Quote Originally Posted by maria_and_matt View Post
i have always lived by the golden rule.. do not do unto others what you do not want others to do unto you!

i have always been good at ignoring gossip, but lately it has been getting on my nerves. filipinas especially have this habit of talking behind my back.. if i work they gossip that i am too poor so my husband sent me to work, if i dont work they say i am lazy!!!

it has been getting worst, i only have a handful of filipino friends to avoid gossip. i was in town last saturday and i saw a couple of pinays in boots, as i walked past them i heard one say, oh i heard that Maria (me) is having a relationship with an american airman on base!!! and that she was going to call my husband to let him know... i was like shocked as all my friends on the american base are pinays married to americans! i called my husband crying, and my husband told me that he finds that impossible and dismissed it. when he got home he told me that 10 years ago before we got married he got an anonymous letter telling him that i am marrying him for money.. and he then said that he thought it was from a filipina coz the english was not very good...

question is WHY!!! why would somebody do that...! i have never asked money from my husband wht he gives me is from his own doing not mine!! when my dad got so sick with cancer i didnt ask my husband for help, i was going to work and find my own money so i can help my dad, but it was my husband who said he will help that he wanted me to stay home..

a good friend told me that others are just jealous, jealous of what??? it seems that filipinas wherever they are in the world still gossip and envious of others,, if they see others with better lives they will pull down (crab mentality!) with me i do not care what you have, what house you have or what car you drive, what matters is the person that you are!

thank you,,, bow!
Hello Maria. What a truly HORRIBLE experience! Jealousy and Gossip are to be deplored. Sadly, all too frequently, the latter is "born" of the former and, believe me, it is prevalent the world over although, I would've thought, maybe to a *lesser extent amongst Filipinos ... perhaps I've been deluded in my thinking in *this respect, and it disappoints me ... because I'd long been under the impression that the Pinas were, shall we say, less susceptible to the pressures of materialistic power and wealth to be found in most modern, westernised societies.

Having said that, I would not wish this thread to develop into a 'political saga'. And nor would I want to provoke a further religious debate. But it seems to me that the pinays you overheard in your local Boots the Chemist have "conveniently forgotten" the Christian values taught to them back home - in so far as they learned to be at least, reasonably content with their lot [in other words: "what they never HAD ... they never MISSED!"] - and have somehow become tainted with the desire for material gain at all costs ... even to the extent of riding roughshod over others like yourself who are merely trying to earn an honest living to SUPPORT husbands/families ... in order to achieve their ends.

Ignore such people, Maria ... they're simply not worth the effort of listening to!! Stick with your moral principles and always remain proud of them. If you're not working for an employer at the present moment, don't worry about it ... I'm sure your husband will agree that being a housewife is the BEST job of all ... especially when you're there to welcome him home each night!