Quote Originally Posted by triple5 View Post
After my previous relationship with a girl from the phils went the shape of a pear earlier this year - see thread: http://filipinaroses.com/showthread.php?t=13441 - I've met another lady from the same city who I've really clicked with. We've been chatting for 3 months now and I've grown very fond of her. I actually met her online indirectly through my ex. She is the cousin of my ex's brother-in-law and we met on friendster through him. Somehow my ex has found out about us and recently contacted me asking that I don't mention our past relationship with any of his side of his family. I cut the conversation off and wished her luck for the future.

Anyway, I was wondering what you guys make of it. Could I be making trouble by pursuing things with this girl? I asked her what she thinks and she says its no problem for her, so I would love to go back there and meet her in person, but do wonder if the ex or any of her family may cause problems.
In attempting to read between the lines here, it occurs to me that your ex MIGHT have something in her past she's been trying to hide ...
something "shady" perhaps ... that she is afraid might resurface if you were to let slip to her brother-in-law's family, the relationship the two of you had. Maybe you should've tried to establish the reason(s) behind her reluctance to have you mention it to them. But then, it's easy to be wise after the event. It just seems odd that she doesn't want them to find out.

As far as I can see from a quick glance through your previous posts, whatever it is that's troubling her has no reflection on YOU. And it would appear to be HER problem ... not yours. So, by all means try to get to the root of it - if you CAN - but tread warily ...