hi to all citizens of filipino uk forum

[bernice_sheila]

am a young woman age 24 i put to birth some 6 months ago i wish to place my son for adoption to any christian and financially viable family living in the UK.i guess you all will help me on how to carry on.

[KeithD]

Contact social services, or your local church.

[LadyJ]

First of all welcome to the forum.

Are you currently living in Phils? If yes:

In my opinion the UK government is encouraging those who wants to adopt to choose those childrens first who are in the waiting list or needs a new family within the UK.

So you're chance of gettting a new family from UK for your son is slim unless you knew a friend or relative who currently living here and happy to adopt your child.

Keep looking for info on the internet though and goodluck to you and your son.

[Arthur Little]

am a young woman age 24 i put to birth some 6 months ago i wish to place my son for adoption to any christian and financially viable family living in the UK.i guess you all will help me on how to carry on.

Welcome to the forum, Bernice/Sheila. First of all, forgive me for asking ... but are you absolutely CERTAIN - in your of s - you really WANT to give-up your son for adoption? It's a HUGE and, for the most part, IRREVERSIBLE step to take!

I stress this point because there may come a time later in life - perhaps when the child grows into adulthood [or maybe even earlier] - that you are filled with a fervent maternal longing to find out how he fared over the intervening years. And he could-well harbour an equally strong desire to meet his natural mother. But, if you are living at opposite ends of the globe from one another, this could prove extremely difficult for both of you.

So please, before you make any "rash" decisions that will influence the lives of two people - yours and your son's - forever, have a heart-to-heart discussion with your parish priest, and also talk to Social Services about the implications.

[GaryFifer]

This post makes me angry. As 2 people had a night of passion you and you boyfriend cannot be bothered now. So much for Filipino family culture.

Face up to responsibility&take care of your child.Money is not everything for what you need to take care of a child. I bet you have a big Filipino family. How did they all survive? Love&care and help from family.

You insult many hardworking Filipinos with your disgusting attitude.They sacrifice in life so kids can get a good life.Get of your ass and help you kid.

[Ana_may365]

This post makes me angry. As 2 people had a night of passion you and you boyfriend cannot be bothered now. So much for Filipino family culture.

Face up to responsibility&take care of your child.Money is not everything for what you need to take care of a child. I bet you have a big Filipino family. How did they all survive? Love&care and help from family.

You insult many hardworking Filipinos with your disgusting attitude.They sacrifice in life so kids can get a good life.Get of your ass and help you kid.

ur absolutely right there!like they say'gagawa gawa tpos di kayang panindigan!

[beppe]

This post makes me angry. As 2 people had a night of passion you and you boyfriend cannot be bothered now. So much for Filipino family culture.

Face up to responsibility&take care of your child.Money is not everything for what you need to take care of a child. I bet you have a big Filipino family. How did they all survive? Love&care and help from family.

You insult many hardworking Filipinos with your disgusting attitude.They sacrifice in life so kids can get a good life.Get of your ass and help you kid.

Everybody can make mistakes, sometimes solidarity suits better than judgment.

[aposhark]

This post makes me angry. As 2 people had a night of passion you and you boyfriend cannot be bothered now. So much for Filipino family culture.

Face up to responsibility&take care of your child.Money is not everything for what you need to take care of a child. I bet you have a big Filipino family. How did they all survive? Love&care and help from family.

You insult many hardworking Filipinos with your disgusting attitude.They sacrifice in life so kids can get a good life.Get of your ass and help you kid.

I agree 100%
A woman takes her panties (knickers) off and now wants to get rid of the result.
Well, the result is a baby.
Yes, sex can make a baby......
My wife has just had a miscarriage and we planned for a baby.
This woman and so many like her makes me sick to my stomach.

As many of you know, I am not religious in any way, but i believe in life and a moral responsibility.
I bet her mother told her the facts of life, people just don't listen.

[Sophie]

I agree 100%
A woman takes her panties (knickers) off and now wants to get rid of the result.
Well, the result is a baby.
Yes, sex can make a baby......
My wife has just had a miscarriage and we planned for a baby.
This woman and so many like her makes me sick to my stomach.

