Going Public?

[Piamed]

I undertsand how she could feel hurt. I had no issues telling everyone where the woman i was dating came from. One black lady asked me why all the black men with a reasonable education and job tended to go for the trophy wife. I gave her a lecture about ignorance and the areas in which she might improve herself so that she would not remain single and never heard from her again.

Another foolish person remarked that i 'bought my wife'. I addressed that head on also. Others can think what they want as we are all liable tio stereotyping.

At the end of the day, I'm happy and folk can celebrate that with me or I do not need them in my life. No matter who they are.

If this girl is the one for you then you must be strong for you both. Good luck mate.

[Northerner]

I undertsand how she could feel hurt. I had no issues telling everyone where the woman i was dating came from. One black lady asked me why all the black men with a reasonable education and job tended to go for the trophy wife. I gave her a lecture about ignorance and the areas in which she might improve herself so that she would not remain single and never heard from her again.

Another foolish person remarked that i 'bought my wife'. I addressed that head on also. Others can think what they want as we are all liable tio stereotyping.

At the end of the day, I'm happy and folk can celebrate that with me or I do not need them in my life. No matter who they are.

If this girl is the one for you then you must be strong for you both. Good luck mate.

Thanks Piamed

I think I am already mentally prepared to face people and stand up for Rizza, my family are terrible for starting fights over petty things and there is no way I will allow them to go against me on this. If they are concerned I would understand, but they will allow me to live my life as I wish it.

If I spent the rest of my life avoiding risks - it would be a lonely one!

[Ji&Ma]

If I spent the rest of my life avoiding risks - it would be a lonely one!

Let me just add
...and very boring one....

[flomike]

I remember when me and my husband still on LDR I asked him how he announce to his family that he got a GF....he just said to his family I got a new GF and she's 6000 miles away. Well, of course they're all shock But he said to me, they can say anything they want but I can do what I want.

He even announce to their yearly family reunion that he got a new GF etc and showed my pics to them, so, when I arrived in UK and I have to attend their family reunion, they know me already.

Its unbelievable feeling when your special someone really proud of you

[bornatbirth]

[QUOTE=Piamed;158332]I undertsand how she could feel hurt. I had no issues telling everyone where the woman i was dating came from. One black lady asked me why all the black men with a reasonable education and job tended to go for the trophy wife. I gave her a lecture about ignorance and the areas in which she might improve herself so that she would not remain single and never heard from her again.

Another foolish person remarked that i 'bought my wife'. I addressed that head on also.
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im not sure getting into an argument with you is such a good idea

when i first met my wife i didnt tell anyone for what reason i dont know?,after a month of chatting online i went and met her in manila for just 5 days,a bit like speed dating but slower as it involved me flying there and back just to meet her!

our first night was a bit tense as we was both a little nervous and after the flight,i was also tired as i discovered that i cant sleep on planes!

after i got back we chatted online and my wife wanted us to be bf and gf

i have to admit after meeting her it felt so good,so i dont know why i had a problem telling anyone,i guess some of us think like this?

i had my next trip a couple of months later for 2 weeks and before this trip i told everyone i met her and i havent had any problems with anyone i know but if you do,just hit them head on?

your gf looks really nice,why dont you explain to her how you feel and after you meet you wont have any problems telling anyone about her!!

so goodluck!!

[Northerner]

Thanks everyone

I have explained everything to Rizza and I think she understands, I also sent her to the link of my profile on this forum so she can read up on my posts... And I encouraged her to consider joining as I am sure she will have questions from some of the ladies on here.

I'm really looking forward to flying out to the phils (2160 hours till cebu... such a geek) and I am sure we will both have a great time.

And when I return I will consider telling my family if I think it is time, besides I only see them once a month or so....

[Sophie]

Thanks everyone

I have explained everything to Rizza and I think she understands, I also sent her to the link of my profile on this forum so she can read up on my posts... And I encouraged her to consider joining as I am sure she will have questions from some of the ladies on here.

I'm really looking forward to flying out to the phils (2160 hours till cebu... such a geek) and I am sure we will both have a great time.

And when I return I will consider telling my family if I think it is time, besides I only see them once a month or so....

That's a great idea, let her join this forum so we can welcome her to the family
And have fun on your trip to the philippines in 2160 hours, lol

[Piamed]

[QUOTE=bornatbirth;158775][QUOTE=Piamed;158332]I undertsand how she could feel hurt. I had no issues telling everyone where the woman i was dating came from. One black lady asked me why all the black men with a reasonable education and job tended to go for the trophy wife. I gave her a lecture about ignorance and the areas in which she might improve herself so that she would not remain single and never heard from her again.

Another foolish person remarked that i 'bought my wife'. I addressed that head on also.

im not sure getting into an argument with you is such a good idea

I'm a softy n general, really! Only thing is don't mess with who I hold dear - I'm a fierce defender of those I care about! Grrrrr! Woof woof!!!!!