Quote Originally Posted by aposhark View Post
It seems to me that "chasing someone down" really doesn’t work with my wife, and I wouldn’t dream of making her frightened or more upset.
Maybe I shouldn't have used that term. I don't literally chase my boyfriend down. It's a long-distance relationship so the moment I get upset, I just tell him (we're online with each other all day anyway). It's always easy to say, "I'm upset." He knows me well enough to understand that there will be no screaming or crying or drama so his reaction is always "Why are you upset?". That leads to a proper discussion and a solution. When it's my fault (half the time it is anyway), I apologise and we move on. When it's his fault, he apologises and we move on. Voila! No chasing and no tampo! Also, when I've done something to upset him, he tells me instead of bottling it all up and being stoic.