Very entrepreneural...i like that!Originally Posted by Tawi2
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in his school bag,he said he had bought the tablets when they were on holiday in Thailand and was going to sell them to his friends
Each generation has a totally different set of issues and problems on their road to adulthood
"The World is a book, and those who do not travel read only a page."
"Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great."
LOL, talking about always looking at the bright side, lolVery entrepreneural...i like that!
"10% of life is made up of what happens to you, 90% is decided by how you react"
"The way to love anything is to realize that it may be lost"
Honestly...im trying to be a good mum though same with you i have a different teenage life, never been involved into trouble ans always been a good daugther to my parents until i was 18 when my mum died and had left me being the one incharged of everything coz my dad is a ship captain...only few weeks in a year have to stay home with us. Then got my self to wrong group of friends and got married at the age of 18. I grew up in fear as my dad is very strict and had adopted what he learned from PMA. I then promised myself that what ever he did to us will not be the same with my children. But because I got a child atv 19 he then took her and never been allowed to tell my own daugther that i am her real mum only late last year he let me to have my daugther back. When she arrived at my house its bit uneasy to both of us as she never been with me al her life, same as with me as I never knew what she wants and what she like. Kevin and I tried to be good parents to her and things bit working until he was arrested and always blamed the shame of all this to us. She was traumatized when she had watched Kevin on the national television labelled as am illegal recruiter and never spoken to me since that night.Hi charlene, the most effective key really is not just to be her mom, but be her bestfriend as well....
i'm not yet a mom so i cannot give advise on a mother's point of view
but i can talk by experience, having been a teenager myself once....
I was really close to my oldest sister growing up, she's like my surrogate mom,
She pretty much guided me on what i should and should not do and what are the consequences of every action i make...
She taught me how to make the right choices in my life and never stumble on the bad ones and regret the consequences....
but she never forced anything on me, not even once....she gave me the free will to make up my mind and my own choices,
she trusted me and my judgement, knowing fully well that i took her advises at heart....
she established a trust, a bond and an open communication with me and i pretty much can open up and tell her just about anything, like a bestfriend..
and i know that no matter what, she will never judge me and that i can really trust her....
and most of all, she made me feel so loved and i felt so secure that whatever happens, she's the one i can run to and count on
and she will be the first person to pick me up if i fall and be there for me for comfort and understanding, if i fail and mess up.....
And it really workedas i pretty much have been a good girl growing up, in a sense that i never got involved in any rebelious activities....
nor party with friends and hang out with the wrong crowd in my teen years and even in my college days....
I never had a bf until i'm working already and mature enough to handle a relationship...
And i chose to follow everything she told me, because i know it's the right thing...
not because i'm afraid of her as i was never brought up in fear, but because i know how much she loves me
and i love her so much that i cannot afford to hurt her, disappoint her and break her heart....
coz i know, whatever mistakes i make and suffer, she will suffer just as much....
and whatever i do that will hurt me, she will be hurt just as much or even more...
and i just cannot bear that thought....knowing that she only wants nothing but the best for me,
so why should i mess it up when i know better already.....
So i can say, i pretty much lived a sheltered life and always "played it safe"...which others may find boring lol, but i definitely got no regrets...as i turned out ok, lol.....
she inculcated in me all the values i carry with me until now and molded me to be who i am....
My teenage years may be too safe and less fun and exciting, but it was all for the best...
and if i'll have a chance of a do-over, i will never do it any other way......
And this is exactly how i'm gonna raise my kids in the future
Being a teenager is a difficult period, it's a phase where you are trying to form and find your identity
and isn't it great to be with your daughter to witness and guide her well, in her transformation......
Maybe part of it was my fault as I never sit with her and explained what is happening. But all the time I am trying to be her friend, giving her freedom only that I really dont agree on going out at night and going to parties which is not being not informed to me. I didnt even believe in hitting as never been in that situation with my parents. But still inspite of all these seems things are still not enough. Like today, I tried to be a friend and even oncluded her in cooking but she is less interested at all and got very angry when i asked her to do some chores
I wish she would forgive me on what happened to her in the past and would understand my feelings towards going out at night. I am as well trying my hardest to understand her... I just hope her rebellious stage will be finished as I am afraid that my dad would take her away from me again
There once was a girl that believed in mankind, that there was still honor and chivalry that existed in everyone of us. She also believed that everyone deserves a chance to prove oneself individually and hoped that the courtesy would be returned. That girl is dead now, and all that is left is her shadow. To give one a chance to prove thyself is a chance for you to become dwindled in the dissappointment.
