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    Quote Originally Posted by Northerner View Post
    I suppose I am just fishing for thoughts here. I personally plan to not reveal our relationship until I have been with her in the phils and can show some photographs of the two of us together. But even the thought of when and how is not a good thought! I think that no matter when I do this I will be facing some sort of derision from my family and some friends. So how did you guy's manage this?

    I also thought about leaving it until they meet her in person? But that would be if we went the distance and I got her into the UK on a fiancé visa, and is it too late by then?


    I asked my bf now my husband how he told his parents about me. He said, well they knew that we were penpals for quite some time, so after few years of correspondence, we then decided to meet each other in flesh and he told them: "Mum & Dad, I've booked my flights to the Philippines." BY THEN, they knew we were serious about our relationship. They did not oppose or anything (think they knew it would happen eventually)

    My husband is a very private person, he isn't that type who will "Kiss and tell" nor actively participates in chit-chats. So yeah, I think it helps when you keep it in private first, not telling anyone until you know it's for real. Also, the more people involved, the more they will "cricize". Less talk, less mistake as they said.

    Just enjoy things with your girl first, enjoy every minute of it. Visit her, have fun and experience the life in the PI, from there you know what to do NEXT.

    Good luck anyway! She seemed nice and yep, I admire her giving you sim cards.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Jay&Zobel View Post
    I asked my bf now my husband how he told his parents about me. He said, well they knew that we were penpals for quite some time, so after few years of correspondence, we then decided to meet each other in flesh and he told them: "Mum & Dad, I've booked my flights to the Philippines." BY THEN, they knew we were serious about our relationship. They did not oppose or anything (think they knew it would happen eventually)

    My husband is a very private person, he isn't that type who will "Kiss and tell" nor actively participates in chit-chats. So yeah, I think it helps when you keep it in private first, not telling anyone until you know it's for real. Also, the more people involved, the more they will "cricize". Less talk, less mistake as they said.
    I am also a pretty private person, especially around my family as I grew up and noticed how they always started fights over petty and trivial things. I learned long ago that my business was just that, my business! They never knew much about the women in my life as I lived on the other side of town from them, they learnt some gossip only when I was once spotted in the street with some girl. And that was how I liked it... I used to always joke that they will know about my love life when they meet my wife

    Quote Originally Posted by Jay&Zobel View Post
    Just enjoy things with your girl first, enjoy every minute of it. Visit her, have fun and experience the life in the PI, from there you know what to do NEXT.

    Good luck anyway! She seemed nice and yep, I admire her giving you sim cards.
    Thanks


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    Quote Originally Posted by Northerner View Post
    I am also a pretty private person, especially around my family as I grew up and noticed how they always started fights over petty and trivial things. I learned long ago that my business was just that, my business! They never knew much about the women in my life as I lived on the other side of town from them, they learnt some gossip only when I was once spotted in the street with some girl. And that was how I liked it... I used to always joke that they will know about my love life when they meet my wife

    Thanks

    But just make sure that you are NOT embarrassed of her. Make her feel that she is important and you don't think of her the same as the PREVIOUS girl. Anyway, you have learnt your lessons from the past and I'm sure you won't get fooled again, right?

    Take care & all the best!


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