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    Smile Plain Housewife or a Working Wife

    Just want to know the stand of the married couples (and singles) here.

    Ladies, do you prefer to be a plain housewife or do you want to have a professional career as well? Guys, do you want your wife to stay at home and take care of the kids (and you ) or do you want her to have a career as well?


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    Quote Originally Posted by jam07 View Post
    Just want to know the stand of the married couples (and singles) here.

    Ladies, do you prefer to be a plain housewife or do you want to have a professional career as well? Guys, do you want your wife to stay at home and take care of the kids (and you ) or do you want her to have a career as well?
    my husband don't mind me to working as long as i balance my time with him, and for me im a hard worker and i don't like staying at home.
    all things are possible!


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    I have not yet met a Filipina who is not a hard worker and who wants to work. I think VB is right, it is about balancing child caring, time together and letting our wives flourish intelectually as they were often held back/could not finish education for financial or other reasons. At the same time even if we are financially able to allow/want our wives to stay home we need to respect their desire for some independence and ability to send funds home if they want or spend on things they just want without " asking hubby". I keep sying to ligaya that she has total access to our accounts with her own cards but she still sometimes says that she wants her own money. I appreciate this independant spirit very much and try to find ways for her to work for home such as running a Swedish catalogue order cosmetics business, maybe applying for childminder training when our 2nd one is a little older or even starting a web support training course where she can work from anywhere.
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    Quote Originally Posted by maria_and_matt View Post
    i wanted to work but my husband wants me to stay home...
    That is because you dont need to........nice life you had
    Quote Originally Posted by vbkelly View Post
    my husband don't mind me to working as long as i balance my time with him, and for me im a hard worker and i don't like staying at home.
    I will go for your reason Bhing, same here


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    Quote Originally Posted by jam07 View Post
    Just want to know the stand of the married couples (and singles) here.

    Ladies, do you prefer to be a plain housewife or do you want to have a professional career as well? Guys, do you want your wife to stay at home and take care of the kids (and you ) or do you want her to have a career as well?
    Hello,
    With my wife and I, we are still waiting for her settlement visa but if possible she wants to work to give her the independance to be able to send money home without asking me.
    As I have just retired I will happly become the "House Husband".
    Mick.


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    Quote Originally Posted by mickcant View Post
    Hello,
    With my wife and I, we are still waiting for her settlement visa but if possible she wants to work to give her the independance to be able to send money home without asking me.
    As I have just retired I will happly become the "House Husband".
    Mick.
    Ironing, cooking, cleaning the house, etc. that's sweet of you
    Not an expert, I only try to help.


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    Quote Originally Posted by LadyJ View Post
    Ironing, cooking, cleaning the house, etc. that's sweet of you
    Hi Lady,
    Yes I will do all that except the ironing, I drip dry insted!
    And with the cooking that will also mean I do not have fish and rice every meal
    Mick.


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    i wanted to work but my husband wants me to stay home...
    God grant me the serenity to accept the things i cannot change, the courage to change the things i can and the wisdom to hide the bodies of those people i had to kill because they pissed me off.


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    Quote Originally Posted by maria_and_matt View Post
    i wanted to work but my husband wants me to stay home...
    you listen to your husband

    my misses doesn't listen to anything i say


    but she does what she wants, works part time, studying, cooking, cleaning, looking after the kids and sleeping


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    Quote Originally Posted by maria_and_matt View Post
    i wanted to work but my husband wants me to stay home...
    Lucky you...you have all the time in the world to enjoy the UK. That would be fantastic too if you have friends around who are also not working so you can do some chika chika anytime.


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    Quote Originally Posted by LadyJ View Post
    Ironing, cooking, cleaning the house, etc. that's sweet of you
    Hi LadyJ,

    Nice to see we are appreciated!

    The stereotype of a man who cannot do these things or equally the one of the helpless woman who cannot put a shelf up has gone these days in my opinion.
    There are some women who are very capable at practical things, and there are some men who can "iron, cook and clean the house".

    When my wife sees me wash the dishes sometimes, she says "are you a woman, dear", but she is the first one to tell her Filipina friends that I do a lot of cooking for her.

    However, I think it is rather nice to see my wife cook for me, maybe it is something that harkens back to our ancestors and what we perceive.
    It seems that the boundaries of male/female roles have blurred over the last 50 years as people live increasingly single lives.