Just be more patient with her.....as you just said, you only reunited with her late last year and that's when she only found out you were actually her mother.....Honestly...im trying to be a good mum though same with you i have a different teenage life, never been involved into trouble ans always been a good daugther to my parents until i was 18 when my mum died and had left me being the one incharged of everything coz my dad is a ship captain...only few weeks in a year have to stay home with us. Then got my self to wrong group of friends and got married at the age of 18. I grew up in fear as my dad is very strict and had adopted what he learned from PMA. I then promised myself that what ever he did to us will not be the same with my children. But because I got a child atv 19 he then took her and never been allowed to tell my own daugther that i am her real mum only late last year he let me to have my daugther back. When she arrived at my house its bit uneasy to both of us as she never been with me al her life, same as with me as I never knew what she wants and what she like. Kevin and I tried to be good parents to her and things bit working until he was arrested and always blamed the shame of all this to us. She was traumatized when she had watched Kevin on the national television labelled as am illegal recruiter and never spoken to me since that night.
Maybe part of it was my fault as I never sit with her and explained what is happening. But all the time I am trying to be her friend, giving her freedom only that I really dont agree on going out at night and going to parties which is not being not informed to me. I didnt even believe in hitting as never been in that situation with my parents. But still inspite of all these seems things are still not enough. Like today, I tried to be a friend and even oncluded her in cooking but she is less interested at all and got very angry when i asked her to do some chores
I wish she would forgive me on what happened to her in the past and would understand my feelings towards going out at night. I am as well trying my hardest to understand her... I just hope her rebellious stage will be finished as I am afraid that my dad would take her away from me again
and to add up what just happened to your husband and all the mess you're family is going through now,
for a teenager like her, it's too much and a lot to take in, all at once....
She probably is still coping with the fact that the truth has been hidden from her and she might be feeling betrayed...
and with what's happening now to your husband and your family as a whole, she might be feeling more troubled and lost
and she might be finding outlet and ways to deal with her pain and confusion in the way she knows - turning to her friends and peers.....
And at her age, she definitely doesn't know any better....that's where you come in...
Be as patient and understanding as you can and assure her you love her so much and you never meant to hurt her or make things difficult for her....
I know it's too much work for you now, imagine having to juggle everything - your husband's situation, the case you are fighting in court,
the small kids you have to take care of and a difficult teenage daughter you have to deal with as well...
You are a very tough woman charlene, you are going through a very difficult situation and i cannot imagine how i'll deal with all of that if i were in your place now.....
It's more like "when it rains, it pours" as they say, but i'm sure you can do it....you have to, you are strong and you can take on anything.....
"10% of life is made up of what happens to you, 90% is decided by how you react"
"The way to love anything is to realize that it may be lost"
Just be more patient with her.....as you just said, you only reunited with her late last year and that's when she only found out you were actually her mother.....
and to add up what just happened to your husband and all the mess you're family is going through now,
for a teenager like her, it's too much and a lot to take in, all at once....
She probably is still coping with the fact that the truth has been hidden from her and she might be feeling betrayed...
and with what's happening now to your husband and your family as a whole, she might be feeling more troubled and lost
and she might be finding outlet and ways to deal with her pain and confusion in the way she knows - turning to her friends and peers.....
And at her age, she definitely doesn't know any better....that's where you come in...
Be as patient and understanding as you can and assure her you love her so much and you never meant to hurt her or make things difficult for her....
I know it's too much work for you now, imagine having to juggle everything - your husband's situation, the case you are fighting in court,
the small kids you have to take care of and a difficult teenage daughter you have to deal with as well...
You are a very tough woman charlene, you are going through a very difficult situation and i cannot imagine how i'll deal with all of that if i were in your place now.....
It's more like "when it rains, it pours" as they say, but i'm sure you can do it....you have to, you are strong and you can take on anything.....
thanks alot to all of you guys...im lucky as i have joined this forum as without me here maybe i become crazy as noone i can speak too nor share my problems. I know this is really so difficult at all. How i wish im with Kevin to share all this but cant tell him as he will just worry again. My sister spoke to me and they plan just to bring her to Dubai for a year while everything is still unclear with Kevin and the case. Im thankful that though i dont have money...my family has been very supportive even thankful to my yayas who never left us. I think I need to talk again to coullene tomorrow after her session with a child psychologist. If she think things are really too much for her...i will allow her to stay in Dubai with my sister (anyway all my sister are not yet married and no children yet). I dont know if this would be a good idea, but i pity her as well as I know she is not used of this kind of life and having many problems with the case, etc.
