How do you balance your holiday in Phils

[IainBusby]

I don't think you're being mean or unfair at all Iain. We are in the same predicament as yours when we go to Phils.

I don't think going to Phils is a holiday, as everytime I get back here I'd end up needing/wanting a break

Going to Phils for me is just visiting family and I find it very hard to find the right balance. I always get this feeling that my family just want me/us all to themselves! And whenever I mentioned about going somewhere without them, they'd all end up making me feel guilty!

I've tried explaining to them that we work all the time, and that we need to have a break (meaning going somewhere and relaxing just us!), and without having to drag the entire family!

So in the end, I'd end up going to Phils just by myself, and hubby staying behind to look after the kids here, which is not fair on him as he needs a break too

Tish

Precisely! Thats what I mean, I'd like to go there just for a real holiday.

Iain.

[Tish]

Precisely! Thats what I mean, I'd like to go there just for a real holiday.

Iain.

It is so difficult to be able to do just that Iain

We're all hoping to go back next year, but hubby and kids dreading it already

So we might not go there next year now, as we're talking of going somewhere else instead

Tish

[IainBusby]

It is so difficult to be able to do just that Iain

We're all hoping to go back next year, but hubby and kids dreading it already

So we might not go there next year now, as we're talking of going somewhere else instead

Tish

I wouldn't mind if my wife were a little more understanding of my feelings on the matter. I mean, I've gone through that routine 3 times and I'd be happy to go along with her wishes and do it again in the future, maybe next year, because I know it's important for my wife, but this time I'd really like to see some more of the Philippines and have a relaxing holiday as well.

Iain.

[Tish]

I wouldn't mind if my wife were a little more understanding of my feelings on the matter. I mean, I've gone through that routine 3 times and I'd be happy to go along with her wishes and do it again in the future, maybe next year, because I know it's important for my wife, but this time I'd really like to see some more of the Philippines and have a relaxing holiday as well.

Iain.

Hubby and kids just don't want to go back to Phils now, and I don't blame them as they're not really getting that 'well deserve break' whenever we're there, because in the past, we just tend to spend all the time with the family

It is important for me to visit my family too, hence going back to Phils just by myself as all of us going together cost a fortune But when you're doing it too often, I'm now worn out too

Tish

[maria_and_matt]

Hubby and kids just don't want to go back to Phils now, and I don't blame them as they're not really getting that 'well deserve break' whenever we're there, because in the past, we just tend to spend all the time with the family

It is important for me to visit my family too, hence going back to Phils just by myself as all of us going together cost a fortune But when you're doing it too often, I'm now worn out too

Tish

strange, when we go back it is me who feels my family is crowding us... my hubby especially my son loves it, they love it when we go malling or hit the arcades. my hubby normally just disappears with one of my brothers sightseeing, and we all would meet up at the end of the day for a big family dinner at the hotel.

when it turns to be unbearable (for me mostly) i take them both for an hour boat ride to iloilo where i can have my hubby and son all to myself....

[Tish]

strange, when we go back it is me who feels my family is crowding us... my hubby especially my son loves it, they love it when we go malling or hit the arcades. my hubby normally just disappears with one of my brothers sightseeing, and we all would meet up at the end of the day for a big family dinner at the hotel.

when it turns to be unbearable (for me mostly) i take them both for an hour boat ride to iloilo where i can have my hubby and son all to myself....

It's good that your husband and kids fits in really well with your family in PI. But it doesn't work for us though

And like you, I do feel that my family are crowding us at all time

Tish

[maria_and_matt]

It's good that your husband and kids fits in really well with your family in PI. But it doesn't work for us though

And like you, I do feel that my family are crowding us at all time

Tish

it all gets too much after a week for me i miss my alone time

[Tish]

If we can save enough, I suggested to do all sight seeing/holidaying first before heading to visit my family next year, but it would mean, only seeing them for the last few days of our holiday.

And I've no intention of informing my family on our immenent visit until the day before so no guilt trip whining in my ear

We just need to save the money now

Tish

[IainBusby]

If we can save enough, I suggested to do all sight seeing/holidaying first before heading to visit my family next year, but it would mean, only seeing them for the last few days of our holiday.

And I've no intention of informing my family on our immenent visit until the day before so no guilt trip whining in my ear

We just need to save the money now

Tish

Sounds like a great idea. That's more or less what I've suggested, but my wife thinks I'm being unfair and that I just don't wan't to spend time with her family, but to be honest, apart from the extra expense, when I'm on my "much longed for, once a year" annual holiday I wouldn't really want to spend all my time with my family either. I just want us to have a real get away from it all family holiday, just the three of us, my wife, Mary Grace and myself.

To be honest, if my wife and step-daughter already had british citizenship and passports to go with it, I think I would probably be looking at going somewhere other than Phils just to avoid the hassle of it all.

Iain.

[adam&chryss]

Sounds like a great idea. That's more or less what I've suggested, but my wife thinks I'm being unfair and that I just don't wan't to spend time with her family, but to be honest, apart from the extra expense, when I'm on my longed for once a year annual holiday I wouldn't really want to spend time with my family either. I just want us to have a real get away from it all family holiday, just the three of us, my wife, Mary Grace and myself.

To be honest, if my wife and step-daughter already had british citizenship and passports to go with it, I think I would probably be looking to go somewhere other than Phils just to avoid the hassle of it all.

Iain.

I completely understand your situation Iain. You want to unwind and relax after working hard and thats something you deserve isnt it.
Afetr all, if you`re like me you work for 6 days a week and are entitled to a holiday from that where you can get away from any stress.
If you go to Phil then i`m sure you`ll have to make trips here there and everywhere that arn`t of your choice.
From what I remember you`ll also pick up the tab for them!
So it`s like a double whammy. You can`t do what you want and also you`re paying for the privilege too
It`s a difficult situation and I dont know the answer.
Myabe once you`ve found a solution you could let me know cos i`m sure it`ll be happeneing to me in about 2 years time!
Adam