I`ll try to answer some of the questions etc. I have an issue with ZOOM so I cant use it now. They say they delivered the money but didnt receive theirs from me, so I havent used it in months. I wish I knew of another cheap service like it.

2 doctors say that they are sure its not TB.(how they can be so sure I dont know being that they havent yet given her a TB test...but OK) I talked to the second doctor he says the X-ray shows a suspicious growth. Shes 19 years old.
She isnt in the hospital now, she got out day before yesterday. This doctor has suggested German Hospital in Cagayan de Oro for CT-scan and other tests.
So she has to travel to do that...
Its not that I dont trust my wife. Well I have known her over a year. The family I trust some what. But when it comes down to it, I also realize that I really dont know these people very well. Her older sister is playing an American guy on the internet. She mentions the child to him but doesnt mention the father still lives with her. The whole family knows whats up with that...nobody makes a fuss over it Ive noticed. She gets Western Union from the guy, I guess hes coming for a visit. Thats no big deal it seems, nobody is kicking her out of the house. Or the BF.
I first heard my wife was in a hospital by txt from her sister (my wife couldnt get thru to me on her phone at the time) but no hospital name, # etc. I had to txt her back to get that. Then i couldnt get an answer 615-640. Then when someone picked up it was 2 people doing the humpty hump, very clearly. They didnt say anything. It sounded live and not recorded, I dont know. I called back and no answer again for the next 45 minutes until someone picked up. Sounded like a hospital, I asked for my wife and the lady put her on the line. If I hadnt found the # of this place on the internet I never would have believed that it was really a hospital. Then next day she wants me to send her Western Union in her Dads name to get her out of there. I declined to do so, but as I say I want to try to help, but I want to deal directly with the hospital and not just send money in the amount the bill is relayed to me by phone or internet by them.
I will try calling to make arrangements with the next hospital beforehand but I can see I`m really out of my element in dealing with the Filipino medical system. In the US detaining someone for an unpaid medical bill is false imprisonment. A major crime and a major lawsuit too. I investigated it, its against the law there also, but not for private hospitals!
I`m really way out of my element here.
Thanks for everyone`s help