As many of you know, I am not religious in any way, but i believe in life and a moral responsibility.
I bet her mother told her the facts of life, people just don't listen.

Sorry to hear about your wife's miscarriage aposhark......There's always a next time.....
I'm sure you'll be able to make more babies in the future.....

[winner]

well said gary2 jessica i would have said the same to

[miss.piggy]

am a young woman age 24 i put to birth some 6 months ago i wish to place my son for adoption to any christian and financially viable family living in the UK.i guess you all will help me on how to carry on.

Hi Sheila,

I have a friend who is so pretty, so bubbly, and so smart -- but not so smart in choosing a guy for herself. She got pregnant when she was 23 and it was a huge problem because her parents didn't know about it, and her father is the most difficult person you would ever meet. She also found out the guy who got her pregnant was actually married. The guy suggested they abort the baby. She never spoke to him again.

She had no choice but to let her parents know -- all tablewares flying, there's swearing, etc., but her parents knew they also had no choice but to accept what happened and support their own child.

Three years after, my friend met another guy. He's single (for a change), but still not the right person for her. They've decided to get separated, and then she found out she's pregnant.

My friend is bringing up two kids on her own for the last 8 years. Her family has never supported them financially, but they were there to take care of the kids when she's at work.

I am telling you this story to make you realise that you are not and will never be the only single parent to raise a child on her own. If you do not have your family with you, I tell you, there is always, always someone who will be willing to help.

I don't know what your actual situation is aside from your being 24 years old and now have a 6-month old boy. The decision to put your child for adoption is not a joke, so you must be in an adverse position to come up with this idea. But as a mother of two beautiful kids myself, it's a bit sad that another mother somewhere is giving up on her own child. I know it's not an easy decision, so you may want to rethink this over again and no need to be hasty.

And may I suggest that instead of you thinking about how well your child would be with another parent or family, why not think of how well your child will be being with you as his biological parent? You may not be able to shower him with material things, but you can always give him an overwhelming love which is natural -- because you are his MOTHER.

[Tawi2]

Hi Sheila,

I have a friend who is so pretty, so bubbly, and so smart -- but not so smart in choosing a guy for herself. She got pregnant when she was 23 and it was a huge problem because her parents didn't know about it, and her father is the most difficult person you would ever meet. She also found out the guy who got her pregnant was actually married. The guy suggested they abort the baby. She never spoke to him again.

She had no choice but to let her parents know -- all tablewares flying, there's swearing, etc., but her parents knew they also had no choice but to accept what happened and support their own child.

Three years after, my friend met another guy. He's single (for a change), but still not the right person for her. They've decided to get separated, and then she found out she's pregnant.

My friend is bringing up two kids on her own for the last 8 years. Her family has never supported them financially, but they were there to take care of the kids when she's at work.

I am telling you this story to make you realise that you are not and will never be the only single parent to raise a child on her own. If you do not have your family with you, I tell you, there is always, always someone who will be willing to help.

I don't know what your actual situation is aside from your being 24 years old and now have a 6-month old boy. The decision to put your child for adoption is not a joke, so you must be in an adverse position to come up with this idea. But as a mother of two beautiful kids myself, it's a bit sad that another mother somewhere is giving up on her own child. I know it's not an easy decision, so you may want to rethink this over again and no need to be hasty.

And may I suggest that instead of you thinking about how well your child would be with another parent or family, why not think of how well your child will be being with you as his biological parent? You may not be able to shower him with material things, but you can always give him an overwhelming love which is natural -- because you are his MOTHER.

Piggy,can I just say your a true humanitarian,your husband must be very,very proud of you I read the other posts and was quite surprised,theres an old saying,never judge a person till you have walked a mile in their shoes,its probably taken a lot of guts for this young lady to sign-on and log-in,not one of us know what she is going through,or her circumstances,so not one of us can judge her,I felt her pain when I read her post,very,very sad,but I liked your response piggy I think you realise a little of the hardship of life,we cant obviously understand her motives,but you understand a little because of your vicarious experiences from your friend,I hope she resolves her problem,lifes hard sometimes,a little compassion goes a long way

[miss.piggy]

Thanks Tawi, I'm just being realistic. I was also surprised with a few responses to this post, but hey...

