Originally Posted by
aposhark
Hiya Sophie,
I could waffle on for many many minutes about this issue but I think if you read Gray's book, it will become clearer.
Basically men go into the cave and women like to talk about problems.
Trouble is that men tend to try to "fix" things when women just want to be "heard".
The big problem is that men try to go into the cave but sometimes women cannot understand this as they want to keep on talking to solve the problem. He is trying to avert a potential crisis or really bad situation and words sometimes confuse a man further.
It is so complicated at times, but men should just walk away when things get too strained, AND women should know when to stop hounding their man.
After all, tomorrow is another day and we want to be together with our partner, not stuck in the doghouse or worse.
When I was about 14 I told my mother (now sadly departed this world) that I didn't understand girls.
She gave me a pearl of wisdom that I will never forget.......
"I'll just give you one tip. Never try to understand a woman because they don't understand themselves".
Now, I don't want to say that I never want to try to understand my wife, for example - because I always do, but there becomes a point where a man has to understand that we cannot always "fix" a woman's predicament, but we can certainly try to stand back, focus and then smile.
If things get a little strained, I certainly see the benefit of not getting into the nitty gritty ad infinitum. Walk away, let things settle down and then instead of getting back into the minutiae when we meet again, go back and just hold her without going over everything again.
The strongest man is the man who walks away and walks back quietly.
Just my teapot philosophy, and I can say that the years have honed this down from the mad days of a young man's perspective.