There once was a girl that believed in mankind, that there was still honor and chivalry that existed in everyone of us. She also believed that everyone deserves a chance to prove oneself individually and hoped that the courtesy would be returned. That girl is dead now, and all that is left is her shadow. To give one a chance to prove thyself is a chance for you to become dwindled in the dissappointment.
It might actually be good for her charlene, to get out of there and be in dubai with your sister for a while...thanks alot to all of you guys...
and just have some break and be away from the mess for the meantime until everything has been settled and sorted out....
At thesame time, you can focus on the case too, the earlier you get it over with, the better for all of you....
And you are lucky for having a very supportive family.....bless them
Don't worry, this will be all over soon and you will be with kevin and your whole family once more
and enjoying puerto galera again as you always wanted
"10% of life is made up of what happens to you, 90% is decided by how you react"
"The way to love anything is to realize that it may be lost"
It might be bad for her also though,one of the biggest factors in child psychology is that a child needs stability to grow into a well adjusted individual,if they are jumping from place to place,home to home,grandpa to mum to aunty
Sometimes you're flush and sometimes you're bust, and when you're up, it's never as good as it seems, and when you're down, you never think you'll be up again. But life goes on.
The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It's the passion that she shows to the outside world.
yeah i really think this is good for herIt might actually be good for her charlene, to get out of there and be in dubai with your sister for a while...
and just have some break and be away from the mess for the meantime until everything has been settled and sorted out....
At thesame time, you can focus on the case too, the earlier you get it over with, the better for all of you....
And you are lucky for having a very supportive family.....bless them
Don't worry, this will be all over soon and you will be with kevin and your whole family once more
and enjoying puerto galera again as you always wanted
Actually i will really take Kevin back to Puerto Galera after this case as im planning to get a property their after we get our money back again
There once was a girl that believed in mankind, that there was still honor and chivalry that existed in everyone of us. She also believed that everyone deserves a chance to prove oneself individually and hoped that the courtesy would be returned. That girl is dead now, and all that is left is her shadow. To give one a chance to prove thyself is a chance for you to become dwindled in the dissappointment.
reallyIt might be bad for her also though,one of the biggest factors in child psychology is that a child needs stability to grow into a well adjusted individual,if they are jumping from place to place,home to home,grandpa to mum to aunty
There once was a girl that believed in mankind, that there was still honor and chivalry that existed in everyone of us. She also believed that everyone deserves a chance to prove oneself individually and hoped that the courtesy would be returned. That girl is dead now, and all that is left is her shadow. To give one a chance to prove thyself is a chance for you to become dwindled in the dissappointment.
Stick her in a nunnerybecause thats not the way,she has been a bit adrift as a kid,she didnt even find out you were her biological mother till recently,what a shock to the system for a child,she doesnt know whether she is coming or going,her world was turned upside down,topsy-turvy
Sometimes you're flush and sometimes you're bust, and when you're up, it's never as good as it seems, and when you're down, you never think you'll be up again. But life goes on.
The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It's the passion that she shows to the outside world.
The current situation is not very conducive to do that....she is in the middle of the mess.....But sending her to Dubai is a bit drastic,she stays there for a year and returns to you even more distant than when she left,she needs bonding and understanding, Kids need understanding,love,closeness
Besides, she might also have some feeling of shame for what happened to her family - her stepdad getting imprisoned, and the case they're on now....
Some kids in school may be harsh and they have no understanding of what a falsely accused is, all they know is that her dad is imprisoned....
Best way i guess is to ask her if she wants to.....hear her out and find out what she prefers......and you take on from there....
Atleast for once, she will feel she has a choice and a say on this one - whether she stays here or go to dubai for a while....
"10% of life is made up of what happens to you, 90% is decided by how you react"
"The way to love anything is to realize that it may be lost"
Since i got pregnant with her-her dad was not allowed to go near me or he will be buried alive by my dadStick her in a nunneryShe likes Kevin actually as Kevin is like my dad spoils her, im the kuripot one and lil strict.
