Quote Originally Posted by Northerner View Post
Thanks Guy's..

I will be taking it slow, that's for sure!

Just one potential issue is that my ex is also in cebu

Was thinking of meeting her for coffee or something and clear the air, but then I also don't want to upset my new girl...

Hmm... yes.. take it slow...Please allow me to share a bit of my story...

My bf had to come and visit me 3 times before we decided to get married...I also don't want to rush things as I do not want to commit a mistake by marrying the wrong guy... I would want to stay married to just one man.. Anyway, we spent time really getting to know each other.. even to the point of being brutally honest to each other as we agreed to have no secrets between us.. we even had our "time off" away from each other so as to really gauge and assess if this is really the relationship that we want... it was hard at first as I am not use to being straightforward.. but we have coped so far...

Also, if you think that seeing your ex to "clear the air" will help you get rid of a certain baggage (your ex) and once and for all have closure, then do so.. just tell your new girl your objective of seeing your ex.. and I know that she won't mind and would even appreciate that you have been honest with her... she won't mind this unless she's insecure.. and if she is.. well, you now have the opportunity to know a little more about your new girl...

Good luck and I hope that this relationship is the one you truly deserve to have.