Am I being fooled???

[Tawi2]

Well said Its normally deflowered disgraced virgins who are marched quickly down the aisle to avoid shame you have made several uncertain posts in the past,you have an underlying current of unease,something you feel isnt quite right but you cant quite put your finger on it,your the guy,the head of the household,you pay the bills,you make the arrangements,your the one who says green for go!But she certainly wants you putting a ring on her finger PDQ and thats got to set alarms ringing seeing as how you only met her scant months ago,lots of guys never meet their true soul-mate,they settle for an "almost" woman,she is almost perfect but they dont have many options so they take whats available,its always best to hold out a little,the world still turns,life still goes on but the planet is filled with women

[joebloggs]

married to the family, i think i'm married to the whole block


sounds to me she's embarrassed about asking you to help her kids out til they have left uni as you have not offered to help, or have you ??

so what do you want to happen to her kids (thou not really kids being 23, 19 and nearly 18) ?

maybe she wants them with her or you to help support the 2 younger ones ?

thou uni costs are not much compared to here.

[pacificelectric]

married to the family, i think i'm married to the whole block


sounds to me she's embarrassed about asking you to help her kids out til they have left uni as you have not offered to help, or have you ??

Last week I sent her 60.000 pesos to have age spots removed from her cheek with diamond laser peel by a dermatologist, so perhaps she thinks I print banknotes in the cellar......

I bet this is more less what she has in mind but she also is not sure how deep I have swallowed the bait so far. She is very smart and even if she claims she loves me with passion I am sure she has something in mind for her children.

[joebloggs]

Last week I sent her 60.000 pesos to have age spots removed from her cheek with diamond laser peel by a dermatologist, so perhaps she thinks I print banknotes in the cellar......

I bet this is more less what she has in mind but she also is not sure how deep I have swallowed the bait so far. She is very smart and even if she claims she loves me with passion I am sure she has something in mind for her children.

, just be thankful her kids didn't ask for it to

did she ask you to pay for the treatment or did you offer ?

i could write a book for the things i've paid for, from A to Z

[Tawi2]

Its a bit like a leaking tap,replace the washer and fix it when you first notice the drip,or the flow just gets faster and faster till its unstoppable

[pacificelectric]

, just be thankful her kids didn't ask for it to

did she ask you to pay for the treatment or did you offer ?

i could write a book for the things i've paid for, from A to Z

Actually I noticed she had these spots on a close up photo and in doubt I forwarded the photo to a friend of mine who is a dermatologist and her advice was that she should see a specialist and I offered the treatment in full knowledge and I am glad I did as the spots could have spread. I really cannot say she is taking advantage of me and lately I discovered she pawned things to pay invoices and she would not tell me as she felt shameful but with the issue of her children's future I feel like I have hit a very sensitive spot......

[joebloggs]

Actually I noticed she had these spots on a close up photo and in doubt I forwarded the photo to a friend of mine who is a dermatologist and her advice was that she should see a specialist and I offered the treatment in full knowledge and I am glad I did as the spots could have spread. I really cannot say she is taking advantage of me and lately I discovered she pawned things to pay invoices and she would not tell me as she felt shameful but with the issue of her children's future I feel like I have hit a very sensitive spot......

well then that's good you offered ,has she ever asked for large amounts of money of expensive things ?

i've got 2 step kids, thou they are a lot younger than your g/fs, from the start they were included in our plans b4 we married. looks like you've both have not agreed on this yet. maybe you should ask her what she truly wants for her kids. as i've said maybe she is embarrassed to ask you to help support her kids.. so maybe your not being fooled

[pacificelectric]

well then that's good you offered ,has she ever asked for large amounts of money of expensive things ?

i've got 2 step kids, thou they are a lot younger than your g/fs, from the start they were included in our plans b4 we married. looks like you've both have not agreed on this yet. maybe you should ask her what she truly wants for her kids. as i've said maybe she is embarrassed to ask you to help support her kids.. so maybe your not being fooled

She actually never asked for money, although she has made it clear from the start that as a widow with three children she needed to budget things but she never asked for anything.... and she showed me the invoice of the dermatologist on webcam!

[britishdetained]

Last week I sent her 60.000 pesos to have age spots removed from her cheek with diamond laser peel by a dermatologist, so perhaps she thinks I print banknotes in the cellar......

I bet this is more less what she has in mind but she also is not sure how deep I have swallowed the bait so far. She is very smart and even if she claims she loves me with passion I am sure she has something in mind for her children.

...just an advice, never show too much money nor pamper women with luxury. You will be loved not because on how much you can guve but because youre a wonderful person. remember this...women are born materialistic, but if they are tame then you'll see the real lady in her. Love is something you cant buy nor bribe with. You can be loved unconditionally without anything in return

[Matt7]

...just an advice, never show too much money nor pamper women with luxury. You will be loved not because on how much you can guve but because youre a wonderful person. remember this...women are born materialistic, but if they are tame then you'll see the real lady in her. Love is something you cant buy nor bribe with. You can be loved unconditionally without anything in return

Well said

[dontpushme]

Last week I sent her 60.000 pesos to have age spots removed from her cheek with diamond laser peel by a dermatologist, so perhaps she thinks I print banknotes in the cellar......

Are you serious? I have a friend who performs diamond peels for the wealthy in Makati (the business district in Metro Manila) and those don't cost half of what you sent! And your lady friend lives in Davao (a place where the cost of living is lower). I'm honestly shocked that you fell for this hook, line and sinker.

Guys, please don't fall of the sob stories you hear (e.g. pawning stuff off? and diamond peels aren't necessities). It's quite saddening to read so many posts from guys who feel that they're helping when in fact they're only making things worse by continuing the notion that those women have that white men have all the money in the world and that it's only fair to share that money with every Tina, Donna and Laura that "needed" it.