You know tawi2 its really difficult honestly...as im trying my hardest for her. Most of the time I blame myself as I been a good daughter but never been a good mum to her. But really im trying to be so close to her
There once was a girl that believed in mankind, that there was still honor and chivalry that existed in everyone of us. She also believed that everyone deserves a chance to prove oneself individually and hoped that the courtesy would be returned. That girl is dead now, and all that is left is her shadow. To give one a chance to prove thyself is a chance for you to become dwindled in the dissappointment.
yeah correct...honestly i transfered her to other school as she was really vey ashamed of what happened
There once was a girl that believed in mankind, that there was still honor and chivalry that existed in everyone of us. She also believed that everyone deserves a chance to prove oneself individually and hoped that the courtesy would be returned. That girl is dead now, and all that is left is her shadow. To give one a chance to prove thyself is a chance for you to become dwindled in the dissappointment.
You know tawi2 my life is really like a book with alot hell of chaptersIt might be bad for her also though,one of the biggest factors in child psychology is that a child needs stability to grow into a well adjusted individual,if they are jumping from place to place,home to home,grandpa to mum to aunty
Im 30 but just started being out of my fathers control when i met Kevin. Thats why even i still adjusting being on my own now. All my life I have followed what my father want. Stayed in other country so I will not be near Coullene...luckily i was found by Kevin when im totally lost. I thought before money can buy me happiness...but it isnt, what I got from my parents are useless as never been happy and settled before I met Kevin. I even fought for him as my dad at first didnt like him. Remember I told you he is a muslim and a control freak
There once was a girl that believed in mankind, that there was still honor and chivalry that existed in everyone of us. She also believed that everyone deserves a chance to prove oneself individually and hoped that the courtesy would be returned. That girl is dead now, and all that is left is her shadow. To give one a chance to prove thyself is a chance for you to become dwindled in the dissappointment.
Just as i thought.....yeah correct...honestly i transfered her to other school as she was really vey ashamed of what happened
she is to young to go through and deal with complicated situations like this.........
for adults, it's fine, as we can cope better and we are more emotionally equipped to take on circumstances like this.....
but for a young teenage girl, its a lot to handle....
so i guess its best to ask her what she wants....she probably wants to be away for a while.....
find out what she wants and decide from there.....
"10% of life is made up of what happens to you, 90% is decided by how you react"
"The way to love anything is to realize that it may be lost"
Ill talk to her tomorrow so ill know what she would like to happen
There once was a girl that believed in mankind, that there was still honor and chivalry that existed in everyone of us. She also believed that everyone deserves a chance to prove oneself individually and hoped that the courtesy would be returned. That girl is dead now, and all that is left is her shadow. To give one a chance to prove thyself is a chance for you to become dwindled in the dissappointment.
Always tell kids the truth,however harsh,remember the old rhyme "What a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive",her confusion will be compounded now as she believes her father is deadYou should write the script for a telenovela
Sometimes you're flush and sometimes you're bust, and when you're up, it's never as good as it seems, and when you're down, you never think you'll be up again. But life goes on.
The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It's the passion that she shows to the outside world.
Just make sure she doesn't feel that you are trying to get rid of her by planning to ship her off to dubai......Ill talk to her tomorrow so ill know what she would like to happen
Explain to her that you just wanted to spare her from an even more stress and anxiety
and the last thing you wanted is for her to go through more pain and trauma over the mess you are facing now........
And assure her that this will be over soon and you are trying your best to sort it all out
so you can all be together again, happy and back to normal as a family.....
"10% of life is made up of what happens to you, 90% is decided by how you react"
"The way to love anything is to realize that it may be lost"
thanks sooooo much sophie
There once was a girl that believed in mankind, that there was still honor and chivalry that existed in everyone of us. She also believed that everyone deserves a chance to prove oneself individually and hoped that the courtesy would be returned. That girl is dead now, and all that is left is her shadow. To give one a chance to prove thyself is a chance for you to become dwindled in the dissappointment.
I have a 14 yr old son who didn't have a good start in life. His father and I divorced when he has 4 and he was basically living in 2 homes.
Despite the bad start he turned out to be a well balanced, gentle person. When he was younger I made it a point that he knows that he can tell me everything. Apart from being his mum I was as he says now, his best friend. I never yelled or smacked him as a child. We have arguments now but it starts and ends with a conversation not a screaming match.
What I am a little afraid of is, our closeness.
He hardly hangs out with his mates, he is always at home! I so want him to have a life outside our home. Like tonight for instance he was invited by friends to go to an Indie night in our town hall. I told him to go but he said no, that it was dangerous out there with people being stabbed and arguments breaking out in town so late at night. My point is it is not late they go home at about 11. THe only time they are out is on Fridays when they go to the cinema, and he can't wait to go back home!
