needs to go round the site already. Sometimes, he message me while he's still at work (as I am online almost 24 hours). At night, when he got home and say our goodbyes when he will eat his dinner and if he is tired and needing to go to bed already. Just not lately because he told me that his pc is f*cked up... thats it.
    Wow, so you don't only chat once daily, but quite many times in a day....
    and then for him to suddenly stop and not show up online and no calls too...
    I can understand why you're feeling the way you do now....
    I hope you get some answers tomorrow when you phone him....
    Cheer up jam, this too shall pass......
    "10% of life is made up of what happens to you, 90% is decided by how you react"
    "The way to love anything is to realize that it may be lost"


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    love him?

    You say you love him genuinely? For just merely a week without communication not knowing what might be the reason and now you want to move on. What do you mean move on...try to look for another bloke on the net? And your telling us that you love him so much and you want to spend yourlife with him...come on give us a break.

    Patience please.....


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    Quote Originally Posted by merlin1565 View Post
    You say you love him genuinely? For just merely a week without communication not knowing what might be the reason and now you want to move on. What do you mean move on...try to look for another bloke on the net? And your telling us that you love him so much and you want to spend yourlife with him...come on give us a break.

    Patience please.....
    try not to talk to your girl for more than two weeks... i guess she'll go crazy over it, too


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    Quote Originally Posted by jam07 View Post
    try not to talk to your girl for more than two weeks... i guess she'll go crazy over it, too
    Hey Jam, how is it going - any news yet???
    Fingers crossed for you and good luck...
    Jiri & Maricel


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    Quote Originally Posted by jam07 View Post
    Hi Mrs. Daddy but the funny thing is, we never had a fight before this happend and there are no signs that he will leave just like that... it is really not fair :(
    Yes it happen dear sorry to sayMy friends bf just found someone he prefers and dont know how to say to the other girl its over but hopefully this is not the reason lets hope and wait as other member said there might be a valid reason why he vanish
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