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    Hi Pacific,

    I was following the thread and just now that I get to reply -- I am not that learned on Derma issues..

    Going back to your original question: I feel that your girlfriend is just finding it difficult to say to you that once you get married and you bring her to France, then you would obviously take the responsibilities of sending her children to school. This is an arrangement that two people should have prior to getting married, but a talk that preferably should take place over dinner and not via the internet. Family issues are serious issues for me, that I wouldn't also want to discuss via long emails. Perhaps, she is feeling awkward to discuss this when in fact you have not met personally, and she would no want to sound like she is just planning to mooch you.

    She's 50. In the Philippines, a woman of that age will feel that her market is not exactly as big as that of women on their 20's. For some, it's also a novelty having a foreign boyfriend or husband so she may be feeling that she's done really well considering her age. And this is possibly why there's a panic attack when you mentioned of your wedding delays -- she could be getting paranoid that she's done something wrong which puts you off, but not exactly because she wanted to rush and all that.
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    Quote Originally Posted by miss.piggy View Post

    She's 50. In the Philippines, a woman of that age will feel that her market is not exactly as big as that of women on their 20's. For some, it's also a novelty having a foreign boyfriend or husband so she may be feeling that she's done really well considering her age. And this is possibly why there's a panic attack when you mentioned of your wedding delays -- she could be getting paranoid that she's done something wrong which puts you off, but not exactly because she wanted to rush and all that.
    that's pretty true and she told me so, but at the same time it is not like she needs to rush things like for instance she wants children desperately with me and her obsessiveness about marriage ASAP is really putting me off -- not to mention the weird thing about her true dermatological expenses.


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    Quote Originally Posted by pacificelectric View Post
    that's pretty true and she told me so, but at the same time it is not like she needs to rush things like for instance she wants children desperately with me and her obsessiveness about marriage ASAP is really putting me off -- not to mention the weird thing about her true dermatological expenses.
    I honestly can't comment on the derma expenses as I've never had any derma treatments (hmm..that explains why ).

    I can only say that you are sharing this relationship with her. Thus, if you do not want to proceed into something like desperately having a child nor getting married, then you should be free to say so and discuss it with her. And have you told her that rushing into things like these put you off??? At the end of the day, this story is all about you and your girlfriend. You just have to make yourself clear, I believe. I personally would appreciate a man who has got a voice from the start than someone who would only make himself known after the wedding.
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    Quote Originally Posted by miss.piggy View Post
    I honestly can't comment on the derma expenses as I've never had any derma treatments (hmm..that explains why ).

    I can only say that you are sharing this relationship with her. Thus, if you do not want to proceed into something like desperately having a child nor getting married, then you should be free to say so and discuss it with her. And have you told her that rushing into things like these put you off??? At the end of the day, this story is all about you and your girlfriend. You just have to make yourself clear, I believe. I personally would appreciate a man who has got a voice from the start than someone who would only make himself known after the wedding.
    I guess you misunderstood me here. My point is that she does not need to rush into a marriage for the sake of having children like younger Pinays insofar as she already have children of her own and cannot have any more as she had tubal ligation after her third delivery. So why rush things so desperately while we can just take the time to know each other? We have been writing each other for 10 months and spoke over the phone a lot but does that mean we know each other well? In her long letter she stated that after this type of communication we already know each other between 60 and 80%. Personally, without any real face to face encounter, I would say 10% and still consider myself optimistic.


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    Apologies, I missed a few words when I read the post the first time ( thought she was rushing to have kids, as I can understand the clock is ticking, but anyways..).

    I think there is really no particular amount of time two persons should be writing to each other and calling one another on the phone to say they know each other full well. It will all depend on both of you - like how you really feel, etc. If you think it will be a massive gamble to go ahead with your planned wedding, then ofcourse I will suggest that you open that up and just go on with what you think is best. You can't be marrying your gf just because she wanted it or she said so. It takes two to tango. Ideally, you should be both comfortable when you finally decided to move forward and marry. And, there's nothing she can really do if you tell her that you would want to know her even better before you rush into tying the knot.
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    Quote Originally Posted by pacificelectric View Post
    I guess you misunderstood me here. My point is that she does not need to rush into a marriage for the sake of having children like younger Pinays insofar as she already have children of her own and cannot have any more as she had tubal ligation after her third delivery. So why rush things so desperately while we can just take the time to know each other? We have been writing each other for 10 months and spoke over the phone a lot but does that mean we know each other well? In her long letter she stated that after this type of communication we already know each other between 60 and 80%. Personally, without any real face to face encounter, I would say 10% and still consider myself optimistic.