What is wrong with my son??
God grant me the serenity to accept the things i cannot change, the courage to change the things i can and the wisdom to hide the bodies of those people i had to kill because they pissed me off.
You are so lucky thenI have a 14 yr old son who didn't have a good start in life. His father and I divorced when he has 4 and he was basically living in 2 homes.
Despite the bad start he turned out to be a well balanced, gentle person. When he was younger I made it a point that he knows that he can tell me everything. Apart from being his mum I was as he says now, his best friend. I never yelled or smacked him as a child. We have arguments now but it starts and ends with a conversation not a screaming match.
What I am a little afraid of is, our closeness.
He hardly hangs out with his mates, he is always at home! I so want him to have a life outside our home. Like tonight for instance he was invited by friends to go to an Indie night in our town hall. I told him to go but he said no, that it was dangerous out there with people being stabbed and arguments breaking out in town so late at night. My point is it is not late they go home at about 11. THe only time they are out is on Fridays when they go to the cinema, and he can't wait to go back home!
What is wrong with my son??
There once was a girl that believed in mankind, that there was still honor and chivalry that existed in everyone of us. She also believed that everyone deserves a chance to prove oneself individually and hoped that the courtesy would be returned. That girl is dead now, and all that is left is her shadow. To give one a chance to prove thyself is a chance for you to become dwindled in the dissappointment.
My sons totally different the little
Sometimes you're flush and sometimes you're bust, and when you're up, it's never as good as it seems, and when you're down, you never think you'll be up again. But life goes on.
The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It's the passion that she shows to the outside world.
I want him to have a social life, I think it is my fault that he prefers it here at home. I kinda scared him about all the bad things that may happen at night
God grant me the serenity to accept the things i cannot change, the courage to change the things i can and the wisdom to hide the bodies of those people i had to kill because they pissed me off.
nothing to worry about him...maybe he still like being at home, my brother is the same thing he is 15 but no friends and stay at home playing with my children. you must be prud of him, maybe he would do socialisation later on.I want him to have a social life, I think it is my fault that he prefers it here at home. I kinda scared him about all the bad things that may happen at night
tawi2 is right nothing wrong with him
There once was a girl that believed in mankind, that there was still honor and chivalry that existed in everyone of us. She also believed that everyone deserves a chance to prove oneself individually and hoped that the courtesy would be returned. That girl is dead now, and all that is left is her shadow. To give one a chance to prove thyself is a chance for you to become dwindled in the dissappointment.
My nephew is mestizo,he is 16 now,he has had countless girlfriends if thats what you call a social lifeI want him to have a social life, I think it is my fault that he prefers it here at home. I kinda scared him about all the bad things that may happen at night
Sometimes you're flush and sometimes you're bust, and when you're up, it's never as good as it seems, and when you're down, you never think you'll be up again. But life goes on.
The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It's the passion that she shows to the outside world.
There is nothing wrong with your son!!!What is wrong with my son??
"The World is a book, and those who do not travel read only a page."
"Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great."
My nephew is mestizo,he is 16 now,he has had countless girlfriends if thats what you call a social life
God grant me the serenity to accept the things i cannot change, the courage to change the things i can and the wisdom to hide the bodies of those people i had to kill because they pissed me off.
See,if you insist on him going out at night your going to push him into the arms of another woman
Sometimes you're flush and sometimes you're bust, and when you're up, it's never as good as it seems, and when you're down, you never think you'll be up again. But life goes on.
The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It's the passion that she shows to the outside world.
There is nothing wrong with your son!!!
awwww, thank you guys, i was talking to my husband just now about my son, and he said that i have put him off having a social life..
and tawi2 i surprised him with kite surfin lessons for 3 days, he thoroughly enjoyed it... now we are off to buy a kite for him
and yes miss piggy he is sensible
God grant me the serenity to accept the things i cannot change, the courage to change the things i can and the wisdom to hide the bodies of those people i had to kill because they pissed me off.
so then just have him stay with you while he is not yet thinking about girls
There once was a girl that believed in mankind, that there was still honor and chivalry that existed in everyone of us. She also believed that everyone deserves a chance to prove oneself individually and hoped that the courtesy would be returned. That girl is dead now, and all that is left is her shadow. To give one a chance to prove thyself is a chance for you to become dwindled in the dissappointment.
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