Going Public?

[Northerner]

I remember when me and my husband still on LDR I asked him how he announce to his family that he got a GF....he just said to his family I got a new GF and she's 6000 miles away. Well, of course they're all shock But he said to me, they can say anything they want but I can do what I want.

He even announce to their yearly family reunion that he got a new GF etc and showed my pics to them, so, when I arrived in UK and I have to attend their family reunion, they know me already.

Its unbelievable feeling when your special someone really proud of you

Oh, trust me. There is nothing not to be proud of when it comes to Rizza! I am just taking some things slow and with a little caution

I agree with you both
Listen to what your heart tells you northerner.....coz once your heart decide, there's no way anyone can keep you from this girl
and you will be fighting for her no matter what, regardless of what other people might say, even your family and friends....
Give it time and get to know her more and you'll find out if she's worth fighting for.....
but the way i see it, from your posts, she seems to be a great girl and a keeper.....

Oh I know what people are going to say... "How did a guy like that get a girl like her"! Joking aside, everything about her is amazing so far. She is a carer so wants to work helping people.. What is not to love about that? I once told my friend his wife was too nice as she had trained as a disabled childrens teacher...

Hi Northerner....a very interesting thread.

People being people, you are always going to face some prejudices...Funnily enough, I bumped into someone I know a little today. 'You still off to Thailand, how many bob did you have to pay for her'. He said

This is common & it's always going to come up, in some shape or form.
I actually feel bad, having to write the comment above, as I don't like the Filipinas on this forum, having to read such a thing.

My advice, just be proud....do things in life that make you happy!

I would start telling people of your relationship, now you are starting to get established with each other.

I told a close friend of mine first, a couple of weeks after we started talking online...Have to say he was fine & quite interested in the whole concept...I do remember telling him, that it's ok, but where's it all going to go???? At that time, I didn't know.

A few weeks later, I told my mum....She was a little bit confused by it....she couldn't quite get the concept of it?...knew nothing about webcams, knew nothing about the internet....She's fine with it all now.

In time, more friends found out & again they were ok with it...I'm not saying it's all been plain sailing with them, as there have been comments at times, but I think really, they were just being friends & were looking out for me.

A couple of months after meeting online, I told my sister.....it was christmas & I went to stay with her....I was nervous about telling her, she was a bit concerned, but only because she didn't want me to end up getting hurt....she's been very supportive since.

As for my brother, I can't remember when he found out, but considering he is going to be my best man, you can see he's fine with it.

I would be inclined to start telling people gently... not everyone, but if you go out with a mate for a drink or something, just slip it into the conversation.

If you leave it too long, it will become harder to do & if it's anything like my experience, most of it will be positive.

Just do it.

Ahh, gutsy my friend... But I suppose with Rizza, she would always come first and friends and family would just have to learn to accept that..