Hiding something from me?

[joebloggs]

T I am saying is if your both comfortable with the relationship and you both have a set plan and you can see each other for maybe 2 months a year thats fine for some,we dont all have the same agenda

what if both are not? who wants to waste 5yrs, going seeing some one for 1 month a year if your lucky, and because of time and distance apart for that 'relationship' to go nowhere.

[Tawi2]

what if both are not? who wants to waste 5yrs, going seeing some one for 1 month a year if your lucky, and because of time and distance apart for that 'relationship' to go nowhere.

Well,if both of you are not happy in a relationship the unhappy one should bail-out,thats common sense,who is going to sit in a sinking boay while the water is lapping around their ankles But every single couple on the face of this planet has a different relationship from their neighbours,we are all different.

[joebloggs]

Well,if both of you are not happy in a relationship the unhappy one should bail-out,thats common sense,who is going to sit in a sinking boay while the water is lapping around their ankles But every single couple on the face of this planet has a different relationship from their neighbours,we are all different.

but it isn't a relationship when you've spent 5yrs seeing someone for maybe 4wks a year, surely lifers in prison get more rights than that

so say after 3yrs, one wants to end this waiting game and the other wants to continue, what about the 3yrs of commitment that person gave you, wasted ?, easy to say walk away..

but yes each to their own..

[Tawi2]

but it isn't a relationship when you've spent 5yrs seeing someone for maybe 4wks a year, surely lifers in prison get more rights than that

so say after 3yrs, one wants to end this waiting game and the other wants to continue, what about the 3yrs of commitment that person gave you, wasted ?, easy to say walk away..

but yes each to their own..

Lifers in prison?Yup,thats a good analogy for people who have rushed into marriage and find out too late they chose the wrong partner,most pinays will just hang on in there for the sake of ang pamilya Your also right about 3 years wasted on failed relationships,the chinese call it spilt milk,but havent we all had girlfriends even for a few months that didnt work out?Thats also wasted time,if you have 10 girlfriends,each lasted 3 months theres two and a half years gone,its all relative.Different strokes for different folks,we all have varying speeds in life.

[aposhark]

.........But every single couple on the face of this planet has a different relationship from their neighbours,we are all different.

I thought I was unique in my pursuit of happiness with my new Mahal.
We all start out on a quest and are bewildered at times.

Some things happened and I was amazed at the insight of the members on this forum.
That is why advice here is invaluable to everyone, because there is no substitute for experience and some here have seen the same problems over and over again.

I have realised that "no man is an island" and I can respect the viewpoint of others here to see the red flags / warning signs.

5 years does seem a tad too long for this lady to wait, but hey, I have been wrong before!