Am i missing the point here?
In the email she sent you, it sounds like she is being realistically cautious.
She's waiting to make plans, until you meet properly in person.
From some of your other posts Pacific, I've been getting the impression it's you who is keen to marry quickly?
You haven't met yet...you need to spend time together, a good amount of time, before you make any plans.
Caution has always been advised on this forum, about sending money, to someone you haven't met in person.
