I was just wondering how the other members on here manage to balance their Philippines holidays between visiting family and having a really good, get away from it all, stress free, unwinding holiday.

We're thinking of going to Phils again this year but we always end up arguing about it, because I told my wife that I don't want to go to CDO, where her folks live. I said I don't mind going there for a couple of days at the end of the holiday just to visit and see them.

This is because everytime I have been to Phils it's been the same routine, go to CDO and stay in a hotel in town, then visit her folks up in Bukidnon every couple of days, take the family out for meals in CDO etc and visit her other relatives away out in Balingasag about an hour and a half away from CDO.

The last time we were there we did manage to visit Duka Bay resort for a couple of days, but mostly it's just the same routine. My wife says I'm being selfish because I don't want to visit her family but it's not that, I would just like to have a really nice holiday in a resort hotel with a swimming pool and a beach nearby, somewhere like Bohol for instance.

Do you think I'm being mean or unfair in wanting this?

Iain.