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    Why does sex always enter into it?Truthfully,why not just get to know each other as friends,why cant you just hang out as mates and see where it leads?Its a little too soon to be declaring undying love to each other isnt it? How long have you known her?Hinay hinay lang



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    Quote Originally Posted by Tawi2 View Post
    Why does sex always enter into it?Truthfully,why not just get to know each other as friends,why cant you just hang out as mates and see where it leads?Its a little too soon to be declaring undying love to each other isnt it? How long have you known her?Hinay hinay lang
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    Quote Originally Posted by Pepe n Pilar View Post
    Hi Northener,

    I have read different views from different people of different backgrounds. I agree with some comments that they hold on to their virginity until the marriage. To some that were not able to wait, then so be it.

    Based on your situation, you already had talked about sex with your gf. So more or less you both has known how one feels with each other.. We can't give the exact advices on here as you are the one concerned. But anyway, i agree with Aposhark comments, if you want to avoid having sex then get separate rooms. It is still tempting if you get 2 beds but still in the same room.

    As long as strong love connects to both of you then sleeping in the same bed without sex is uncontrollable. Unless it is a platonic love..

    BTW is this your first time to meet each other?. I have known a filipina who has been chatting with her bf for more than 6 months but they never talk about sex. She said it was only mentioned perhaps in one of their chats and one email so they got ideas on their own views about the subject. When they first met because her bf met her in her country, they easily got along well with each other and staying in one room was not a big deal for them. I suppose they are both matured enough to handle the given situation and so they just carry on what they feel with each one. Now they are already married and have a daughter. Love is so strong that no room for malice or whatsoever was given on that first meeting.

    Just my views. No offence to anyone.

    Best of luck.

    Cheers!
    Well, for staying in the city I think we might both get our own room now. although to get to know each other better first and also to get to know her family. It has been confirmed I will be staying with her at her uncles. And I am sre we will share a room there... Along with a ton of nephews and nieces (I've seen the little tikes in the background on the webcam)

    Quote Originally Posted by Florge View Post
    This thread had taken me 2 years back. back at the time when fiancee and I are about to meet and had a discussion on sex..

    What he told me was, he wouldn't force it if I don't want to.. and I would have to ask if I want to have sex... it was comforting for me at that time.. he kept reassuring me that he's not coming over for the sex.. but coming over to get to know me, meet my friends and my family.. and see if I am still the same person online and off... I appreciated him for that and I looked forward to meeting him in person.

    Northerner, Rizza is in a difficult situation. She is trying to gauge if you are the one for her, and also trying not to pressure herself to give up her virginity just so you won't "leave" her for not having sex. Support her on that. Let her decide for herself and respect her decision. To be frank with you, she is actually considering it since she wanted to discuss it with you. Meaning, she may be thinking that you're the one. But don't put your hopes too high.

    Stay at her uncle's for a few days.. just so she'll get comfortable with you around. Let her feel that you are after her as a person, and not the sex. And when you decide to go elsewhere, the sex may or may not happen. But as what the others have said, let her decide on it.

    This shouldn't be a difficult issue for you coz I think you're not after the sex anyway. You're coming here to get to know Rizza on a deeper, more personal level so, whether you'll be staying in a hotel alone or with her, sex should not be an issue.

    Right?
    Florge, I think everyone on this Forum knows that if I went to the phils for sex there are far easier (and cheaper) ways to get it! Plus, I have already made it clear to Rizza that I am happy to come and leave the phils without having sex and I won't be expecting it. I also made it clear (I hope) that sex is not a requirement for me to take things further..

    Quote Originally Posted by Tawi2 View Post
    Why does sex always enter into it?Truthfully,why not just get to know each other as friends,why cant you just hang out as mates and see where it leads?Its a little too soon to be declaring undying love to each other isnt it? How long have you known her?Hinay hinay lang
    Ahh, Tawi2. I'm still trying to take it slow

    But we are both adults who have been in these situations before (Me and Rizza, no ideas anyone) and I think we both realise that a relationship requires two people working towards the same goal. I think we both want to find someone to love, trust and marry. And right now we are just working things out and seeing if that is us together...


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    Quote Originally Posted by Northerner View Post
    Florge, I think everyone on this Forum knows that if I went to the phils for sex there are far easier (and cheaper) ways to get it! Plus, I have already made it clear to Rizza that I am happy to come and leave the phils without having sex and I won't be expecting it. I also made it clear (I hope) that sex is not a requirement for me to take things further..
    Oh goodie!!! just assure and reassure her once the topic is being discussed again... that's how "makulit" women are.. we need reassurance on even the minutest of things...

    Good luck, and I'm happy for you!


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    Is it Pinay speed-dating



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    Quote Originally Posted by Tawi2 View Post
    Is it Pinay speed-dating
    No, that was my ex


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    Plus, this way I get to live with a real pinoy family, try real pinoy food and live (for a few days) in another culture

    Not the fake, McHotel activities I usually end up doing


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    A "Real" pinoy family be afraid,be VERY afraid



    Sometimes you're flush and sometimes you're bust, and when you're up, it's never as good as it seems, and when you're down, you never think you'll be up again. But life goes on.
    The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It's the passion that she shows to the outside world.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Tawi2 View Post
    A "Real" pinoy family be afraid,be VERY afraid
    I already am.....



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    Quote Originally Posted by Northerner View Post
    I already am.....

    I stayed in a single room in the middle of Cebu,just off fuente Osmena with a guy I met at sabong,there was no aircon and a zillion kids,and him and his wife and me and a random old lady who was a distant auntI stayed there for two days,had a great time



    Sometimes you're flush and sometimes you're bust, and when you're up, it's never as good as it seems, and when you're down, you never think you'll be up again. But life goes on.
    The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It's the passion that she shows to the outside world.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Northerner View Post
    Plus, this way I get to live with a real pinoy family, try real pinoy food and live (for a few days) in another culture

    Not the fake, McHotel activities I usually end up doing
    Quote Originally Posted by Tawi2 View Post
    A "Real" pinoy family be afraid,be VERY afraid
    Quote Originally Posted by Florge View Post
    LOL@Tawi... don't scare him!
    Quote Originally Posted by Northerner View Post
    I already am.....


    lol... Oh you will love Philippines to bits, I assure you that!

    Have a happy & safe trip!!!


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    Quote Originally Posted by Northerner View Post
    Well, for staying in the city I think we might both get our own room now. although to get to know each other better first and also to get to know her family. It has been confirmed I will be staying with her at her uncles.
    Yeah that would be a great idea!. You will avoid the temptation. And have a separate room as well. A filipina was visited by her foreign bf also staying with her Aunt. She has cousins and nieces living with them as well. The bf was given the guest room which the Aunt had suggested but stayed in that house for the whole duration of his stay. That was his first visit ( no sex). They have both agreed on that. The second time was she went abroad on fiancee visa. Now, they are happily married..

    Best of luck!
    " The people who mean something to your life are not rated "the best" don't have the most money, haven't won the greatest prizes....
    They are the ones who care about you, take care of you, those who, no matter what, stay close by... "


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