yesterday, i had a chat with my british boyfriend. He was pricky. Our usual daily hour chat ended with hurt feelings. Why was that so? Overnight, i did looked back on how we are handling our long distant relationship that had span for 5 solid years. Yesterday, he felt irritated of my question " why are always offline in the IM?
ldr,s are very hard work at times wether its 1 year 2 yrs or 5 years it does not get any easierjust hang in there maybe he just had a bad day at work
Originally Posted by eagles
I showed offline when relatives or friends were online, because I didn't want to be disturbed by them, while chatting with my mahal...
Maybe he wasn't feeing well that time or he had a problem and he couldn't tell you that time...I wish everything would be fine later...
One hour a day ! seems a bit limited, even allowing for the time difference.yesterday, i had a chat with my british boyfriend. He was pricky
Not knowing the full story of your relationship. its hard to say anything.
BUT on your comments above, my opinion is that he is one of those who have a few filipina on his list to chat with.
And after 5 years.... maybe you should start again and look for a guy who is online and able to take less than 5 years to either get you into the UK or move to PI!
I hope I am wrong for your sake... but thats my opinion! Soory!
5yrs in a LDR
how have you made it last so long
3+Yrs me and the misses were in a LDR was bad enough..
time and distance not good for any relationship, you get use to living your own life in your own world
Could just be a bad day, we all have them....one minute we can be up, the next minute down.
5 years is a long time, how many times has he been to visit you?
thanks for the advices..By the stories shared on the forum, less than 3 years, the couple were either together and married. Anyway, we will see the outcome of this LDR
hi eagles,yesterday, i had a chat with my british boyfriend. He was pricky
sorry about what happened I am sure everything will be ok soon..
Uve been LDR for 5yrs? how many times uve meet already? oh sorry nosy.
Hi eagles, as what most here said already, maybe he just had a bad day.....
We all have bad days and get into a mood once in a while....due to outside factors most likely and nothing to do with you....
And yeah, 5 years of LDR is a bit long indeed but i commend you both for that....
it's not easy to sustain and maintain a long distance relationship and at that length - so kudos to both of you
"10% of life is made up of what happens to you, 90% is decided by how you react"
"The way to love anything is to realize that it may be lost"
Hi Eagles,
He probably is just tired or in a bad mood at the time. I hope everything works out between you and your boyfriend.
Wow, five years... Congratulations and I hope you can be together soon.
Take care.xxx
When in doubt, mumble.
5 years is not too long,its a lot better than the speed-daters who meet someone online and instantly pledge eternal love,race off to pinas and are married or engaged within 6-9 months of first meeting
Hey,your having water problems in Davao this weekend due to the pipes being laid at Dumoy toril pumping station?
Sometimes you're flush and sometimes you're bust, and when you're up, it's never as good as it seems, and when you're down, you never think you'll be up again. But life goes on.
The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It's the passion that she shows to the outside world.
have to disagree with you tawi2, going to see someone twice a year for 3 or 4wks a year, for 5 years (and that's if your lucky, you can afford to and have the hols to) that's not what i would call much of a relationship, i've been there there, so for 48wks of the year your apart, getting on with your life, as i said before in your own little world, and wondering if being apart will ever end
I totally agree, on my second year now in LDR. It's getting frustrating cos it feels like forever before you can finally be together! You don't know where the relationship is headed.have to disagree with you tawi2, going to see someone twice a year for 3 or 4wks a year, for 5 years (and that's if your lucky, you can afford to and have the hols to) that's not what i would call much of a relationship, i've been there there, so for 48wks of the year your apart, getting on with your life, as i said before in your own little world, and wondering if being apart will ever end
My boyfriend is going to kill me when he finds out this is how I feel.
When in doubt, mumble.
We all have different speeds Joe,I guess some of us are slowits the opposite end of the scale to meeting someone online and proposing to them before they have a chance to draw breath,but I know from experience the ones who take their time are the ones that last
Sometimes you're flush and sometimes you're bust, and when you're up, it's never as good as it seems, and when you're down, you never think you'll be up again. But life goes on.
The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It's the passion that she shows to the outside world.
3+Yrs me and the misses were in a LDR was bad enough..
time and distance not good for any relationship, you get use to living your own life in your own worldCould just be a bad day, we all have them....one minute we can be up, the next minute down.
5 years is a long time, how many times has he been to visit you?thanks for the advices..Hi eagles, as what most here said already, maybe he just had a bad day.....
We all have bad days and get into a mood once in a while....due to outside factors most likely and nothing to do with you....
