Good morning

[Florge]

communication... talk it over.. tell her what you didn't liked with what she did, what you liked about her, and how you would prefer things to be and how you can make thing work between you... with the party incident, it clearly tells me she's a big time brat!

I was a big time brat myself! was being jealous and insecure at most times with my bf.. but we talked about it... agreed on certain "rules" on how we want to handle our relationship.. trusted each other... and talk why there's no need for a tampo... your fiancee may not be used to being straightforward so I suggest that you find time this weekend to talk about what you both feel about everything... and when you talk, come from a space of love, and you'll never go wrong with it.

Good luck!

[tiN]

communication... talk it over.. tell her what you didn't liked with what she did, what you liked about her, and how you would prefer things to be and how you can make thing work between you... with the party incident, it clearly tells me she's a big time brat!

I was a big time brat myself! was being jealous and insecure at most times with my bf.. but we talked about it... agreed on certain "rules" on how we want to handle our relationship.. trusted each other... and talk why there's no need for a tampo... your fiancee may not be used to being straightforward so I suggest that you find time this weekend to talk about what you both feel about everything... and when you talk, come from a space of love, and you'll never go wrong with it.

Good luck!

i totally agree with u sis.. communication is an important part of the relationship as other co-forumers said, talk to her.. she will not know that she's being a brat if u will not tell her? Be a honest to her how u feel, it seems like she's not only jealous, she is being selfish also.. in a relationship u should give and take to each other.. u just cant give and give..

welcome here and goodluck

[Grievous Angel]

Good afternoon, and an update, as the days have gone by, and I certainly don’t want to be viewed
as a “one-post wonder”( I see how other’s are treated LOL).

I appreciate the comments posted, and as I asked for comments/thoughts, I’m not really in a position
to now criticize, but I’m certainly not comfortable with the “there’s many more fish in the sea”, or the
“throw that one back, there’s always another swimming passed” thoughts.

If that was/is the attitude, it’s no wonder so many relationships fail. The idea that, if someone doesn’t
bend to your will, or fit your ideals…. then it’s a case of “well, I guess I’ll find someone else” is abhorrent
to me. We might as well live in a “Stepford Wives” society.
A real relationship is about two people in a true partnership, both loving each other through the good
times & bad times, the highs and the lows …. and not for any other reason.

Anyway….. we’ve talked & talked, cried & laughed….. and we’ve decided to move forward TOGETHER,
hand-in-hand.
As the song goes … “for deep inside his heart he knew she was the only one”… I think applies to
both of us.

We’ve been honest with each other, perhaps even hurtful on the things we’ve said … but we are now
closer than ever.
I’ve even learned things about myself (from her point of view) which I wasn’t aware of ….as we are all
too aware, there are always two sides to every story.
She has opened up to me…. her fears, her apprehension, her worries…. And we’ve either addressed them
all, or are in the process of.

So …. once again, my thanks to ALL that commented.
(The more negative ones actually spurred me into a frame of mind to be even more determined that this
would work).

Take care one & all.



“Twenty thousand roads I went down, down, down
And they all lead me straight back home to you”

[tiN]

Good afternoon, and an update, as the days have gone by, and I certainly don’t want to be viewed
as a “one-post wonder”( I see how other’s are treated LOL).

I appreciate the comments posted, and as I asked for comments/thoughts, I’m not really in a position
to now criticize, but I’m certainly not comfortable with the “there’s many more fish in the sea”, or the
“throw that one back, there’s always another swimming passed” thoughts.

If that was/is the attitude, it’s no wonder so many relationships fail. The idea that, if someone doesn’t
bend to your will, or fit your ideals…. then it’s a case of “well, I guess I’ll find someone else” is abhorrent
to me. We might as well live in a “Stepford Wives” society.
A real relationship is about two people in a true partnership, both loving each other through the good
times & bad times, the highs and the lows …. and not for any other reason. [/B]

Anyway….. we’ve talked & talked, cried & laughed….. and we’ve decided to move forward TOGETHER,
hand-in-hand.
As the song goes … “for deep inside his heart he knew she was the only one”… I think applies to
both of us.

We’ve been honest with each other, perhaps even hurtful on the things we’ve said … but we are now
closer than ever.
I’ve even learned things about myself (from her point of view) which I wasn’t aware of ….as we are all
too aware, there are always two sides to every story.
She has opened up to me…. her fears, her apprehension, her worries…. And we’ve either addressed them
all, or are in the process of.

So …. once again, my thanks to ALL that commented.
(The more negative ones actually spurred me into a frame of mind to be even more determined that this
would work).

Take care one & all.

agree with u..

its good that u talked and all sorted

I've been married for almost 3 years now but once in a while we have a heart to heart talk also which i think is a very good thing, being honest and truthful to each other

All I can say is goodluck on ur upcoming wedding

[Sophie]

Good afternoon, and an update, as the days have gone by, and I certainly don’t want to be viewed
as a “one-post wonder”( I see how other’s are treated LOL).

I appreciate the comments posted, and as I asked for comments/thoughts, I’m not really in a position
to now criticize, but I’m certainly not comfortable with the “there’s many more fish in the sea”, or the
“throw that one back, there’s always another swimming passed” thoughts.

If that was/is the attitude, it’s no wonder so many relationships fail. The idea that, if someone doesn’t
bend to your will, or fit your ideals…. then it’s a case of “well, I guess I’ll find someone else” is abhorrent
to me. We might as well live in a “Stepford Wives” society.
A real relationship is about two people in a true partnership, both loving each other through the good
times & bad times, the highs and the lows …. and not for any other reason.

Anyway….. we’ve talked & talked, cried & laughed….. and we’ve decided to move forward TOGETHER,
hand-in-hand.
As the song goes … “for deep inside his heart he knew she was the only one”… I think applies to
both of us.

We’ve been honest with each other, perhaps even hurtful on the things we’ve said … but we are now
closer than ever.
I’ve even learned things about myself (from her point of view) which I wasn’t aware of ….as we are all
too aware, there are always two sides to every story.
She has opened up to me…. her fears, her apprehension, her worries…. And we’ve either addressed them
all, or are in the process of.

So …. once again, my thanks to ALL that commented.
(The more negative ones actually spurred me into a frame of mind to be even more determined that this
would work).

Take care one & all.



“Twenty thousand roads I went down, down, down
And they all lead me straight back home to you”

Good for you grievous angel
I'ts great you were able to sort things out with your gf and that you are doing better now
after talking and opening up to each other more about your feelings....
I hope this is the beginning of a great and wonderful future ahead for the both of you...

And i commend you for being so patient with your gf and loving her unconditionally....
and sticking by her and fighting for her even at her worst...that is so admirable of you....
your gf is so lucky to have you and hopefully she already realized that....
Best of luck to you both....

[Jay&Zobel]

Take care one & all.

“Twenty thousand roads I went down, down, down
And they all lead me straight back home to you”

Awww... take care then and all the best Mate!