[britishdetained]

Are you serious? I have a friend who performs diamond peels for the wealthy in Makati (the business district in Metro Manila) and those don't cost half of what you sent! And your lady friend lives in Davao (a place where the cost of living is lower). I'm honestly shocked that you fell for this hook, line and sinker.

Guys, please don't fall of the sob stories you hear (e.g. pawning stuff off? and diamond peels aren't necessities). It's quite saddening to read so many posts from guys who feel that they're helping when in fact they're only making things worse by continuing the notion that those women have that white men have all the money in the world and that it's only fair to share that money with every Tina, Donna and Laura that "needed" it.

Agree to that, we mold the person who we want to be with

[Pepe n Pilar]

Last week I sent her 60.000 pesos to have age spots removed from her cheek with diamond laser peel by a dermatologist, so perhaps she thinks I print banknotes in the cellar......

Diamond peel costs between P5K-P10K. This is done on 3 or 5 sessions. The P60K is so much for that even if she bought the recommended facial treatments to maintain the smooth clear skin w/c is nearly P20K, still i find it too much.
So only age spots from her cheek was removed?... i can't tell how dark it is.... was it like a birthmark? Maybe the amount depends on how it is well rooted deep down the skin..... but P60K is too much!

[pacificelectric]

Diamond peel costs between P5K-P10K. This is done on 3 or 5 sessions. The P60K is so much for that even if she bought the recommended facial treatments to maintain the smooth skin w/c is nearly P20K, still i find it too much.
So only age spots from her cheek was removed?... i can't tell how dark it is.... was it like a birthmark? Maybe the amount depends on how it is well rooted deep down the skin..... but P60K is too much!

Actually she quoted 5 x Ps. 8.000 sessions plus creams and ointment for a total of Ps. 58.000......

[Pepe n Pilar]

Actually she quoted 5 x Ps. 8.000 sessions plus creams and ointment for a total of Ps. 58.000......

Did she send you her receipts? Maybe it depends who her dermatologist is.

[Tawi2]

Did she send you her receipts? Maybe it depends who her dermatologist is.

Hayden Kho

[Sophie]

Actually she quoted 5 x Ps. 8.000 sessions plus creams and ointment for a total of Ps. 58.000......

Personally, 58,000 is a bit too much quotation....
Diamond peel is nowhere near to that cost, even with facials and wart removal treatment
and including ointments, solutions and all the other maintenance products that go along with it......
I can tell, because i've been having one before, in my single days, before i even met my husband now....
And i'm having it done in a well known dermatology clinic in manila as i'm based there,
and it's a fact that the prices in manila (the city) is way way higher than the provinces, so 58k is quite high for that facial treatment......

But i'm not saying she is trying to fool you, maybe she spent the rest of the money for other important stuff as well as for her family.....
Give her the benefit of the doubt.....anyway, you're due to meet her soon,
so i guess that's the perfect time to clear things out and plan for the days ahead....
Make sure though, that you do that before you marry her, lol....
Everything has to be discussed in the open and agreed upon before you say "I do".....

[pacificelectric]

But i'm not saying she is trying to fool you, maybe she spent the rest of the money for other important stuff

She just told me over the phone she also bought black lingerie

So what? I don't have a pacemaker.....

[Florge]

Last week I sent her 60.000 pesos to have age spots removed from her cheek with diamond laser peel by a dermatologist, so perhaps she thinks I print banknotes in the cellar......

I bet this is more less what she has in mind but she also is not sure how deep I have swallowed the bait so far. She is very smart and even if she claims she loves me with passion I am sure she has something in mind for her children.

Php 60,000 for a diamond peel??? In Davao??? where did she have it done??? Diamond peels don't cost that much.. I should know.. I just had one... I don't know but I smell something not nice with this...

What's her name? I'll be going home to Davao next week.. you want me to check her out??

First mistake Pacific, you sent her money.. and I'm guessing you haven't met her yet? oh boy oh boy oh boy ... you are in for one hell (oops) of a surprise!

Trust your instincts (for men it's gut feel) boy... if it tells you to be extra cautious, then be extra cautious... if she hates for that, then she doesn't deserve your love... any woman who isn't for the MONEY would appreciate the fact that you are taking it easy with the relationship and not rushing into marriage.. just means that you are taking things seriously.

She's acting like she's 16... I can't wait to meet her!! I'm very serious in meeting her on my trip home.. Let me know.. I can ask people to "investigate" for me... hehehe...

[Jay&Zobel]

Pacific,your going to get ladies later telling you give her the benefit of the doubt.....Understand her.....etc.....etc....etc,you know why?Because they empathise more,

NOPE, not me... Haste makes waste and I believe in long courtship period hahaha Being courted and wooed is just awesome!

She has three children: one daughter aged 23, a licensed nurse recently graduated, a son aged 19 who is studying to be a chef and a daughter not even of legal age, due to be 18 in March 2010.

sounds to me she's embarrassed about asking you to help her kids out til they have left uni as you have not offered to help, or have you ??

so what do you want to happen to her kids (thou not really kids being 23, 19 and nearly 18) ?

maybe she wants them with her or you to help support the 2 younger ones ?

thou uni costs are not much compared to here.

Yep, that's what I thought too... If you will be married the soonest, the sooner she can fly with you & her nearly 18 child might come with her too? (as she isn't not yet in the legal age). Could be possible that they would want to be French citizens somehow. Or she's just expecting to send money to help support them...

But in a way, if you are going to marry someone who has kids already, you need to reall take some responsibilies for them...