I don't condemn, because I have seen life in the Philippines. I can say my life is pretty boring compared to most people there -- I don't exactly have the colourful telenovela kind of life, but I was lead to listen to most people whose life experiences are second to impossibility. But their stories are only good because they fought, or atleast they tried. I hope Sheila would make her own story as good, whatever decision she might end up with.

[joebloggs]

I read the other posts and was quite surprised,theres an old saying,never judge a person till you have walked a mile in their shoes

and that's if they even have a pair of shoes

at least she didn't have an abortion, but i would never give my kids up for adoption

[aposhark]

Piggy,can I just say your a true humanitarian,your husband must be very,very proud of you I read the other posts and was quite surprised,theres an old saying,never judge a person till you have walked a mile in their shoes,its probably taken a lot of guts for this young lady to sign-on and log-in,not one of us know what she is going through,or her circumstances,so not one of us can judge her,I felt her pain when I read her post,very,very sad,but I liked your response piggy I think you realise a little of the hardship of life,we cant obviously understand her motives,but you understand a little because of your vicarious experiences from your friend,I hope she resolves her problem,lifes hard sometimes,a little compassion goes a long way

Is this woman being a humanitarian to her baby?

[Tawi2]

I am not religious in any way shape nor form but we have all made mistakes in one form or another,I just didnt want to harshly judge a kid.

[aposhark]

I am not religious in any way shape nor form but we have all made mistakes in one form or another,I just didnt want to harshly judge a kid.

Yes, but she doing worse to her now unwanted baby - not even thinking of the consequences of her actions.

[Tiggers0608]

Hi Sheila,

I have a friend who is so pretty, so bubbly, and so smart -- but not so smart in choosing a guy for herself. She got pregnant when she was 23 and it was a huge problem because her parents didn't know about it, and her father is the most difficult person you would ever meet. She also found out the guy who got her pregnant was actually married. The guy suggested they abort the baby. She never spoke to him again.

She had no choice but to let her parents know -- all tablewares flying, there's swearing, etc., but her parents knew they also had no choice but to accept what happened and support their own child.

Three years after, my friend met another guy. He's single (for a change), but still not the right person for her. They've decided to get separated, and then she found out she's pregnant.

My friend is bringing up two kids on her own for the last 8 years. Her family has never supported them financially, but they were there to take care of the kids when she's at work.

I am telling you this story to make you realise that you are not and will never be the only single parent to raise a child on her own. If you do not have your family with you, I tell you, there is always, always someone who will be willing to help.

I don't know what your actual situation is aside from your being 24 years old and now have a 6-month old boy. The decision to put your child for adoption is not a joke, so you must be in an adverse position to come up with this idea. But as a mother of two beautiful kids myself, it's a bit sad that another mother somewhere is giving up on her own child. I know it's not an easy decision, so you may want to rethink this over again and no need to be hasty.

And may I suggest that instead of you thinking about how well your child would be with another parent or family, why not think of how well your child will be being with you as his biological parent? You may not be able to shower him with material things, but you can always give him an overwhelming love which is natural -- because you are his MOTHER.

hi miss piggy just curious about ur friend, coz i have a friend who's in the same situation as in and her eldest is 8.yo the youngest one is 3y.o. , her family in watching her kids bcoz she's working hard.

and about bernice_sheila why do u want ur child to be adopt by a family in UK? are u in the phils? won't u miss him if he gets adopted? coz in my opinion only ok, i would rather be with my child and work hard than thinking of whats happening or whats going on with him.

i have lots of friends who got pregnant and the guy ran away without any traced but my friends are working hard for their kids, some of them even work in other country to give a good future to their kids.

i'm not against you in putting ur child for adoption but its only my point of view and a view as mother also hope i didnt step on someones point of view again

[miss.piggy]

[QUOTE=Tiggers0608;151113] hi miss piggy just curious about ur friend, coz i have a friend who's in the same situation as in and her eldest is 8.yo the youngest one is 3y.o. , her family in watching her kids bcoz she's working hard. QUOTE]

Hi Tiggers0608,

Hmmm...my friend is now working in Singapore, while her parents take care of her 8 and 3 year old girls in the Philippines.