    We can all on here give you advice we can investigate if you have been over charged

    i could say a lot more of why you did this and why you did that --- i am not going to

    at the end of the day YOU AND your lady have to sort it not usssssssss


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    Quote Originally Posted by pacificelectric View Post
    We have been writing each other for 10 months and spoke over the phone a lot but does that mean we know each other well? In her long letter she stated that after this type of communication we already know each other between 60 and 80%. Personally, without any real face to face encounter, I would say 10% and still consider myself optimistic.
    When you meet in person its like meeting all over again. When i meet my husband, then my boyfriend first time in person it was really strange. We chatted for more than 1 yr, before we met. I know many things about him but the guy in front of me was like stranger, so i cant imagine myself marrying him on his first visit.



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    I got rather confused explanations regarding price discrepancies but she promised to send a scan and I believe her..... she is also OK about not hurrying into a marriage. Aahh, women!!


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    I got the scan with the letterhead of Dr. karen Alabado and in fact it is a series of sessions of "photorejuvenation", Ps. 9.000 per session plus medicine and my gf got a discount on that... sounds pretty expensive of course but apparently it is more sophisticated than mere diamond peeling. Anyway now that I have the scan I just need to shut my big mouth and expect to find her pretty and young in September....


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    Quote Originally Posted by Tonet View Post
    When you meet in person its like meeting all over again. When i meet my husband, then my boyfriend first time in person it was really strange. We chatted for more than 1 yr, before we met. I know many things about him but the guy in front of me was like stranger, so i cant imagine myself marrying him on his first visit.
    A great post. The first day/holiday is very strange as this total stranger who you know very intimately is with you and yet you don't know them.
    Some things see very familiar and as expected other facets of the person for some reason seem new and unfamiliar.

    Do go with an open mind you don't really know one another yet this meeting is so important and crucial as you can imagine it will decide and define the whole relationship.
    Try and keep your eyes open and do make sure you do get some private time to talk (very very hard in Phill) in depth with eye contact.

    My Wife spent a fortune well by hers and her familys standards on beauty treatment before i first went and each time thereafter but then from what she tells me about the huge sums women spend in UK stores on beauty treatment,clothes and what have you for far more mundane reasons than meeting your potential husband for the first time.

    May i wish you both a pleasant time together
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    Is it Diana?if I was actually there I could get the exact payment she made to Dr Lee quite easily,I will certainly find out the cost of the cautserisations for you on Thrusday if you like,cant do it tommorrow,pinas closes down for the day for the funeral.



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    She wrote me and maintained Dr Lee had a "cheap" treatment at 6 sessions x 2,500 and the "expensive" one at 5 sessions x 8.000 plus the set of creams and tablets at 18.500. But this should also include treatment for prurigo. Anyway I sent her the money and do not expect it back of course and if she can get rid of her spots and skin problems I am happy about it but I still do not like being fooled.


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    A single treatment as of this morning was 1500 pesos No mention whatsoever of a deluxe version



    Sometimes you're flush and sometimes you're bust, and when you're up, it's never as good as it seems, and when you're down, you never think you'll be up again. But life goes on.
    The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It's the passion that she shows to the outside world.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Tawi2 View Post
    A single treatment as of this morning was 1500 pesos No mention whatsoever of a deluxe version
    Things may have changed since this morning.....


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    It was this morning here in UK,this afternoon in Dabaw Just before Dr Lee's closed If prices fluctuate that quickly it might be 4500 per session this time next week.



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    Quote Originally Posted by trader dave View Post
    TAWI AND FLORGE

    PRIVATE INVESTIGATORS GIVE US A CALL WE ARE ON THE BALL


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    Quote Originally Posted by Tawi2 View Post
    A single treatment as of this morning was 1500 pesos No mention whatsoever of a deluxe version
    Sounds like Standard Price or (Deluxe Version) Kano Price.


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