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    Quote Originally Posted by mickcant View Post
    As I have just retired I will happly become the "House Husband".
    Mick.
    LOL a "HOUSEBAND" for a change
    "10% of life is made up of what happens to you, 90% is decided by how you react"
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sophie View Post
    LOL a "HOUSEBAND" for a change
    sounds like your fate is set ..... you will be HOUSEBOUND for eternity


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    Quote Originally Posted by meandwifey View Post
    sounds like your fate is set ..... you will be HOUSEBOUND for eternity
    LOL, that's a scary thought.....and would drive anyone insane, lol
    "10% of life is made up of what happens to you, 90% is decided by how you react"
    "The way to love anything is to realize that it may be lost"


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    Quote Originally Posted by Sophie View Post
    LOL a "HOUSEBAND" for a change
    bit of luck i might be housebond to

    the misses can earn alot more than me


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    Quote Originally Posted by joebloggs View Post
    bit of luck i might be housebond to

    the misses can earn alot more than me
    LOL, why not? It doesn't hurt to turn the tables around for a change, lol
    "10% of life is made up of what happens to you, 90% is decided by how you react"
    "The way to love anything is to realize that it may be lost"


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    Quote Originally Posted by Sophie View Post
    LOL, why not? It doesn't hurt to turn the tables around for a change, lol
    oh shes always worn the trousers in the house,, we and me dog know our place.. under the table

    she will have to show me how to use the microwave thou, i'm waiting for her to come back from the school play, so she can warm me tea up


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    Quote Originally Posted by jam07 View Post
    Just want to know the stand of the married couples (and singles) here.

    Ladies, do you prefer to be a plain housewife or do you want to have a professional career as well? Guys, do you want your wife to stay at home and take care of the kids (and you ) or do you want her to have a career as well?
    hi same as me,i dont want stay at home and do nothing so bored,
    and i had two kind of work on 6days,
    i like working specially i got my wages and holiday wow


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    Quote Originally Posted by jam07 View Post
    Just want to know the stand of the married couples (and singles) here.

    Ladies, do you prefer to be a plain housewife or do you want to have a professional career as well? Guys, do you want your wife to stay at home and take care of the kids (and you ) or do you want her to have a career as well?
    Whenever I am bed,house,workplace etc I always work 24/7
    Not an expert, I only try to help.


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    I want to work but at the moment i stock at home as we have 16 mos old toddler. So while the summer is good i have to plant ALOGBATE and KANGKONG as we had big garden...Anyone u peps want to cook SINIGANG?


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    Quote Originally Posted by ca143 View Post
    I want to work but at the moment i stock at home as we have 16 mos old toddler. So while the summer is good i have to plant ALOGBATE and KANGKONG as we had big garden...Anyone u peps want to cook SINIGANG?
    My husband dont want me to work cause we have 2 the kids i have 4 yrs old & 2 months old ,,and sometimes hes away coz of the job


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    Quote Originally Posted by ca143 View Post
    I want to work but at the moment i stock at home as we have 16 mos old toddler. So while the summer is good i have to plant ALOGBATE and KANGKONG as we had big garden...Anyone u peps want to cook SINIGANG?
    From Leyte ka CA143? Whereabouts in Leyte?


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    Quote Originally Posted by miss.piggy View Post
    From Leyte ka CA143? Whereabouts in Leyte?
    yes,Palompon but my village is 15km.away from town proper.Tga leyte sad ka?wer dapit?


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    Quote Originally Posted by ca143 View Post
    yes,Palompon but my village is 15km.away from town proper.Tga leyte sad ka?wer dapit?
    I stayed at Tacloban City for a couple of years...studied there too before I went to Uni and came back to my parent's house in Manila. Lived at Justice Romualdez. Uy, I'm missing the street ihaw ihaw - sugba by the beach!


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    Quote Originally Posted by miss.piggy View Post
    I stayed at Tacloban City for a couple of years...studied there too before I went to Uni and came back to my parent's house in Manila. Lived at Justice Romualdez. Uy, I'm missing the street ihaw ihaw - sugba by the beach!
    OHHhh ic,Tacloban is very far away from my place....ohhh i think we hijack thise thread na,,,can send me pm...hehehe


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    My wifey is a working wife...my biggest fear was that she would become a carer...and she did! Dohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!

    But it's actually turned out good in many ways...she has many filipino friends now...it seems about 70% of the staff at these care homes are filipino's...they even cook themselves filipino dishes for themselves down there sometimes...

    By the way is there any monument to thank the Filipino carers here in Britain...methinks they're should be...

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    Quote Originally Posted by miss.piggy View Post
    From Leyte ka CA143? Whereabouts in Leyte?
    hi miss p im from abuyog leyte not far from tacloban


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    Quote Originally Posted by lizaphil View Post
    hi miss p im from abuyog leyte not far from tacloban
    oh hello!

    is abuyog near visca?


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    im a plain housewife im not lazy but i rather to be with my hubby 24/7


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    Right now im working, it is because my hubby is always away to work, so not stuck in the house and still have social life..

    But when we have a baby i will probably be a plain housewife to take care of my kids and hubby
    It's good to have money and the things that money can buy, but it's good to check up once in a while to make sure you haven't lost the things that money can't buy.


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