Am I being fooled???

[pacificelectric]

Frantic desire to get married ASAP

Yes, frantic. When I told her we should first go to the Embassy and apply for a Certificate of no Impediment and would have to wait several months for the response she was just distressed and wondered why we could not just marry when I walked off the plane. No kidding! This can be acceptable for a young Pinay but she is 50 and when she married first, that was with her college bf, and they dated 7 years before saying "I do"......

[Tawi2]

Pacific,your going to get ladies later telling you give her the benefit of the doubt.....Understand her.....etc.....etc....etc,you know why?Because they empathise more,Trader Dave is giving you wise counsel,no offence intended to Dave but I know he has been about a bit,he knows the score,no woman would be desperate to marry you without meeting unless...........Go into the kitchen,get your egg timer and turn it over,see the sands of time running out?Always be a bit wary,its like the sands at Morcambe Bay,it all looks the same to the inexperienced eye,but some will suck you under,some will be firm and support you,step back and examine the situation from a different angle

[trader dave]

Pacific,your going to get ladies later telling you give her the benefit of the doubt.....Understand her.....etc.....etc....etc,you know why?Because they empathise more,Trader Dave is giving you wise counsel,no offence intended to Dave but I know he has been about a bit,he knows the score,no woman would be desperate to marry you without meeting unless...........Go into the kitchen,get your egg timer and turn it over,see the sands of time running out?Always be a bit wary,its like the sands at Morcambe Bay,it all looks the same to the inexperienced eye,but some will suck you under,some will be firm and support you,step back and examine the situation from a different angle

thanks tawi you just put it a little more diplomaticly than me you have such a way with words

[Tawi2]

thanks tawi you just put it a little more diplomaticly than me you have such a way with words

Dave,we used to call it pussy-whipped,a guy would get involved with the first woman who flashed him a smile,its a waste of time saying avoid her because remember when your mum said "Dave dont do that" whats the first thing you did when she turned her back? Its always best to learn by experience,she is a cruel teacher but you never forget her lessons

[britishdetained]

Dave,we used to call it pussy-whipped,a guy would get involved with the first woman who flashed him a smile,its a waste of time saying avoid her because remember when your mum said "Dave dont do that" whats the first thing you did when she turned her back? Its always best to learn by experience,she is a cruel teacher but you never forget her lessons

i never learned my lesson then

[Tawi2]

9 times out of 10 I got my fingers burnt Pacific,dont take any of this as a personal critique,its just borne out by experiences down the line,we all have to jump into the pool and test the depth for ourselves,I was at the pearl Farm on Samal earlier this year,enjoy your holiday

[trader dave]

my wife now wants me to be so much in control of here life i find it unearving but if you understand her life before you would understand why she has never had the loving caring family upbringing she no relations no one has ever showed her any attention no one has ever cared


so now i am everything to her father figure ,husband ,lover the whole lot

which brings its own concerns but as far as material things go SHE ASKS FOR NOTHING and she never pushed to get married it was me who pushed because i could see a gem but i am a realist

[britishdetained]

Yes, frantic. When I told her we should first go to the Embassy and apply for a Certificate of no Impediment and would have to wait several months for the response she was just distressed and wondered why we could not just marry when I walked off the plane. No kidding! This can be acceptable for a young Pinay but she is 50 and when she married first, that was with her college bf, and they dated 7 years before saying "I do"......

Marriage is something you must plan well. No reason for a rush especially if not all the cards are laid on the table.

[Tawi2]

Marriage is something you must plan well. No reason for a rush especially if not all the cards are laid on the table.