And yeah, 5 years of LDR is a bit long indeed but i commend you both for that....
it's not easy to sustain and maintain a long distance relationship and at that length - so kudos to both of you5 years is not too long,its a lot better than the speed-daters who meet someone online and instantly pledge eternal love,race off to pinas and are married or engaged within 6-9 months of first meeting
Hey,your having water problems in Davao this weekend due to the pipes being laid at Dumoy toril pumping station?
Five years isn't that long! My bf now my husband, we met on the 6th year!!!
A 5-year relationship is just fine, but a 5 year LONG DISTANCE relationship is another story............5 years is not too long,its a lot better than the speed-daters who meet someone online and instantly pledge eternal love,race off to pinas and are married or engaged within 6-9 months of first meeting
Personally, a maximum of 3 years for a long distance relationship is enough for me.....
But that's just me, just an opinion
"10% of life is made up of what happens to you, 90% is decided by how you react"
"The way to love anything is to realize that it may be lost"
Three years for me too. Ohh well, we can't rush guys though. So an extension of another year is ok, I guess.A 5-year relationship is just fine, but a 5 year LONG DISTANCE relationship is another story............
Personally, a maximum of 3 years for a long distance relationship is enough for me.....
But that's just me, just an opinion
When in doubt, mumble.
I know someone who is doing specialist work for IOM,World-Bank,EU and several other organisations,she has known a guy for five years,she is a pinay,they are both doing seperate things but both have trust and know where they are heading so no rush,its a couples choice I guess,as long as your both comfortable.
Sometimes you're flush and sometimes you're bust, and when you're up, it's never as good as it seems, and when you're down, you never think you'll be up again. But life goes on.
The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It's the passion that she shows to the outside world.
I agree, it's not advisable to rush guys into marriage thing,
it has to be something they decide on their own and by choice, not forced nor pressured upon....
And as tawi said, if you're comfortable with the set up, then it's fine
as long as you're open to each other and has a clear vision of where you're relationship is heading....
As time progress, so should your relationship too.....
"10% of life is made up of what happens to you, 90% is decided by how you react"
"The way to love anything is to realize that it may be lost"
That's cool!
We live together after 3 years of dating and chatting!
Sorry to hear that eagles. Five years is too looooong waiting. If you feel he's chatting with others, you can still give space for yourself to find Mr. Right. It depends on you on how long you can still wait.
When we first chat online, my hubby said "I Love you"
I replied and said come on big man! you're crazy! we need to know each other first before you get my YES
After few weeks he said I want to marry you
Few months later we met and I can't resist anymore
After we married, I had hard time to get my spouse visa.
So we need to chat online and I was the one who is always busy at my shop. I was always on invisible mode. I can see he's online but I ignore him sometimes if I'm so busy. Sometimes he sent me shock replies.
He said "I know you're there, I'm going to divorce you soon"
I know he just want to get my attention and later on we get on well.
Too hard if your other half is too busy and always tired at work like me.
Try to catch her attention if you think he's online. Give him ultimatum if it will works
Hi eagles,yesterday, i had a chat with my british boyfriend. He was pricky
5 years LDR !!!!!
Has he been over many times to visit you?
Does he love you, have you made plans to marry?
Be careful dear, he could be stringing you along.
How long can you wait?
Please do not fight about the internet and trust in each other. Usually it clouds over issues due to technical problems. Sometimes yahoo does not login properly to the Yahoo server. For example sometimes me and my mahal get upset because my little picture disappears. Connection problems and technical issues should not make the both of you fight about small things. In the end, fight about things that really matter, because this is a minor issue. I am upset about my mahal not telling me important things like she needs more nappies, cos she run out, because she talks about small idiotic things.But what is important to her, is not important to me.Which is why couples have differences. I try to smooth things out and concentrate on the baby,but I try to explain sometimes Yahoo is a pain in the ass. It is only a tool for talking.Nothing else. Good luck explaining it!
It's time to kick ass and chew bubble gum. And I'm all out of gum.
Hang on in there, my friend. Five years is a long time for ANY relationship ... let alone one conducted from opposite ends of the world ... and I can empathise with your frustration. But YOU have the right to know where things are heading, and HE in turn should be considerate of your feelings.yesterday, i had a chat with my british boyfriend. He was pricky
Maybe, as others have indicated, your boyfriend had simply been having an "off day" [it can happen to us all at times!]. Work problems perhaps? Whatever, I think it's best to clear the air between you (for BOTH your sakes) next time you talk. Explain to him how hurt you felt at the way your previous chat had ended. And, hopefully, he will prove to be more understanding than before.
Best Wishes to each of you.
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You're doing well today, Arthur.
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wow, the conversation here liven up my spirits.. BIG THANKS... I will take things slowly , discuss this over with him and see how this goes.. He came online and ask for an apology.
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