[GaryFifer]

I condemn if she gives up. That is me! I do not give up. Remember that British attitude- we will never surrender. Well that i why we won the war and have so many hero like the guys in Colditz, Douglas Bader, Cromwell. Dr Bruce Hunt.

[Tawi2]

But thats the thing,she isnt a hero,she isnt a heroine,she is a young woman,probably a single parent mother,certainly facing mental turmoil and anguish over her circumstances,we are lucky in this country,we cant empathise with her plight because we have a cushion,a social network that will always support us,but we could spare a few kind words for a kid who is going through something most of us cant even imagine,maybe I am getting soft in my old age,but life isnt good for everyone in this world,just because our experiences dont mesh with hers doesnt mean we should be harsh in words,a little sympathy costs absolutely nothing

[charlwill]

Hi, Tawi2 lovely to see you again. Where have you been?

[fred]

But thats the thing,she isnt a hero,she isnt a heroine,she is a young woman,probably a single parent mother,certainly facing mental turmoil and anguish over her circumstances,we are lucky in this country,we cant empathise with her plight because we have a cushion,a social network that will always support us,but we could spare a few kind words for a kid who is going through something most of us cant even imagine,maybe I am getting soft in my old age,but life isnt good for everyone in this world,just because our experiences dont mesh with hers doesnt mean we should be harsh in words,a little sympathy costs absolutely nothing

Very well said Sir!!!

(I still reckon this thread is a good ole fashioned wind up however)

[joebloggs]

Very well said Sir!!!

(I still reckon this thread is a good ole fashioned wind up however)

yes, maybe by someone who is bored and has nothing better to do, but sit under a plam tree all day

[fred]

yes, maybe by someone who is bored and has nothing better to do, but sit under a plam tree all day

Thats a very cynical attitude you are displaying there Joe..
A plam tree you say??

[aposhark]

yes, maybe by someone who is bored and has nothing better to do, but sit under a plam tree all day

Didn't know they had plum trees in Phils

Think you hurt Fred's feelings there, Joe !

[Florge]

I condemn if she gives up. That is me! I do not give up. Remember that British attitude- we will never surrender. Well that i why we won the war and have so many hero like the guys in Colditz, Douglas Bader, Cromwell. Dr Bruce Hunt.

Maybe for her, giving up her son for adoption hoping that he will have a better life, is a heroic act for her... well, who are we to judge what's heroic or not... we simply do not know what she has been through or going through...

[Pepe n Pilar]

Hey Tawi2 you're back!.... You can't leave your friends here...

To bernice shiela,
You're 24 and very young. I am deeply touched by your present predicament. Just wondering how you could be able to bear the pain and loneliness if your baby will be put to adoption. Pls think 1000 times before doing it. You'll never know when he grows up he will be someone to give sunshine to your life. Even now as a baby, he is a gift. You're lucky you had him, some people are dying to have a baby. I remember there was a filipina who gave birth to a daughter when she was only 18. She was still in the university and wanted to abort it for she was still very young, and not yet ready to start a family. Definitely her family was against it so she hid it from them. Her bf then and she decided to pursue her pregnancy against all odds. Now, their daughter has given so much to their family. In terms of love, care and she is someone to be proud of. You know what i mean...

I just hope you could sort this out. Just think of some girls who are younger than you but had fought the battles and were able to traverse the long path to a better life ahead. I know we are just here for advices and you're the one concerned and we don't know exactly what you've been through...
Wish you all the best... And hope you'll arrive at the right decision which will be good for both of you...

Take care..

BTW welcome to the forum!

[pennybarry]

I wish you're my sister ehehhehe I said I want to adopt your boy if I got settled in UK. She is alright but I can feel her loneliness everytime I mentioned so I just help her son for the meantime.
But my other nieces who were finished their course, their Moms(my sis) forcing me to adopt their nurses daughters. They said, they are all yours now as they finished their courses already I said they're all above 18

One time I was watching Reporters notebook and there was little girl who wants to be adopted by someone. No more parents just living with his grandad who is dying It was heartbreaking as she walks 7 miles everyday to go to school, she lives in the highland. I sent email to Reporters Notebook and got reply. She's under DSWD and accepting financial help.

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