Let me tell you something,you impress me more and more,Kevin has a good catchPacific,she panicked when you mentioned the delay in wedding plans because she thought the train was pulling out of the station and she hadnt got her ticket,pinas is a matriarchal society,its run by the women,even their president is a woman,BUT its the guys who pull the strings,your a guy,lay out your cards on the table,show her your hand then ask to see hers(check her sleeve,just in case she has an ace secreted away up there)Its not being chauvenistic,thats a concept that hasnt surfaced over there yet I have had relationships with a number of women over there from a number of different social backgrounds,they all wanted/expected me to take control,they actually told me that,your the one sitting in the drivers seat mate,most pinays wont burn their bras and shout for womens lib

[britishdetained]

]Let me tell you something,you impress me more and more,Kevin has a good catch[/B]Pacific,she panicked when you mentioned the delay in wedding plans because she thought the train was pulling out of the station and she hadnt got her ticket,pinas is a matriarchal society,its run by the women,even their president is a woman,BUT its the guys who pull the strings,your a guy,lay out your cards on the table,show her your hand then ask to see hers(check her sleeve,just in case she has an ace secreted away up there)Its not being chauvenistic,thats a concept that hasnt surfaced over there yet I have had relationships with a number of women over there from a number of different social backgrounds,they all wanted/expected me to take control,they actually told me that,your the one sitting in the drivers seat mate,most pinays wont burn their bras and shout for womens lib

I hope so...just trying to be honest with pacific

Remember this...you need to check out first the best shoes for you before you purchase it! Marriage is something that you must plan very well. Besides, it is her that you are marrying (if it can be) but her children should not be your burden (gosh they are old already..) Its shameful but true many pinays want white guy for MONEY. But remember your the guy...you must be in control of your life. Nobody must point a gun on your head to tell you WHAT SHE WANTS.

[Tawi2]

Well said Its normally deflowered disgraced virgins who are marched quickly down the aisle to avoid shame you have made several uncertain posts in the past,you have an underlying current of unease,something you feel isnt quite right but you cant quite put your finger on it,your the guy,the head of the household,you pay the bills,you make the arrangements,your the one who says green for go!But she certainly wants you putting a ring on her finger PDQ and thats got to set alarms ringing seeing as how you only met her scant months ago,lots of guys never meet their true soul-mate,they settle for an "almost" woman,she is almost perfect but they dont have many options so they take whats available,its always best to hold out a little,the world still turns,life still goes on but the planet is filled with women

[joebloggs]

married to the family, i think i'm married to the whole block


sounds to me she's embarrassed about asking you to help her kids out til they have left uni as you have not offered to help, or have you ??

so what do you want to happen to her kids (thou not really kids being 23, 19 and nearly 18) ?

maybe she wants them with her or you to help support the 2 younger ones ?

thou uni costs are not much compared to here.

[pacificelectric]

married to the family, i think i'm married to the whole block


sounds to me she's embarrassed about asking you to help her kids out til they have left uni as you have not offered to help, or have you ??

Last week I sent her 60.000 pesos to have age spots removed from her cheek with diamond laser peel by a dermatologist, so perhaps she thinks I print banknotes in the cellar......

I bet this is more less what she has in mind but she also is not sure how deep I have swallowed the bait so far. She is very smart and even if she claims she loves me with passion I am sure she has something in mind for her children.

[Jay&Zobel]

Pacific,your going to get ladies later telling you give her the benefit of the doubt.....Understand her.....etc.....etc....etc,you know why?Because they empathise more,

NOPE, not me... Haste makes waste and I believe in long courtship period hahaha Being courted and wooed is just awesome!

She has three children: one daughter aged 23, a licensed nurse recently graduated, a son aged 19 who is studying to be a chef and a daughter not even of legal age, due to be 18 in March 2010.

sounds to me she's embarrassed about asking you to help her kids out til they have left uni as you have not offered to help, or have you ??

so what do you want to happen to her kids (thou not really kids being 23, 19 and nearly 18) ?

maybe she wants them with her or you to help support the 2 younger ones ?

thou uni costs are not much compared to here.

Yep, that's what I thought too... If you will be married the soonest, the sooner she can fly with you & her nearly 18 child might come with her too? (as she isn't not yet in the legal age). Could be possible that they would want to be French citizens somehow. Or she's just expecting to send money to help support them...

But in a way, if you are going to marry someone who has kids already, you need to reall take some responsibilies for them...