Quote Originally Posted by dontpushme View Post
Maybe I shouldn't have used that term. I don't literally chase my boyfriend down. It's a long-distance relationship so the moment I get upset, I just tell him (we're online with each other all day anyway). It's always easy to say, "I'm upset." He knows me well enough to understand that there will be no screaming or crying or drama so his reaction is always "Why are you upset?". That leads to a proper discussion and a solution. When it's my fault (half the time it is anyway), I apologise and we move on. When it's his fault, he apologises and we move on. Voila! No chasing and no tampo! Also, when I've done something to upset him, he tells me instead of bottling it all up and being stoic.
Well for obvious reasons I have never argued with a Filipino man, so I don't know what that is like.
It seems to me that "Tampo" is a very powerful emotion in a Filipina's life.
As they are mostly non-confrontational, us Western men are dealing with a new dynamic. Perhaps your Filipino man acts differently and this is interesting.
I don't see my wife as submissive in any way, but her sulking makes me aware now that timing is the key, but then men have always struggled with timing.