hi to all citizens of filipino uk forum

[Tawi2]

Hi Sheila,

I have a friend who is so pretty, so bubbly, and so smart -- but not so smart in choosing a guy for herself. She got pregnant when she was 23 and it was a huge problem because her parents didn't know about it, and her father is the most difficult person you would ever meet. She also found out the guy who got her pregnant was actually married. The guy suggested they abort the baby. She never spoke to him again.

She had no choice but to let her parents know -- all tablewares flying, there's swearing, etc., but her parents knew they also had no choice but to accept what happened and support their own child.

Three years after, my friend met another guy. He's single (for a change), but still not the right person for her. They've decided to get separated, and then she found out she's pregnant.

My friend is bringing up two kids on her own for the last 8 years. Her family has never supported them financially, but they were there to take care of the kids when she's at work.

I am telling you this story to make you realise that you are not and will never be the only single parent to raise a child on her own. If you do not have your family with you, I tell you, there is always, always someone who will be willing to help.

I don't know what your actual situation is aside from your being 24 years old and now have a 6-month old boy. The decision to put your child for adoption is not a joke, so you must be in an adverse position to come up with this idea. But as a mother of two beautiful kids myself, it's a bit sad that another mother somewhere is giving up on her own child. I know it's not an easy decision, so you may want to rethink this over again and no need to be hasty.

And may I suggest that instead of you thinking about how well your child would be with another parent or family, why not think of how well your child will be being with you as his biological parent? You may not be able to shower him with material things, but you can always give him an overwhelming love which is natural -- because you are his MOTHER.

Piggy,can I just say your a true humanitarian,your husband must be very,very proud of you I read the other posts and was quite surprised,theres an old saying,never judge a person till you have walked a mile in their shoes,its probably taken a lot of guts for this young lady to sign-on and log-in,not one of us know what she is going through,or her circumstances,so not one of us can judge her,I felt her pain when I read her post,very,very sad,but I liked your response piggy I think you realise a little of the hardship of life,we cant obviously understand her motives,but you understand a little because of your vicarious experiences from your friend,I hope she resolves her problem,lifes hard sometimes,a little compassion goes a long way

[miss.piggy]

Thanks Tawi, I'm just being realistic. I was also surprised with a few responses to this post, but hey...

I don't condemn, because I have seen life in the Philippines. I can say my life is pretty boring compared to most people there -- I don't exactly have the colourful telenovela kind of life, but I was lead to listen to most people whose life experiences are second to impossibility. But their stories are only good because they fought, or atleast they tried. I hope Sheila would make her own story as good, whatever decision she might end up with.

[joebloggs]

I read the other posts and was quite surprised,theres an old saying,never judge a person till you have walked a mile in their shoes

and that's if they even have a pair of shoes

at least she didn't have an abortion, but i would never give my kids up for adoption

[aposhark]

Piggy,can I just say your a true humanitarian,your husband must be very,very proud of you I read the other posts and was quite surprised,theres an old saying,never judge a person till you have walked a mile in their shoes,its probably taken a lot of guts for this young lady to sign-on and log-in,not one of us know what she is going through,or her circumstances,so not one of us can judge her,I felt her pain when I read her post,very,very sad,but I liked your response piggy I think you realise a little of the hardship of life,we cant obviously understand her motives,but you understand a little because of your vicarious experiences from your friend,I hope she resolves her problem,lifes hard sometimes,a little compassion goes a long way

Is this woman being a humanitarian to her baby?

[Tawi2]

I am not religious in any way shape nor form but we have all made mistakes in one form or another,I just didnt want to harshly judge a kid.

[aposhark]

I am not religious in any way shape nor form but we have all made mistakes in one form or another,I just didnt want to harshly judge a kid.

Yes, but she doing worse to her now unwanted baby - not even thinking of the consequences of her actions.

[Arthur Little]

Yes, but she doing worse to her now unwanted baby - not even thinking of the consequences of her actions.

I'm not one to judge, but I can well-understand your views, Mike. And may I say how very sorry I am to read about yours and Rochelyn's situation.

[aposhark]

I'm not one to judge, but I can well-understand your views, Mike. And may I say how very sorry I am to read about yours and Rochelyn's situation.

Thank you for your kind words, Arthur.
Tears and silence give way to hope for the future.
It's the only way.

As I mentioned in my blog, I was so shocked to realise how many first pregnancies end in miscarriages.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Miscarriage

It is very simple being a man in comparison.